Soul-inspired “habits”.

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I am a recovering addict from “personal development world”.

I have been in this ‘addiction’ for a few years so far. Definitely at the beginning, just like any addiction, it was fun, exotic, refreshing and oh gosh, how inspiring and opening the doors to a wider and broader, and even more adventurous, world!

However, the more I was getting swept into it, the more side-effects I could see.

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Don’t take me wrong. Every one of us is on the different level of personal growth and on a different page in our book called “Life”. I believe I wouldn’t be here without being ‘there’. I believe that we are in the place where we are because of the circumstances and experiences we lived through.

So today personal development and self-help have a totally different meaning & connotation to me than in the past.

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There is no universal ‘definition’ for those. You take it as you feel is right for you!

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For me, personal development got to the point where I felt rather restricted, limited and kind of paralyzed rather than actually growing. Some aspects made me cringe, others made me back off, so I started exploring. I knew there is something there for me to explore.

Why didn’t I feel inspired, empowered and growing anymore, as I used to?

Just like people ask me why don’t I workout obsessively, diet restrictively and live the fitness lifestyle I used to.

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I just simply outgrown all of that!

Here is my thing. The force, restrictions, rules, shoulds, expectations, resistance, obsession, push through, work hard, sleep less, and hustle just DO NOT work for me anymore. Artificial vision boards without actual feelings behind don’t mean anything to me. Wake up early, work late nights, don’t sleep – it is just a big no-no for me.

And that’s me!

Even though the definition of “development’ is: the process of developing or being developed; and the synonyms are: evolution, growth, maturing, expansion, or progress; I still prefer today to use the term “personal growth” or blossoming and blooming.

Today that self-work for me is oriented around how I want to feel while accomplishing my desires, what makes me feel lighten up, and how I can see and also create more abundance in my life.

  • It is about feeling in alignment with my values and priorities.
  • It is about feeling true with my actions.
  • It is being in peace with my decisions.
  • It is about knowing that ‘no’ is ‘no’ and ‘yes’ is ‘yes’.
  • It is about saying ‘hell yes’ when I am ready for.
  • And saying ’heck no’ to create healthy boundaries.
  • It is about being in a creative mode, without rush, rules or attachment.
  • It is about letting go of what doesn’t serve me.
  • It is about being in flow with my energies.
  • And it is about freaking rest, sleep and taking it at the pace which is right for me, not for the world.

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Today I would like to share with you the list of soul-inspired ‘habits’, ‘action steps’, or simple personal commitments to myself (whatever name you resonate with).

  • To have a pure, quiet, grounding and filled with gratitude time for myself and my soul in the morning and in the evening before bed.
  • To have a screen-free hour before bad to prepare my brain and body for the deserved deep rest.
  • To dance every day to move energies through and feel joyful.
  • To read and/or write poetry to feed my soul.
  • To walk to nature and connect with it in order to feel grounded and as a part of the Mother Earth.
  • To detox from social media at least a couple of days a week to create more space for my own thoughts, inspirations, inner voice, and emotions.
  • To have tea or kakao ritual to feel celebrated, acknowledged, and expensive.
  • To read a book and listen to the podcast which feed my heart, soul, and mind rather than make me fall into the comparison/anxiety trap.

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Those make me feel empowered, expensive, hopeful, grateful, passionate, and inspired. Those truly fill my wholeness with love, kindness, expansion, compassion and sacredness.

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What would be your soul-inspiring ‘action step’ you could set up for yourself?

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LOve ❤️❤️❤️

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YOU CAN WATCH MORE ABOUT THIS on my YouTube channel in the beYOUtiful episode #23!

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Do you know what it means to protect your energy?

** It means putting your experience, feelings, and happiness before others’ (which can be hard for people pleasers).

** It means being more aware of the relationships and dynamics in your life.
It means spending your time with those who respect your boundaries, time and self-care.

** It means spending your time with people who light you up, appreciate you, help you grow, and bring out the best in you.

** It means to nurture your wellbeing (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual) before others’.



“` If you have people in your life who are toxic, and you consistently feel depleted after spending time with them – set boundaries and stop sacrificing your energy and happiness for theirs.

“` If you are committed to the situations, events, and actions which drag you down and make you feel less than, set the boundaries, create the safe space and protect your happiness and energies!

—- If it feels good and calm on your soul and heart, it’s good for your energy. —-

—- If it’s depleting and dragging, it’s bad for your energy and you need to change or shift things ❤️ —-

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Let me share the story with you:

For the last couple of years, I have been experiencing and feeling more like introvert, an empath or highly sensitive person. For the person who used to be very outgoing, social and extroverted, that felt very uncomfortable at first. And it didn’t stop right away.

One day, one of my energy healer (for your info, I am supported today with the spiritual coach, energy healer and practitioner, naturopath, period and natural fertility coaches, and therapist) indicated that I need some protection.

