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My daily rituals of self-care

On By beYOUtiful by IzabelaIn Motivations and Inspirations, The True Identity, UncategorizedLeave a comment

I get asked more often what I do during my morning and evening routines. I get curious questions about what makes me feel grounded, rested, taken care of and recharged for my day to come. Many mysterious pictures of my ‘rituals’ on my social media platform bring more attention than ever.

What are the self-care practices of a busy and successful woman, and a life, love and spiritual coach?

Let me start by defining what actually self-care is. In my book “The True Identity” [publishing in Summer 2018] this is a big part of the process towards rediscovering your true potentials and authentic self. How come, some of you may ask?

Self-care is not limited to this what the modern world is assuming is enough and considered necessary. Massage, face mask, the visit to the spa or hot springs, haircut or manicure are some of the most practiced ones. How little of the actual self-care is that, though.

Self-care is the care of ‘self’, as the phrase says by itself.

The ‘self’ consists of the emotional, mental, spiritual and physical component.

Taking care of your physical body only is not enough for the well-being of the ‘self’. The new haircut won’t make you feel rested, recharged, beautiful inside and out and confident without the care of your self-talk, attitude, daily affirmations, thinking process, actions and connection to the higher ‘self’. There is much more into feeling nurtured and energized than a manicure. There is a way more beautiful way to feel worthy without an expensive weekend at the spa resort.

The total self-care must consist of the actions and practices towards nurturing all aspects of the person you are. Anybody of you can list right now plenty of things to do to take care of your physical body. However, what can you do to take care of your mental, emotional and spiritual ‘self’ today?

My rituals and routines

Every day, I start my day with washing my face with cold water, while giving myself a pep talk with plenty of positive affirmations and mantras. Then I prepare a tea and a water with apple cider. I drink them during my morning, as I don’t eat breakfast earlier than noon.  Sometimes I play some relaxing music during that process, sometimes I am in silence listening to birds outside.

Then I proceed to my sacred space, which is a little corner in my room, with my white meditation pillow, altar, and all magical tools. The space you want to create (altar, tools, pillow, candles, incense etc.) is purely personalized. You make your space and place the way you want. Don’t let anybody tell you what MUST be there and what not, it is your own calling, taste and creation of what you want to have in your sacred space. Make it cozy, comfortable and pretty. Use it as an expression of yourself.

I burn the candles and incense, I meditate (whatever style I feel like doing), and I do breathe work. There is no time limit for me unless I have other obligations to do afterward. But those don’t stop me from doing it at all or don’t make me rush as well. I set the intention each time to just be and to ground myself so I can go into a day and show up fully. That way the practice, no matter if it’s just 5 minutes or 30 minutes, is beautiful, relaxing, grounding and opening my mind and heart to whatever day brings.

After that I journal. I journal what my meditation brought up. I journal every day the gratitude, my blessings, and abundance.

I also draw the card from whatever card deck I am called to, either tarot or oracle cards. I love them and I have pretty big and beautiful collection of them. I play with them at any time I feel like. In the morning if I have a question, or I am concerned or wondering what to do that day. During the day when I want to have a little break between clients or activities, so they take my mind away from the worldly concerns and bring me back to the present, to the art they display or messages they show me. They are my personal tools to ground me and bring awareness to the beauty around.

 

During a day I make sure I have frequent breaks. I work with people, outside of the house and from the house so it could be very demanding to be on the go all the time and then not have a break. It may sound luxury and many of you will tell me that I am lucky having a possibility for a break. I created that myself, so you can do as well. I needed to because the hustle and constant work were bringing me closer to burn out rather than to being productive and loving what I do. I love my job and I want to show up fully energized and positive to it.

Breaks give me a little breather and benefit to recommit to myself and be more focused afterward. During my breaks, I can do some of the following: a little walk, water the plants in the garden, listen to motivational video or relaxing music, play with the tarot cards, get a snack, take a power nap, stretch, dance or text a friend.

Many times, I simply do nothing and I found that the best practice ever. I lay down on the floor and just stare at the ceiling. I don’t think and I am just breathing and being. I love this simple, free tool to reset! Try it yourself! It is extremely powerful!

