UNIVERSE IS A FUNKY PLACE

 

“Everything that happens in your life is the best possible thing that can happen to you”

– Chris Prentiss

 

  • Every single moment of your life is the moment YOU have a choice to make.

  • Every single moment of your life is the moment YOU desire and it’s given to you.

 

The question is, how do you want to receive it?

 

I am going to show you the THREE ways how to receive whatever is meant for you!

 

GRATITUDE

— If friends you invited for a dinner won’t say thank you, would you invite them again? —

Say thank you. Give thank you.

 

* First and foremost, appreciate Yourself. Be grateful for the life you live, for the world around you, for the loved ones, for the money and the house you have. However, be even more grateful for feelings and emotions. Be mindful of your inner voice and instincts.

* Appreciate your loved ones. Be amazed at small things such a smile, a gesture, and a hug. Be aware of the beauty around you in the other people’s eyes, in your spouse’s body language, in your kid’s smile.

* Appreciate your friends and co-workers. They are in your life for a reason, to create that beautiful life story of yours. Be mindful of what your life might have been without them.

* Appreciate the stranger. Discover the magic behind the THANK YOU expressed towards the person you just passed on the way to work or in the store. Be amazed by how that simple courtesy can impact that person and you in a positive way.

* Appreciate the Universe/God/Higher Power/Divine. Would you be who you are without all the moments and experiences in your life? Be understanding that expressing appreciation for what you already have will just give you more of it.

* Say and give THANK YOU to your life: moments, events, people, items and whatever else you are grateful for WITHOUT COMPARISONS TO OTHERS. That creates the powerful mindset you want to walk into your day with.

 

HOW TO DO THAT?

** write every morning and evening what are you grateful for – be honest and feel it!

** ask yourself why are you grateful for that – be honest!

** ask yourself what would you do to make someone else happy – be honest!

** ask yourself how could you contribute to tomorrow’s day to make it worthy – be honest!

** say THANK YOU to stranger, co-worker, friend, or loved one today!

** say THANK YOU to someone who you didn’t talk to for more than 6 months!

 

RESULTS:

As your day goes, by appreciating yourself, you will feel lighter, happier and encouraged to take upon any challenge you may face during a day.

As your day goes, by spreading the appreciation around you, you will experience more love, smiles, kindness, and help from other people.

 

 

LOVE

Self-love is different than self-care.

Sure, get yourself a nice haircut, manicure or buy yourself flowers. It makes your physical body feel loved.

However, practice self-love by making your soul and heart feel loved, too.

 

* Light the candle in a place where there are nothing and nobody except for yourself. Feel the silence. Feel your body. Feel your anxieties. Feel your happiness. Feel your inner voice.

* Just be, just listen.

* Is this moment making you feel uncomfortable? If yes, that’s great. Moments like that bring a lot of teachings.

* Your inner voice is sending you an important message. Is it because you feel pain, or maybe are miserable at work, or maybe it is the lack of love in your life, including from yourself? Whatever it is, be in that feeling.

* Marinate yourself in that feeling. Say them out loud, write them down, read them again.

* Cry if you feel like.

* Smile if you want.

* Dance if you desire so.

 

There are not bad or good emotions. They all mean something to us. They give us a cue of what is happening in our life, in our deepest soul.

Escaping from the emotions and signs your body is showing you will just extend the pain you are living in.

 

HOW TO DO THAT?

** mediate in the morning before you even grab the phone

** wake up earlier than others so you have a quiet moment for your inner voice to listen

** give yourself few minutes during the day to breath, to space out, to daydream, to escape from everything around you

** journal all your emotions, don’t feel ashamed or judged – it is you who you want to be comfortable with at first

** write the letter to yourself from the perspective of the inner women and inner you – be kind, loving, non-judgmental and critic-free

** be aware of all good things around you.

 

RESULTS:

The more you take care of yourself, the more love you are able to spread.

The more you love yourself, the more compassion is around you.

The more you respect yourself, the more kindness will be in your presence.

 

 

INTENTION

What are you choosing to focus on? How is that serving or hindering you?

Do you visualize your future as if it’s happening now?

Do you see yourself as a successful, happy, balanced and empowered woman?

 

The intentions are your thoughts, desires and inner voice towards the vision you place ourselves in! The way you see yourself walking, feeling, reacting, living and being in the future, that’s the way you will become.

 

* Is it that you want to be anxiety-free? – imagine that lightness!

* Is it that you want to be debt-free? – picture that financial freedom!

* Is it that you want to be loved? – feel that you are loved!

* Is it that you want to be respected? – act that way!