‘Protection from what?’ – I asked.
‘Protection of your energies and aura from everything you are taking on’ – she replied

Then she went on explaining how being a highly sensitive person and empath and serving others, we tend to take lots of people’s energies, emotions and charge they carry onto us, without realizing that. Until we find ourselves in the emotional hole, where we feel depleted, tired, exhausted and even unmotivated or depressed.

It totally made sense to me!!!

I always was a sensitive person, who wanted to care for everyone. When I saw a homeless person, I cried. When I saw a poor person, I was giving all my lunch. When I saw a clean lady, I was the next day bringing my clothes for her kids. I truly cared and care a lot

And I truly take a lot on me, because I want to help…

…because I want this world to be better, kind, loving!

So after that, I started studying what being an empath and highly sensitive person means. And how I can protect myself as that person.

There are many tools out there, including books, blogs, videos and I am one of them sharing these with you today as well.

Today I use few tools. I do NOT use all of them at the same time, not even during the same day. I use what calls my name and what feels like it’s going to help me. I developed them, brought them into my life or adopted from others, just as I was connecting and working with myself.

Use your own body, heart, and intuition, and chose what YOU feel resonating with. Most importantly, use what makes you feel coming back home and being safe after you apply some of the tools you chose for self.

And I invite you to explore! Exploration and curiosity are the best companions to rediscovering our authentic welling and true identity.

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Tools I use:

Cord Cutting and Grounding practice.

This is the simplest practice which can be done ANYWHERE, even in public or in the car. It brings you back right to the spot where you are and disconnect from anything what affected your aura at that moment. Highly recommended!! I adopted that from my spiritual women’s coach Elizabeth DiAlto. She has that amazing practice on her website here: https://wildsoulmovement.com/energy-hygiene/

Meditation and Breathing practice.

This can be done within a couple of minutes to a longer time, as you need. Go with your own needs and feelings. If you need some silent moment when you breath deeply, do it. If you just want to do some breathing with minor stretches, do it. If it feels like guided meditation, go for it. If it feels like an hour silent sitting, do it too. Or maybe calming music with deep breathing and grounding. Whatever it feels like, it is your body which dictates how much of a help it needs. Listen to it and give it to it, It will thank you soon after!

Prayers, affirmations and mantras.

This can be used with your own preferences too. Prayers, I believe, are not limited to any religion or church. I believe that every time we surrender, ask for help and simply talk to the Highest Self, the Universe or any other animated energies of this world (use your own names, whichever resonate with you) – we pray. If praying makes you feel not comfortable, use affirmations and mantras when you need it. Talk to yourself in the most kind and compassionate way – imagine talking to a little kid in front of you!

Salt baths and showers.

After very draining day, when I truly feel depleted, I do salt bath or shower. For bath I use 2-4 cups of table or Himalayan salt. The Epsom salt is great for physical issues and muscle soreness, but not much energetical cleanse. When I take shower, I use sea salt soap (get some from truly a great organic source). I clean the palms of my hands and bottoms of my feet, as these are the entry and exit of so much energy, as well as the solar plexus area (between your breast and belly button) – this spot truly is a huge connector to all energetical things happening around us. This time could be also a great time to ground yourself by doing some breathing, maybe calming music or simply dancing. Whatever feels great for you!

Sage and Palo Santo cleanse.

I use these for clearing the space around me. It is a very ancient way of clearing the energy around us and within us. When I have time, these accompany other practices, to help cleanse what I cut cords with. As well as create the safe and energetically clean space for the rest of the time, for instance before calls with clients or creative work. It seriously can be done anywhere. You can purchase the sage or Palo Santo sprays and use those on-the-go. I love their smell and I use it every single time I have access too, which is.. daily!

The sage/Palo Santo I am using I get here: https://www.groveandgrotto.com/

Salt.

Yes, you read it right. Salt is the best element (crystal, rock) to use in any way to clear the space around and to protect yourself as you go with your day. Sprinkle the threshold of your home to prevent the negativity entering your home. Sprinkle corners of your rooms, your altar or put some under the meditation pillow. Put some into a little bag and place it in your car, purse or wallet. Use for baths, drinking water and washing hands. Yes, just like that!

Protection mojo bag.

Create your own mini bag to carry with you or have it in places where you get exposed to many different energies the most. Get some little black fabric (cotton or other natural preferable), and place there some salt crystals, smoky or clear quartz crystal, some bay and rosemary leaves, juniper berries, and sprinkle with rosemary or oregano essential oil. Use some black ribbon, wrap it up and there you have it, a great mini-protection tool for yourself!

The salt products, herbs, and crystals can be found: https://www.groveandgrotto.com/, http://www.herbsandarts.com/ & https://www.mountainroseherbs.com/

Essential oils and herbs.