 

In the evening my time is shorter, as I am more tired and I want to make sure I get 7 hours (or more) of sleep a night. I journal on how my day was, what and how I felt, on some realizations, some reflections and gratitude. I don’t start and finish a day without a gratitude. That is a big part of my routines.

Sometimes I have time to meditate, but if I don’t I simply reset by seating still and getting few deep breaths in and out. Many times, I do that in a bed too, finished by a simple “Thank you for today’s day”. That makes my day perfectly finished and beautiful, despite the circumstances.

In the evening there is time for me to read a book, though. Reading a book is a major part of my mental and personal development.

 

As you can see, all four aspects of the ‘self’ are being covered by my daily routines.

 

Anybody can do that, including YOURSELF! It is totally workable and doable. It may require some reorganization and arrangement around your day, shortening some activities or getting up 15 minutes earlier, but it is totally manageable.

 

If you would like to get some help with that, let me know. I help women with not only finding the sacred time for themselves but most importantly with finding who they truly are and what they actually want from life! Is it a boyfriend and husband, or a business, or maybe creating boundaries with their families? Whatever it is that you need to become the true and unlimited version of yourself, I can show you how!! Simply replay to this blog via comments or hit the email address below and connect with me.

izabelamch@gmail.com

 

You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

 

 

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What does self-discovery mean to you?

On By beYOUtiful by IzabelaIn Motivations and Inspirations, The True Identity, UncategorizedLeave a comment
[this entire text is an excerpt from my book “The True Identity” which is going to be released this Summer, 2018 – stay tuned here]

I would like to tell you that you are on the journey to the world of yourself every single day. It is a beautiful journey of self-discovery. The journey when you get to see what your true potential, power, strength, and identity is.

 

What does the self-discovery actually mean to you?

Have you thought of it for a minute?

 

Self-discovery to me is the realization of who I am and why I am.

It is the deep feeling of my own value, beauty, and worthiness without questioning it.

It is the moment when external approvals and validations are not needed anymore because all that I need I can give it to myself.

Self-discovery for me is reconnecting with deep roots of my being, with my Inner Child and all that she needs and feels.

It is the magical moment of being present, recognizing my body’s and soul’s desires and acting on them.

It is being in alignment, peace and flow with the nature of my true identity.

 

It sounds deep and very poetical. You may ask, do you truly believe that, Izabela? Is this just a metaphor or a real feeling? Who actually can achieve that state of mind, body, and soul?

 

My answer is clear, yes, I do believe in what I wrote. Moreover, I do believe even more that you truly can accomplish this state, too.

We choose every day what we want to do, how we want to act, and who we want to feel like. You can choose differently every day.

You can choose to feel peaceful, worthy and beautiful. You also can choose to feel tired, unworthy, and not enough.

You can totally go out to the world choosing to be confident and expensive or hide away from your true voice.

You can choose to be playful, joyful and happy that day, or miserable, disappointed and angry.

You can have fun with even the most unbearable task, choosing to act upon your intuition and self-trust, being in flow with your core values, what you want to create and how you want to feel. Or you can choose to drag it over days and weeks, make yourself sick and reject everyone around you, or block any ways to solve the problems by seeing the only negative outcome.

 

I could list the life scenarios like that over and over.

 

We all got the same life, the same time and the same free will and right to choose. It is a powerful tool which you are holding in your hands right now and every moment!

 

It is your choice every single day.

It is your choice to choose differently.

It is your choice to keep discovering yourself every day!

 

Your Mantras:

I can choose differently every day.

I choose happiness, joy, and playfulness.

I choose worthiness.

I chose to be confident and beautiful today.

I choose ____________.

 

[this entire text is an excerpt from my book “The True Identity” which is going to be released this Summer, 2018 – stay tuned here]

 

 

You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

Once upon a time…… – the childhood memories of mine!

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*** What made you happy when you were a kid? Find out and do that now. Seriously, go. Now.  ***

 

Someone recently said that whatever you were doing, effortlessly and joyfully, as a kid, that might be the clue to who you really are, who you want to be and what you truly want to do in your life. That could be your true passion!

Finding passion is not an active act of searching for, scrolling down million of pages, stalking others and copying the most successful person. Passion is something what you were born with, what you innately have within you and the only action you need to make now is to tap inside of you, listen and follow it.

But the question many of us have is how to do that?