* Is it that you want to be successful? – live like a successful person!

* Is it that you want to be a great boss? – be a great person now!

 

Negative intentions will keep you limited, positive ones will move you forward.

 

HOW TO DO THAT?

** write a letter to yourself NOW from yourself THEN and read it every day!

** practice affirmations every single day by using I AM statement.

** believe in yourself truly!

** see in you the person you want to become!

** feel how it is going to be when you are that person you want to become.

** appreciate the wonderful person you are NOW!

 

RESULTS:

Manifest and create an image of where you want to be are your major vision.

You can see it, feel it, and be there! All your existence will work together with higher powers to get you there!

Your mind will focus on it by creating the opportunities.

Your soul will feel aligned and peaceful.

The Universe is sending any cues your way so you could become who you so deeply desire to be!

 

Be mindful of what you are asking for beYOUtiful😊

 

PROMPT: What resonated with you the most?

 
Check out that video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihGkwARehAQ&t=377s

 

[The teachings in this blog come from my book “The True Identity” – publishing early 2019]

 

Advertisements

How to cleanse your soul through negative feelings?

My STRONG PERSONAL replay to the reaction on the post about being DOWN and MAD and SAD and HATEFUL….

 

“Do not think or act in a negative way because you are attracting negative energy”, “Be positive, everyone has problems so suck it up”, “you are beating yourself over it, don’t do that”. These expressions and others, and friends turning their back on you because you have a bad day and feel down so that means you are negative and NOBODY wants to be negative in this negative world on that negative social media timeline where everyone has problems and everyone is negative….

YOU KNOW WHAT? Take that “negative” word and put deep in the pocket and just stop seeing things as negative or positive, black or white!!!

My recent expression of being sad, mad, down and hateful towards myself brought up a lot of different responses from all my friends, dealing with sometimes extremely different life situations. YOU all have total right to feel that way, express yourself and BE YOURSELF.

Those reactions from others made me reflect a bit and now I want to tell you a little bit about it:

Yes, I was sad…. I was mad…. I was down and I was hateful towards myself. And I know I should be spreading love and smiles all day long every day, but THAT MORNING WASN’T FREAKING A GOOD MORNING!!! So what? THOSE WERE MY FEELINGS, and they were OK! I needed to express them out loud! I didn’t want to hold on them! I didn’t want to allow them to create my day, my attitude, my approach to other things which would follow after. And yes, I did want to changed them in a positive way into a positive outcome!!!

I KNEW ALL THESE THINGS!!! But, let me release it, let me be ME, allow to let those feelings go away…….

I am grateful for having those types of feelings, because they allowed me to learn how to recognize them, how to convert them in a positive way to create a great person, a great day and a great environment. I do love myself, I do believe in myself and I did forgive myself for that morning and for that moment of weakness and being down. I was just down!!!!

Hate is a strong word carrying lots of negative energy and I haven’t felt that for a long, long time. I was told by an amazing life coach to always love myself and forgive myself… but that didn’t happen that morning! Those strong emotions were deep inside of my soul…and whoever told me to stop and be kind and that my day will be bad because I am attracting the same emotions to me, was RIGHT…but somehow I couldn’t let go! I kept seeing those feelings as OK and at the same time as bad because “all my day will be bad” … and I didn’t want that….

As soon as I realized that, it popped out in my mind what another very powerful woman once said that negative feeling is OK!!!! OMG, are they really ok?

Yes, they are ok. WE ARE just HUMANS!!! We will have good days and bed days, we will feel happy, but we will also feel crappy. And that is OK!!! You as human being have right to feel bad, too. As soon as you recognize that feeling and you know that you don’t want to hold on them, it’s OK!!! Just do not let them create your world, your day, your attitude towards others and other things. It’s OK!!! I felt mad, and sad, I felt hate…it’s OK!!! I am just human! I forgive myself NOW!!!!

I promised myself that I will work around it and on it, but I will not promise myself it won’t happen again. Because I know negative feelings will happen, and I know those feelings are good, they are good in terms that they are cleaning whatever bad experiences and emotions accumulated in your body, mind, soul and heart. Just express them, let them be, recognize them, embrace them. Know, that they don’t belong to you. They are temporary. Let them sink in, do not fight them! Go back to your meditation, calming down habits and methods. Repeat: I WILL BE OK, I FORGIVE MYSELF!!!

PEOPLE ARE ALLOWED to sometimes be WEAK or make MISTAKES. And people are allowed to be different, it doesn’t make them “wrong” or “weird” …and even so…Yes, I can call myself weird, crazy, emotional, straightforward and to the point… and I can have bad feelings and down moment! That makes me just a better HUMAN because I know how to control them, how to work on them and how to make them work for me!