I did plenty of studies to find out what herbs I could use to either burn in my caldron, or drink in my tea or simply place on my altar or in my mojo bag. I found that rosemary, bay leaves, juniper berries, cilantro, clove and oregano are the ones to use.

The same goes with essential oils (which I use either topically in coconut oil, as aromatherapy, or as spray dissolved with Witch Hazel tonic). The ones I am using are from doTerra (https://www.doterra.com/US/en/site/izabelachrobak1):

Birch, Cilantro, Clove, Rosemary, Vetiver, Myrrh, Frankincense, Lemongrass, Melaleuca;

and blends: Purify, Balance, and Past Tense.

I hope that this very compact and complete list of the tools for energetical cleansing and protection will serve you.

I hope that you will find something that resonated with you and can help you in the process of creating space which feels safe and at home, whenever you need it!

I am curious if you have some of your personal practices. I would love to hear about them!

Write it in your comment or DM on my Instagram @authenticwellbeing or in the private FB women’s space Authentic Wellbeing (join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/AuthenticWellbeing/).

Disclaimer: I am receiving commission only on essential oils (once the provided website is used), all other stores I deeply and honestly suggest due to the high quality of service and products (I personally use them frequently).

I talked about this in the beYOUtiful Show episode #19 🙂

Love ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

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The Moment

Just writing this here on Monday, in February 2019, to remember.

The morning when I woke up without alarm clock, on my own terms, after getting an amazing nine hours of full night sleep. I remember feeling rejuvenated, fresh and ready to embark on my day.

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The morning tea, which I made with a tint of gratitude for my own herbs, hot water and electricity to be able to make that water boiling. The smell of the mint tea, just like in my mini herbal garden, made me feel relaxed and excited to sip on it.

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The morning routine the bathroom, where while changing I could express deep and loving gratitude for my body. Knowing where I came from and how hateful I was towards that creation, made me extremely thankful today and put smile on my face.

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The natural, organic and herbal salve for my face, which smelled beautifully and made me content with how I am choosing my cosmetics for my precious skin and body. That moment made my soul happy, too.

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The journaling and tracking my body’s physical, emotional, mental and spiritual qualities and seeing the pattern associated with my natural cycle. Just knowing that all nature, and me being part of it, lives in cyclical pattern, was very empowering.

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The morning breath, pause and movement, which brought me back to my body and to a present moment soothing my anxieties and stress. There would always be stress out there, but I knew that I could tap into trust and awareness at any time, that I have a choice and I could make it into a wonderful day.

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The content creating for my newsletter and my audience, where I truly could write with a full expression of myself and my voice, bringing into life powerful message that you all could resonate with and feel that are enough and worthy. This has been sparking my life since some time and I was beyond happy to do that.

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The music which could ease out any tense sensations, giving the opportunity for my hips to shake and move in any way they wanted. Engaging with it brought my body relief I craved since this morning, and other mornings, too.

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The workshop lead by life-changing, empowering and the most authentic woman I ever met, which created the space filled with energies of safety, openness and full expression of oneself. I couldn’t be more appreciative to be a part of such a circle.

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The meditation practice, when I could cry and smile, feel expansion and contraction, or sense stress and relief. During moments like that I know what trust, surrender and release is. During moments like that I know what self-love, compassion and gentleness is. Just being in that feeling when hurt is hurt and joy is joy, without overanalyzing, or putting labels of ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Priceless.

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The silence where I could hear my thoughts, my heart pounding, and my deepest and rooted true authentic self. The silence so quiet that it could trigger others, but me. It put a gentle arm around me comforting me, soothing and nurturing my heart, enlightening my soul and bringing joy to my craving Inner Child.

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I want to remember that the more love and time and energy and attention and generosity and kindness I give to myself, the more those things are available to give to others. ❤️

It is safe for me to be ME!

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Where is this freaking self-love coming from?

How many times did you ask yourself that question?

I did at least a million times.

I saw all these beautiful posts, mantras, affirmations, illustrations, quotes, poems, books and posters, and all I did was nodding my head and repeating after them – ‘oh yes, yes, I know… yes, I love myself, yes, I care about myself’ – over and over again.

Oh gosh, how they didn’t resonate with me.

Oh gosh, how they didn’t sound familiar to me at all.

The more I immersed myself into it, the more frustrated I was getting.

What is all about that self-love?

How one can freaking actually love themselves?

It simply didn’t click at all.

I felt at times, like either my mind didn’t get it, or I did something wrong, or simply – self-love doesn’t exist. It was all blurry-type of marketing fame and that was it all.

I was actually right, at least with the first part of my statement. My mind didn’t get it because self-love is not mind’s job. Period!

Honestly, anytime my mind started spinning its chatter, I seriously needed to seat with it and make sure it shuts up so I could do my thing.

I was also right with the second part of my statement, that I was doing something wrong.