My first response to that question is by simply giving yourself space and time to silence yourself, listen to that voice within you, feel and see what sparks you up.

 

However, to help you out little more, I would love to share this story with you.

 

As a kid, little Izabelka, I loved sacred moments, space and rituals. My mom told me that praying, going to the church, reading books and chanting them in the little corner in the bedroom, while kneeling and creating a little ritual around it was my thing. I could spend the entire afternoon by simply being with myself and spiritual beings. Whom I was talking or chanting to, nobody knows. What I was feeling and experiencing, nobody knows as well. Not even me. But I definitely loved it.

In meantime, I was a very responsible person of others and myself. I took good care of my younger siblings already at age of 3. I was quiet and peaceful. I was extremely kind and super helpful. I was serving others until I saw their happiness and smile. Because their smile was giving me the smile on my own face.

Since I remember, I lived my life by the saying ‘treat others as you want to be treated, love others as you want to be loved, be kind to others as you want to be kindly perceived, be honest as you want others to be trustworthy.’

I was extremely smart and humble. I was sensing others feelings and was very quickly ready to help them. I was an empath and sympathizer. The hurt, unfairness, and abuse to others were hurting my heart, too.

I loved flowers so much! I loved candles. I had my own altar, too.

 

The more I look at that Little Girl, the more I understand my life passion and purpose now.

There is nothing else more beautiful, magical and enlightening to me than helping others. There is nothing more nurturing than seeing others beautiful souls blooming and expanding. There is nothing more joyful than creating the world changes I want to see at every corner of this planet. There is nothing more aligned with me than being kind and loving to every human being, no matter the circumstances. There is nothing more freeing than loving people just the way they are. Because everyone is good at heart, and I always believed that. I always saw that in everybody’s eyes, no matter how dark they appeared at first.

There is nothing more lighting me up than the true, real, raw, vulnerable, and authentic self. The true identity of all of you. The one we innately have within.

 

This how I discovered who I really want to be, how do I want to live my life and what makes my soul feel at best. The feeling of being aligned with my highest purpose and myself.

 

Who did you want to be when you were a child?

How did that manifest in your adult life?

What did you dream of?

Did you follow your passion?

How does that look like to you now?

How would that look like if you were to follow it?

 

There is something truly magical happening when we tap into the childhood memories and connect with the Inner Child. There are so many answers there. There is the entire guide book there for us, accessible at any time and for free!

 

How do you feel now?

 

I love you, beautiful soul!

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤

 

 

 

 

Celebrating as an act of self-care and self-love

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When we think of CELEBRATION, the first thing coming up to our mind is the party for a friend or a family member who is at the important moment of their life or accomplished something amazing. We want to be with them to show them how proud of them and happy for them we are and cheer them on their path to the next level in their lives. Celebrations are always associated with joy, happiness, and fun, pride and accomplishment, success and breakthrough. That moments are always full of love, playfulness, lightness, creativity, laughter, amazement and beautiful things.

However, when I asked the question of what CELEBRATING YOURSELF means to you, there is a prolonged thinking, a break in the conversation, very curious eye expression and hesitation in the body. There is no straight answer, there is a missing answer or simply no answer at all. There is a difficulty in defining what that phrase could mean to that particular person or in general.

Why CELEBRATING YOURSELF creates so many doubts, hesitations and lack of ideas? Why is that actually something either weird or wrong? Why someone wouldn’t find time to do that for themselves?

 

“Every day should be a holiday to celebrate love.”

You celebrate others because you love them and want to show that love to them. You will find time to be for them no matter what, even if it is for just a while. You will shuffle things on your schedule to find a slot for the celebration of your friend and loved ones. You will be creative to find the perfect gift, prepare some food to share with others and dress nicely and festive. Would you do that? The answer is usually YES.

Do you love yourself?

Do you matter to yourself?

Are you worth some time of your schedule to get a break?

Would you like to get yourself a gift in any form?

Would you like to feel festive, loved, playful, joyful and creative?

The answer to those questions are the ones I would like you to give yourself today!

The simplest conclusion to help you out would be: You are love, you are loved and you are loveable. It is you who needs to see that the person you need to love the most is yourself. That person deserves celebration the same, or even more, as your friends deserve it, too. You matter to yourself the most and you should be the priority to yourself as well.

 

“I celebrate my accomplishments, no matter how small.”