LESSON LEARNED: DO NOT go to bed with negative thoughts and negative mindset, do not go to face your day with negative thoughts and negative mindset. Take your time to shout out, cry out, calm down, journal, meditate, record your feelings, express your gratitude and self-love!!!

AND I am GRATEFUL for every single friend of mine who see me as perfect and imperfect person and they still love me, respect me, trust me, look up to me, appreciate me and be with me!!!

Its OK Izabelka !!

YOU got this beYOUtiful!!!! ❤

What we fear the most is what we need to do the most !

You probably know that the greatest enemy of productivity is procrastination. But have you ever thought deeper into the real cause of why we procrastinate? Is it laziness or mediocrity? I tend to believe that it is fear.

Fear is a very strong feeling that is caused by anxiety and anticipation of eminent danger, whether perceived or real. Although it is entirely natural, sometimes our fear is unrealistic and can hamper our achievements, say in public speaking or a job interview. Fear can affect how you enjoy life and can hold you back from doing things that you should do to improve your health or business.

Fear makes what we need to do seem like a daunting task. We fear that what we intend to do will not yield any results. We may call it fear of failure.

Take for instance you have gained weight, and you want to enroll in a fitness program, but you have left fear to halt you in your steps year in year out. You went to the doctor, and your blood sugar or high blood pressure keep soaring, but because fear has overwhelmed you, you have never taken action to get fit. Yet, taking that one step to enroll in a fitness program could save your life and reverse diabetes and hypertension.

What you fear most is actually what you need to do the most to salvage your situation. You could be in an abusive marriage, and you get battered every day. By speaking out, you could save your life. More so ignoring the fear to move out and starting a brand new life could give you renewed hope that life can get better rather than live with the fear of what people will say about your decision and die in the process.

So how do you break this fear? Is it even possible to completely be out of fear?

 

Understand what makes you afraid

What makes you afraid? Get to learn about the real cause of your fear. Identify the patterns and the triggers. You can record and keep a journal so that you understand it better. Doing this you will uncover the underlying problems that are behind your fear so that you can address it.

 

Face you fear and take action

If there’s anything that caps fear is action. If the step that you need to take is helpful and necessary, then take that step without hesitation. Don’t let an opportunity pass you by due to fear. Enroll in the course or program and let the rest follow.

Expose yourself to what you fear. For instance, if you fear to talk in front of a crowd, yet you need that to build your career, by all means, practice even if you have to fake it till you make it.

 

Get help

If your fear has gone overboard and derailed your growth, it is time to seek help from a counselor. Don’t fear to seek help.

Talking therapies and support groups where you meet and share with people who are experiencing the same can be therapeutic. You can also learn from their experiences, challenge each other and be accountable. You will discover that you are not alone as many people struggle with this.

While it’s perfectly normal to experience fear, we can control our attitude to it and still take the right step regardless of the fear. No one is immune to fear. Even musicians get engulfed with stage fright before they hit the stage, but they head out nonetheless.  Don’t let fear stop you from doing what you need to do.

 

Remember, success is on the other side of fear.

http://beyoutiful.fit

You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

There is no greater love than the love you have for yourself

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
“I love myself…I love You. I love You…. I love myself.” – RUMI

 

Everyone would agree that there are many ways to love. The love you have for your family is different than the love you have for your best friend or for a partner. The ways you love your pet or your favorite book are also different ways to look at love.

Loving yourself, however, is a totally different and more abstract feeling.

Have you ever tried asking someone if they love him or herself? Have you ever questioned how much you actually appreciate yourself?

Let me tell you Izabelka’s story. For most of her life, she had never heard the words, “I love you” from her parents or her siblings. It wasn’t until she moved out of her home and to the opposite end of the country that she started to feel that familial love strongly enough to finally start expressing it.

She slowly started to incorporate those words at the end of her letters or at the end of phone conversations.

Can you imagine how magical that little change was for her attitude? Now, every interaction with her parents or siblings ends with those powerful words.

For some people it takes time to be able to say those three little words. For many it’s a lifelong challenge, but it is so worth it! There are many ways to express your love as well.

In the amazing book The 5 Love Languages (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/), author Gary Chapman lists five different ways to express love to your partner and loved ones: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch. Knowing someone else’s love language is so important and powerful in creating a lasting relationship.

Expressing love for others, however, can sometimes be easier than loving yourself.

Izabelka always thought that love should be expressed by giving her time to others, being there when they needed her, and supporting them whenever and wherever they asked her to.