I was actually doing everything upside down, and all over again. I got myself in such a bundle of wires and knots that there was no way to see it through. I got to that point that I needed to scream loud to ask for help. I was doing all of it wrong, including self-help tools I intenden to use.

Self-love is the easiest thing ever if we let it be!!!

Self-love, as the name indicates, comes from within. WITHIN!

Read that again. From inside of you!

It doesn’t come from artificial affirmations which someonetold us to use, and you have no clue even how to embody them.

Self-love doesn’t come from a million self-care practices, amazing spa weekends and red roses.

Self-love doesn’t come from being needy and expecting others to make you happy. How unfair is that!

So where is it coming from, huh?

Here is my answer:

I was looking for self-love in money and a great job. And it didn’t show up. I was looking for it in validation, cuddles and external love from boyfriends and it didn’t show up either. I was looking for it even in the healthy lifestyle industry, by being fit, eating well, looking sexy, desired and admirable…. Well, it didn’t show up in there as well.

The more I was ‘looking’ for, the more I was discovering that it may actually not exists.

The beautiful self-love, that one I truly desired, and wanted to be a part of my life, was nowhere to be seen.

How did I want the self-love to show up in my life?

  • I wanted to be depression-free so I could have life purpose to get up every day.
  • I wanted to be suicidal-thoughts-free so I could appreciate the gift of life.
  • I wanted to be bulimia-free so I could be grateful for the body which did so much for me every day.
  • I wanted to be self-hatred-free so I could freaking finally love myself.

Purely. Unconditionally. Confidently. Authentically. Joyfully.

It came to me.

It came in a form I would have never expected.

Oh, how sad and mad, frustrated and angry, disappointed and upset I was.

And at the same time, how relieved I felt. How happy, truly, purely, authentically and joyfully happy!

It came in the form of the love from WITHIN.

❤ The moment when I cried feeling sadness, but I sat with it to understand why I was sad.

❤ The moment when I was alone with myself and stayed there to experience who I was.

❤ The moment when I joyfully danced and jumped in the park knowing that this made my heart smile.

❤ The moment when saying ‘NO’ was a blissful experience.

❤ The moment when I saw my depression as a cry of my soul to be loved and appreciated.

❤ The moment when the most important relationship I wanted to nurture was with myself first.

❤ The moment when my childhood abuse memories were coming back and I thanked them for showing up.

❤ The moment when I rebuild the connection with my Inner Child and saw her pain caused by me.

❤ The moment when looking at my naked body wasn’t filled with willingness to self-violate anymore.

❤ The moment when I was literally apologizing for every part of my body for abusing it for so long.

❤ The moment when I got my first period after over 15 years of faking it and getting rid of.

❤ The moment when I enjoyed being braless because I finally loved my femininity.

❤ The moment when I became a friend with my pain, weakness and mistakes – being grateful for their teachings.

❤ The moment when I literally could touch, smell and even taste my own blood knowing that this is freaking me.

And that will be me. Until I die.

Did I want to treat myself and my Inner Child in the abusive way as I was abused in my past?

Did I want to waste my body, my soul and heart because I didn’t see it as it ‘should be’?

No. Not anymore.

I understood.

That was me. That is me. Whole. Unique. Myself. With my ebbs and flows. With my vulnerabilities and superpowers. Enough. Loved. Joyful.

Me. My body, my cycle, my blood, my creative being!

Me. Naked. Dancing. Braless. Beautiful. Blissful. Sad and happy.

All of it and even more. ME.

This is a pure love I was longing for all my life!

It came to me!

And I was ready for her!

I want to express here the deepest gratitude that most of it wouldn’t be obtained without the help of amazing coaches and mentors I had on the path to rediscovering myself and ‘finding’that love which was truly always here, within. With some of them, I worked in person, being a part of their programs and tribes, and some of them impacted me very powerfully via their books, materials, podcasts and self-expression viadifferent platforms. 
Zlata Sushchik, Melinda Collins, Samantha Skelly, ElizabethDiAlto, Claire Baker, Danielle LaPorte, Gabby Bernstein, Red School with Alexandra Pope & Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer as the founders, Lisa Lister, and many more I haven’t listed, yet being so empowering on the journey to my own femininity.

You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

UNIVERSE IS A FUNKY PLACE

 

“Everything that happens in your life is the best possible thing that can happen to you”

– Chris Prentiss

 

  • Every single moment of your life is the moment YOU have a choice to make.

  • Every single moment of your life is the moment YOU desire and it’s given to you.

 

The question is, how do you want to receive it?

 

I am going to show you the THREE ways how to receive whatever is meant for you!

 

GRATITUDE

— If friends you invited for a dinner won’t say thank you, would you invite them again? —

Say thank you. Give thank you.

 

* First and foremost, appreciate Yourself. Be grateful for the life you live, for the world around you, for the loved ones, for the money and the house you have. However, be even more grateful for feelings and emotions. Be mindful of your inner voice and instincts.