“I celebrate my every tiny victory”

It is very important to understand the concept that celebration and appreciation start with tiny things in a daily life. It starts with being happy and joyful about the little victory, proud and festive about the little accomplishment, and playful and creative with the little achievements. It literally starts with being happy about choosing the smile in the morning rather than feeling miserable. It is to be celebrating the $5 gift card rather than wishing to have more money. It is about giving yourself space and time in the super busy schedule instead of projecting tiredness onto others.

It is your job to choose those little moments and things in your everyday life and create beautiful practices to celebrate them.

 

“The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate.” – Oprah Winfrey

The more you will celebrate those tiny things, the more of those tiny things will show up in your life. The more of those will show up, the more abundant and expanded your life will become. And then more will be to celebrate, Yeay! I touched on that topic more here. It is a simple, yet powerful concept to embrace and start utilizing.

“What you celebrate, expands.” – Danielle LaPorte

 

“Until further notice, celebrate everything.”

 “Toss some confetti in the air and celebrate.”

So today I invite you to create a list of things you could do to celebrate yourself. Write down, without much thinking, without any judgment and obstacles, all ideas which are coming up on how you could possibly celebrate yourself. What would you do for yourself to feel festive, proud, happy, joyful, rested, creative, accomplished, and light? What would spark your day? What would give you the feeling of accomplishment and motivate you to create more of it?

What I found out, many of you start with big things on the list like a day off, or a trip somewhere, or expensive clothes and then you get discouraged because you can’t do that, or it’s simply not possible. No. I ask you to create a list of small and joyful things such getting yourself flowers or candle, going for a midnight walk, getting the lunch by yourself while journaling. Whatever it is, make it pleasurable and manageable on a daily basis.

I give the six amazing ideas for every single of you to start using today in this video here. I went there with a really juicy content and you may want to listen till the end when I am giving the most beautiful, and brave at the same time, activity to celebrate yourself in the deepest way possible.

I encourage you to add some time to celebrate yourself because then that person who is YOU will feel very motivated, powerful and unlimited in creating of more in the life to be happy about, every single day!

 

You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

 

The forthcoming “TRUE IDENTITY” book will be released in Summer 2018.

The letter to my gift and my life purpose

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❤

Dear gift,

I haven’t had any clue for a long time what is my life purpose, what is my gift!

I haven’t had any idea why I am here.

So many times, I wanted to disappear and just leave this life.

But also, so many times I got back,

to the present moment,

to the awareness of my mission,

to the unknown life purpose,

to that, someone wanting or needing me to be.

 

The unclear mission, blurry life purpose, questionable gift, and the unknown path.

Asking so many times….

Why me? What for? What is there? Who am I? how do I do it? When is my time? What is it? Where should I be? How should I show up? How could I serve? How could I see that I am meant to be here?

Am I?

 

Today I sit and all I know is

that I am the one in seven billion,

that I am unique,

that there are nothing and nobody like me,

that I am loved, that I am supported,

that I do care about my soul,

that I do care about your soul.

 

Today I know there is a wonderland and wonderment where we all belong.

I know that my life wisdom, experiences, and lessons are my true gift, which is seen as soon as I stop hiding, putting the mask on and speak up.

That’s the moment when I feel I have a gift – the gift of a true identity seeker, uncovering something that was brutally kicked into the corner – myself and yourself!

My mission is to show every single woman that she is not who she is now, that she is not who she should be or other told her to be.

 

However, there is a danger warning here;

Once you uncover who you truly are, real things happen and huge changes are coming – the changes which are dangerous to everyone around you, especially those you were trying to please, make happy, or those who were trying to make you small.

 

My gift is to create the earthquake in your life,

My gift is to initiate the tsunami in your mind,

My gift is to extend the storm in your soul,

My gift is to ignite the fire in your heart,

My gift is to open the valve to flood your potentials with the unlimited energy.

 

My gift is to change the way you see, hear, smell, taste, feel and sense anything in your life, including yourself. Because I can see the person you are hiding behind.

And if I can see her, that means she exists!

That means she better come out for the highest good of this life, for the highest good of her life!

 

Dear gift,

Serve me well so I can create that explosion in every women’s hearts so they can become finally who they really are!!

 

Love you beYOUtiful ❤