Not going to your favorite ballet show because your partner has bad day and you want to comfort him is a great sign that you love your boyfriend.

Skipping your workout because your sister is whining and needs your help right now is another sign of a love.

Eating and drinking things you don’t even like so your friends will accept you also shows how much you love them. Does that sound familiar?

Most of the time the things we give up most are our time, activities, hobbies, health and eventually ourselves. The real question is: Do you really think this is love? NO, it is not. The moment you are giving up your values, your rituals, your time and, most importantly, your peace, you are clearly abandoning yourself. It is important to stay true to yourself.

There is never an ideal way to love yourself without seeming arrogant or selfish to some people; however, it is necessary to create healthy boundaries to show others that you respect and value yourself first.

It is so powerful to recognize who you really are and what is important to you.

When you abandon your rituals that are important for self-love, it’s not real love. It’s not called a relationship anymore in this case either. It is not about one person giving up all they have for someone else.

That’s not what true love is.

If the people closest to us don’t want to grow with us, we shouldn’t be giving up our goals and what we strive for. We need to keep growing even if that may mean breaking up the relationship or friendship.

After Izabelka did a ton of work to learn self-love, she could confidently stand in front of the mirror and tell herself “I love you.” The emotions running through her heart, the excitement in her blood and the chills that gave her goosebumps were all totally new feelings for her.

That day was a huge breakthrough for her. It can be a huge turning point for anyone who recognizes how wonderful and unique he or she is in this big world.

As soon as you accept and appreciate yourself just the way you are, you will be able to accept and appreciate the world around you.

In life, we always give all we have. The more love you have for yourself, the more love you can give away while treating the people around you with gratitude. Because true love begins with YOU. Whatever you give, you will get it in return. ☺

How is your relationship with YOURSELF? Are you ready to start making changes and start loving yourself more and more every day?

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤

Izabela (aka Izabelka)

 

The Shadow of the Past

Meet Izabelka ☺

Izabelka always knew what she wanted to do with her life. She dreamt of exotic adventures, mysterious trips and adrenaline-filled expeditions to third-world countries.

Watching documentaries just pumped her heart up even more and brought those visions closer and closer.

She felt like she wanted to be a free soul forever.

As Izabelka grew, a more “adult” approach to life began to creep in and poison her soul. “You can’t do that. You won’t be able to do that. You need an education like everyone else. You need a 9-5 job like everyone else. You need a husband and kids to be happy…. You need to be exactly like EVERYONE ELSE!!!”

Izabelka soon became Izabela, a woman who fulfilled all of the requirements that the world had set up for her.

She was a good student, a good employee and a good wife. She achieved everything that adults in the “real world” were supposed to achieve.

In the eyes of everyone around Izabela, her life was so beautiful, but that was just on the outside.

In her most intimate and private moments, Izabela couldn’t look herself in the mirror. She couldn’t look into her own eyes and feel as happy and confident about her life as EVERYONE ELSE seemed to feel.

Deep in her heart, there was only one person on Earth who Izabela hated: HERSELF.

Why wasn’t she proud of herself? Why wasn’t she motivated and passionate about living her life? What crucial thing was missing that would allow her to accept and even applaud herself every day?

The moment you recognize that you are missing the most important piece of your life’s puzzle is a very empowering one.

It is the first step towards having better days.

It gives you a chance to stop and reflect.

It brings forth important questions that you have to answer right then and there: WHO AM I NOW? WHO AM I GOING TO BE SOON?

It takes enormous courage to stand up tall and forgive yourself and others for the past and to understand that you didn’t waste those years. In that time, you gained a lot of wisdom and experience.

They are what brought you here to this moment and to these questions. They are what made you become more aware of your needs, your inner strength, and your willpower. They challenged you to face your past, your fears and your dreams all at the same time.

Didn’t you dream big like Izabelka did? Well, Izabela can do the same NOW, too.

I want you to take your time and focus on these points towards your own life-changing transformation:

  • Imagine yourself as a child. Remember the younger and childlike version of yourself who wasn’t afraid to dream big.
  • Look at who you are now and try to bring those childhood dreams to today’s picture of yourself.
  • Tell yourself that you are the same person, and you can still dream big. Tell yourself that you can do or achieve anything.
  • Forgive yourself for letting that little girl be forgotten and make her a part of your life now.
  • Understand that the past belongs to the past and NOW belongs to NOW— you are in charge.
  • The “adult” world didn’t make YOU happy so stop trying to make the “adult” world happy!

You can do it!

You are capable!

You are enough!

 

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤

Izabela (aka Izabelka)