* Appreciate your loved ones. Be amazed at small things such a smile, a gesture, and a hug. Be aware of the beauty around you in the other people’s eyes, in your spouse’s body language, in your kid’s smile.

* Appreciate your friends and co-workers. They are in your life for a reason, to create that beautiful life story of yours. Be mindful of what your life might have been without them.

* Appreciate the stranger. Discover the magic behind the THANK YOU expressed towards the person you just passed on the way to work or in the store. Be amazed by how that simple courtesy can impact that person and you in a positive way.

* Appreciate the Universe/God/Higher Power/Divine. Would you be who you are without all the moments and experiences in your life? Be understanding that expressing appreciation for what you already have will just give you more of it.

* Say and give THANK YOU to your life: moments, events, people, items and whatever else you are grateful for WITHOUT COMPARISONS TO OTHERS. That creates the powerful mindset you want to walk into your day with.

 

HOW TO DO THAT?

** write every morning and evening what are you grateful for – be honest and feel it!

** ask yourself why are you grateful for that – be honest!

** ask yourself what would you do to make someone else happy – be honest!

** ask yourself how could you contribute to tomorrow’s day to make it worthy – be honest!

** say THANK YOU to stranger, co-worker, friend, or loved one today!

** say THANK YOU to someone who you didn’t talk to for more than 6 months!

 

RESULTS:

As your day goes, by appreciating yourself, you will feel lighter, happier and encouraged to take upon any challenge you may face during a day.

As your day goes, by spreading the appreciation around you, you will experience more love, smiles, kindness, and help from other people.

 

 

LOVE

Self-love is different than self-care.

Sure, get yourself a nice haircut, manicure or buy yourself flowers. It makes your physical body feel loved.

However, practice self-love by making your soul and heart feel loved, too.

 

* Light the candle in a place where there are nothing and nobody except for yourself. Feel the silence. Feel your body. Feel your anxieties. Feel your happiness. Feel your inner voice.

* Just be, just listen.

* Is this moment making you feel uncomfortable? If yes, that’s great. Moments like that bring a lot of teachings.

* Your inner voice is sending you an important message. Is it because you feel pain, or maybe are miserable at work, or maybe it is the lack of love in your life, including from yourself? Whatever it is, be in that feeling.

* Marinate yourself in that feeling. Say them out loud, write them down, read them again.

* Cry if you feel like.

* Smile if you want.

* Dance if you desire so.

 

There are not bad or good emotions. They all mean something to us. They give us a cue of what is happening in our life, in our deepest soul.

Escaping from the emotions and signs your body is showing you will just extend the pain you are living in.

 

HOW TO DO THAT?

** mediate in the morning before you even grab the phone

** wake up earlier than others so you have a quiet moment for your inner voice to listen

** give yourself few minutes during the day to breath, to space out, to daydream, to escape from everything around you

** journal all your emotions, don’t feel ashamed or judged – it is you who you want to be comfortable with at first

** write the letter to yourself from the perspective of the inner women and inner you – be kind, loving, non-judgmental and critic-free

** be aware of all good things around you.

 

RESULTS:

The more you take care of yourself, the more love you are able to spread.

The more you love yourself, the more compassion is around you.

The more you respect yourself, the more kindness will be in your presence.

 

 

INTENTION

What are you choosing to focus on? How is that serving or hindering you?

Do you visualize your future as if it’s happening now?

Do you see yourself as a successful, happy, balanced and empowered woman?

 

The intentions are your thoughts, desires and inner voice towards the vision you place ourselves in! The way you see yourself walking, feeling, reacting, living and being in the future, that’s the way you will become.

 

* Is it that you want to be anxiety-free? – imagine that lightness!

* Is it that you want to be debt-free? – picture that financial freedom!

* Is it that you want to be loved? – feel that you are loved!

* Is it that you want to be respected? – act that way!

* Is it that you want to be successful? – live like a successful person!

* Is it that you want to be a great boss? – be a great person now!

 

Negative intentions will keep you limited, positive ones will move you forward.

 

HOW TO DO THAT?

** write a letter to yourself NOW from yourself THEN and read it every day!

** practice affirmations every single day by using I AM statement.

** believe in yourself truly!

** see in you the person you want to become!

** feel how it is going to be when you are that person you want to become.

** appreciate the wonderful person you are NOW!

 

RESULTS:

Manifest and create an image of where you want to be are your major vision.

You can see it, feel it, and be there! All your existence will work together with higher powers to get you there!

Your mind will focus on it by creating the opportunities.

Your soul will feel aligned and peaceful.

The Universe is sending any cues your way so you could become who you so deeply desire to be!

 

Be mindful of what you are asking for beYOUtiful😊

 

PROMPT: What resonated with you the most?

 
Check out that video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihGkwARehAQ&t=377s

 

[The teachings in this blog come from my book “The True Identity” – publishing early 2019]

 

The letter to my body

Dear Body,

I want to start with telling you how sorry I am for who I was to you throughout last 36 years of our life.

I am sorry for seeing you as a shame, not wanting to even look at you in the mirror.

I am sorry for seeing you as fat after giving you only a little salad or stuffing you with only coffee the whole day.

I am sorry for expecting you to not be swollen, itchy or yellow-skinned after feeding you with sugar loaded crap and processed food.

I am sorry for always wanting to exchange you for something better than you were.

I am sorry for putting you through the pain of constant starvation, dieting, and purging.

I am sorry for not recognizing how amazingly you worked for me every single day without any injuries and major health issues.

I am sorry for not being content with you even after the super heavy workout routine, which didn’t leave you happy at all.

I am sorry for being disgusted by you.

I am sorry for hurting you physically.

I am sorry for using you in ways I feel ashamed of now.

I am sorry for feeling only negative emotions towards you.

I am sorry for always seeing other bodies better than you.

I am sorry for crying as soon as I saw you naked, not happy about what I saw.

I am sorry that I made myself so unhappy in you.

I am sorry for hurting you so deeply despite the love you gave me since I was born.

I am sorry…

and these apologies are the hardest I have ever expressed.

 

However, the appreciation I have today for you is unlimited.

The promise I have for you today is going to change everything.

I always wanted to be loved! You loved me unconditionally all the time.

I never did.

 

The promise is that….

I love you and will always do!!!!

Don’t value yourself based on someone else’s price of themselves…

 
Would you be able to estimate the dollar amount value of yourself?

How much would you cost?

 

Are you saying that you are priceless?

Did I hear that well?

 

Let me take you through the evaluation process of how much you may cost.

  • Cleaning lady with additional request to do laundry
  • Baby-sitter with additional request to cook for kids
  • Personal cook
  • Personal entertaining person
  • Personal grocery shopping person
  • Car cleaning and vacuuming services
  • Landscaping company
  • Home-based teacher for kids’ homework
  • Personal chauffeur
  • Personal nurse and care giver

 

Did I forget anything?

I may. I forgot the energetic actions despite the tiredness, caring smile despite the frustration. I didn’t mention the nurturing love despite self-hate and nourishment despite lack of self-care.

 

Someone said, that if women were about to receive the exact pay for every job they do, they would be the richest individuals on this planet.

 

People will judge, evaluate, estimate and tell you that you are too much, or too expensive. Well, if that is the case, look back at them and ask them, how expensive do they feel right now? What value do they bring to your life, their life or the life of others? Are THEY expensive?

 

Inexpensive in somebody’s eyes may mean a huge treasure in others eyes.

 

Let me voice this:

I am speaking to you right now, yes YOU, beYOUtiful lady!!!

 

Stop underestimating yourself.  Stop hiding. Stop apologizing for your being. Don’t dress down to blend in. Don’t shut up when you know you need to speak up. Stop saying what you think people want to hear. Stop trying to be polite and please everyone.

The real rejection is the rejection of yourself.

Love and be honest. Love and be YOU. Own your wins. Own your successes. Own your power and energy. Own your beauty and attractiveness. Own your voice. Own yourself.

YOU are expensive and you deserve to be treated that way!

YOU MATTER!

With love,

Izabela

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#love #doLove

#magic #doMagic

#imatter #JustBe

 

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤

Admitting weakness is the strongest thing the human being can express

“The strongest leaders are brave enough to admit weakness.”

Do these words ring a bell?

Most people are afraid to show weakness or vulnerability to others. Leaders are often on the spotlight for never admitting weakness. They fear to lose their authority on their juniors. They fear to lose face or their sense of authority.

Would you reveal your vulnerabilities and blind spots to your juniors or employees? I bet not.

Is admitting weakness wrong? Absolutely not. But it truly takes tremendous effort to admit even a tinge of weakness. After all who wants to seem weak? We all wish to be viewed as strong and to be revered.

Admitting weakness is a sign of real strength, and it is often attractive. Don’t get me wrong. I didn’t say that you should expose your weakness to everyone. Your enemies could use your weakness to smash out your last dash of power. However, to the right people admitting weakness and seeking help could save your life.

Why is admitting weakness a sign of strength?

 

It helps to get rid of perfection and insecurities

Let’s be real for a moment. Do you view yourself as perfect? Do you view others as perfect? Does perfection exist at all? Every person experiences moments when they feel weak or uncertain about what will happen next.

After all no one is perfect. No one has all the answers.

Sometimes we think that people have it all figured out. We walk with our heads down and looking at others with longing eyes and wishing that we were in their place.

Tell you what? If everyone shared what they are going through deep inside their hearts, if they opened up about their insecurities and fears you’d be shocked. No one has it all figured it out. We all have doubts. Most people just have a mechanism either to fake it or control it. But 100% figured it all out, not at all.

You could be suicidal because you feel frustrated by situations in your life. By speaking to a loved one, a family member or a friend you could get help. Most people lose their lives because they fear to admit that they have a problem because they don’t want to be vulnerable.

In sharing weakness, you understand that you don’t need to be perfect. You learn about other people’s weaknesses and problems. As a result, you know that self-doubt is a common issue among the masses and is not excluded to you. You understand that every human being has moments of self-doubt, and that shouldn’t make you feel bad about yourself.

 

It builds trust and respect

Exposing your vulnerability can foster trust in relationships and business. In the absence of trust, no relationship or team can work out.

Employees trust leaders who seem human rather than emotionless perfect and with no fault. Successful teams are built on trust. And without vulnerability trust cannot be built.

Ponder on that for a moment. I bet you have friends. Who do you trust the most? Isn’t it the one you can share your vulnerabilities and little tidbits of weakness that you tend to be close to the most? Sharing weakness strengthens your bond in a very powerful way.

If you want to succeed in your relationships, business and life in general, you have to be willing to set aside your pride and the fear that you’re weak. If you can admit that you are weak, this is the real sign of strength.

When you accept that your weaknesses you gain the respect of those around you. Your juniors will give you respect, without demanding it, because you’ve earned it.

Acknowledge that you don’t have all the answers and that you don’t know everything. You’ll earn respect from your peers, your team and your juniors.

 

Admitting weakness not only makes you strong but it also makes you awesome!

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If you don’t care about your body where will you live?

More often than not we have an imbalance in our priorities list. We choose to focus on the less important things. Work is important, definitely; it pays our bills! But we bury ourselves in work 24/7 every day and neglect what powers us to move and have energy to do our work: our body.

What’s the point of working so hard to get money then use the same investment to pay for hefty medical bills?

The greatest investment we need is to invest in ourselves; body, mind and soul. Our daily lifestyle matters a lot.

 

Healthy eating

You are what you eat. You probably have heard that a million times. It may be cliché, but it’s true. However, most people don’t see the correlation of what we eat to our health.

Let’s delve a little bit. Our body is made up of trillions of cells. The cells need adequate nutrients to be healthy and to multiply. Take for example the flowers in your gardens. Do you water them every day with clean water? Or do you use dirty soapy water used to wash utensils? What would happen if you didn’t water them? What would happen if you grow them in clay soil compared to the regular soil that they grow better on?

Our bodies are no different. We need to eat healthy foods that nurture our cells and avoid highly processed foods that burden our bodies with toxic compounds. Cancer, diabetes, and hypertension are all caused by what we eat. Healthy foods like fruits and vegetables nourish our cells from damage, oxidative stress, and inflammation and prevent diseases.

Always remember that whatever you eat either fights disease or causes disease. If you eat healthily and take care of your body, you won’t need to pop pills to cure simple ailments. You won’t need supplements because our food can provide every nutrient that our body requires. Food is fuel for our body. Can a car move without fuel? Hell no! Just as our body without good food is an imminent danger. You can weather illness with food.

 

Stress and rest

Did you know that stress is the major contributor to lifestyle diseases like heart attack, stroke or hypertension? Doctors say that most people in the hospital are ailing from something deep inside that manifests in the form of illness; stress. Sometimes treatment only covers up the symptoms without addressing the real root of the problem.

Stress worsens our diet habits and our lifestyle choices. Stress lowers your immunity and puts you at risk of diseases. It overworks the body and impairs body functions that would prevent illness. Insulin resistance, inflammation, and hypertension can all be managed when we reduce our stress levels. How do you take care of your body and avoid stress?

While working, only take what you can handle. Learn to balance your work and rest so that the body can be rejuvenated. Take vacations to rest from the stressors in our lives. Have enough sleep every day.

There is no need to skip sleep so that you can work some more only to get admitted to the hospital for a month. That won’t make sense.

Create a balance. Set priorities. Choose to take care of your body. Learn to accept what you can’t control. Focus on what matters. That you are here now, matters. And if you’re still alive, you still have time to achieve your goals. Just take it one step at a time.

 

Exercise

Do you find time for exercise? Most people complain that they don’t have enough time to fix a workout schedule.

You need to readjust your priorities. That time you spend on social media every day, you can use to take walks, jog or run or go to the gym.

Exercise energizes you and keeps you healthy. You will be more productive and focused. Actually, that’s the only way to be successful in your work. If you skip exercise, you will be drowsy and tired every day.  You need to make smart decisions today.

What do you eat?

Do you exercise every day?

Are you prioritizing work over healthy eating and exercise?

Don’t sacrifice your body so that you achieve your goals faster. You can achieve all that you wanted but not have enough energy to celebrate it.

Think again. Remember that you can always change jobs, but never your body. You only have one body.

 

If you don’t take care of it, where will you live?

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Your Dreams are Your Lifeline. Don’t Ever Let Go !!!

“It is not true that people stop pursuing their dreams because they grow old, they grow old because they stop pursuing dreams.” – Gabriel Garcia Marquez.

 

Profound and sadly very true!

 

Think about it for one minute and take inventory of the many little and big dreams that you have piled up in your archives. Be honest with yourself and please try not to take into account the age factor. Let that sink in for a moment.

Now if you have realized any of your dreams or you’re living your dream to capacity or let’s say you are in the process of actualizing any of your dreams, hats off to you. Bravo and well done!!!

And this takes into account raising children, starting and running a business, participating in socially inclined projects, etc. Heck, you could even be a grandparent. Good for you. What about your dream of a sexy and fit body? Have you given up on that?

The truth is when you stop dreaming, a part of you stop living. Likewise, when you stop pursuing your dreams, you’re killing your spirit. And this is your inner power , your strength, the engine that keeps you going.

Believe it or not, this is a reality. Look around you, the world holds a lot of promise and how can you tap into this without dreaming or any imagination? It’s indeed impossible.

As Marquez coined it, and I paraphrase; the hopelessness that comes from not pursuing your dreams will cause you to age without a touch of how you are or what you can do.

Also, it is not only a disservice to you, but you’re in essence denying humanity access to a well of untapped resources.

Bear with me as I share with a few points on why you should keep pursuing your dreams, no matter your age:

 

Your Experiences are Your Paving Stones

You may already know this, but it serves as a good comparison so here goes: mature wine is usually expensive. Because it has passed through the process of aging well with time. Believe me, when I say this applies to the human race. Nothing or no one has the right to take away your experiences. Actually, it is virtually impossible.

Again, it’s  all up to you how you use this trove of treasure. Did you know as you grow older, you become irreplaceable with time? So how about pursuing your dreams, realizing them and adding more value to what’s already there? Still not convinced?

You must be a human being if you’re reading this. And if that is so, you’ve made mistakes, realized success and even tried some things that you put on hold probably to parent our kids or meet demands of your job.

Now is the time you can draw on your past experiences to build the future that you want. Look at this way; you have more time on your hands. And what’s worse than knowing you never attempted to follow your dreams.

No excuses. The worst case scenario is that you might not realize all your dreams but hey, at least you tried.

 

Critics and Naysayers

I stand to be corrected, but my gut feeling is that you’ve met many naysayers and critics in the past. It doesn’t really matter if these are real or imagined, but you did overcome them. Am I right so far?

Nothing has changed: apply the same formula. You can’t run a race by engaging in arguments with the crowd of spectators watching you do your run. No. Because it’s a waste of time, you lose focus, and you’ll most probably lose the race.

Let no opinions and critics stop you from pursuing your dreams. Don’t even dignify them by taking into account their negativity. Keep to your path, pursue your dreams and make sure at the end of it all you can smile and say, “Yes, I did it.”

Don’t let your candle die out with the misery of never knowing what your dreams held.

 

Your Strength Lies in Your mindset.

Let no one determine how far you can go or don’t limit your imagination. As I said earlier, it’s all up to you. You’re the one who has the blueprint of your dreams; it is time to execute them.  Add on to this the fact that there is no age limit on who can dream or pursue a dream. Here is a little secret: dreams have no expiry date not even age can hold them down.

A word of caution: you could be the ONLY enemy to the fruition of your dreams. You’ve come this far in life, climbed many mountains, crossed many seas and tramped through many-a-valley.

Listen, you are the best candidate to carry out your dreams, and this is beyond doubt. No one can live your dream for you neither can anyone kill your dreams unless you let them.

So, your body might not be as strong as it used to be… so what? The minute you’re born you begin to die, and that’s a fact. What you do in between is what matters. Therefore, for as long as there is breathe in you, use every living moment.

Free your mind, then follow where it leads.  And here is something to think about, you could even stun yourself by what you’re still capable of doing.

Even when it looks like everything is headed for the dog house. You have the ability to stop this from happening. Now you’re probably wondering how? Don’t worry, here is something you may not be aware of, there is so much power in encouraging yourself. Only you can do this perfectly. No one else.

The bottom line is it all starts with you. You are the architect of your dreams, so you know the leaks, strengths, gap and pillars of your building. Draw on your inner strength, no matter how bad it looks. Believe you me; it can only get better if you keep at it. Go on, pursue that dream.

In sum, your dreams are such a vital part of your existence. No matter what continue following your dream, it is the best you can do for yourself and for those around.

Furthermore, wouldn’t it be great to leave behind a legacy?

Think about it, those you leave behind will forever remember you. And isn’t that what most of us want?

So stop living like a statistic and pursue those dreams.

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YOU got this beYOUtiful!!!! ❤