UNIVERSE IS A FUNKY PLACE

 

“Everything that happens in your life is the best possible thing that can happen to you”

– Chris Prentiss

 

  • Every single moment of your life is the moment YOU have a choice to make.

  • Every single moment of your life is the moment YOU desire and it’s given to you.

 

The question is, how do you want to receive it?

 

I am going to show you the THREE ways how to receive whatever is meant for you!

 

GRATITUDE

— If friends you invited for a dinner won’t say thank you, would you invite them again? —

Say thank you. Give thank you.

 

* First and foremost, appreciate Yourself. Be grateful for the life you live, for the world around you, for the loved ones, for the money and the house you have. However, be even more grateful for feelings and emotions. Be mindful of your inner voice and instincts.

* Appreciate your loved ones. Be amazed at small things such a smile, a gesture, and a hug. Be aware of the beauty around you in the other people’s eyes, in your spouse’s body language, in your kid’s smile.

* Appreciate your friends and co-workers. They are in your life for a reason, to create that beautiful life story of yours. Be mindful of what your life might have been without them.

* Appreciate the stranger. Discover the magic behind the THANK YOU expressed towards the person you just passed on the way to work or in the store. Be amazed by how that simple courtesy can impact that person and you in a positive way.

* Appreciate the Universe/God/Higher Power/Divine. Would you be who you are without all the moments and experiences in your life? Be understanding that expressing appreciation for what you already have will just give you more of it.

* Say and give THANK YOU to your life: moments, events, people, items and whatever else you are grateful for WITHOUT COMPARISONS TO OTHERS. That creates the powerful mindset you want to walk into your day with.

 

HOW TO DO THAT?

** write every morning and evening what are you grateful for – be honest and feel it!

** ask yourself why are you grateful for that – be honest!

** ask yourself what would you do to make someone else happy – be honest!

** ask yourself how could you contribute to tomorrow’s day to make it worthy – be honest!

** say THANK YOU to stranger, co-worker, friend, or loved one today!

** say THANK YOU to someone who you didn’t talk to for more than 6 months!

 

RESULTS:

As your day goes, by appreciating yourself, you will feel lighter, happier and encouraged to take upon any challenge you may face during a day.

As your day goes, by spreading the appreciation around you, you will experience more love, smiles, kindness, and help from other people.

 

 

LOVE

Self-love is different than self-care.

Sure, get yourself a nice haircut, manicure or buy yourself flowers. It makes your physical body feel loved.

However, practice self-love by making your soul and heart feel loved, too.

 

* Light the candle in a place where there are nothing and nobody except for yourself. Feel the silence. Feel your body. Feel your anxieties. Feel your happiness. Feel your inner voice.

* Just be, just listen.

* Is this moment making you feel uncomfortable? If yes, that’s great. Moments like that bring a lot of teachings.

* Your inner voice is sending you an important message. Is it because you feel pain, or maybe are miserable at work, or maybe it is the lack of love in your life, including from yourself? Whatever it is, be in that feeling.

* Marinate yourself in that feeling. Say them out loud, write them down, read them again.

* Cry if you feel like.

* Smile if you want.

* Dance if you desire so.

 

There are not bad or good emotions. They all mean something to us. They give us a cue of what is happening in our life, in our deepest soul.

Escaping from the emotions and signs your body is showing you will just extend the pain you are living in.

 

HOW TO DO THAT?

** mediate in the morning before you even grab the phone

** wake up earlier than others so you have a quiet moment for your inner voice to listen

** give yourself few minutes during the day to breath, to space out, to daydream, to escape from everything around you

** journal all your emotions, don’t feel ashamed or judged – it is you who you want to be comfortable with at first

** write the letter to yourself from the perspective of the inner women and inner you – be kind, loving, non-judgmental and critic-free

** be aware of all good things around you.

 

RESULTS:

The more you take care of yourself, the more love you are able to spread.

The more you love yourself, the more compassion is around you.

The more you respect yourself, the more kindness will be in your presence.

 

 

INTENTION

What are you choosing to focus on? How is that serving or hindering you?

Do you visualize your future as if it’s happening now?

Do you see yourself as a successful, happy, balanced and empowered woman?

 

The intentions are your thoughts, desires and inner voice towards the vision you place ourselves in! The way you see yourself walking, feeling, reacting, living and being in the future, that’s the way you will become.

 

* Is it that you want to be anxiety-free? – imagine that lightness!

* Is it that you want to be debt-free? – picture that financial freedom!

* Is it that you want to be loved? – feel that you are loved!

* Is it that you want to be respected? – act that way!

* Is it that you want to be successful? – live like a successful person!

* Is it that you want to be a great boss? – be a great person now!

 

Negative intentions will keep you limited, positive ones will move you forward.

 

HOW TO DO THAT?

** write a letter to yourself NOW from yourself THEN and read it every day!

** practice affirmations every single day by using I AM statement.

** believe in yourself truly!

** see in you the person you want to become!

** feel how it is going to be when you are that person you want to become.

** appreciate the wonderful person you are NOW!

 

RESULTS:

Manifest and create an image of where you want to be are your major vision.

You can see it, feel it, and be there! All your existence will work together with higher powers to get you there!

Your mind will focus on it by creating the opportunities.

Your soul will feel aligned and peaceful.

The Universe is sending any cues your way so you could become who you so deeply desire to be!

 

Be mindful of what you are asking for beYOUtiful😊

 

PROMPT: What resonated with you the most?

 
Check out that video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihGkwARehAQ&t=377s

 

[The teachings in this blog come from my book “The True Identity” – publishing early 2019]

 

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Enjoyment of the moment

 

“WHEN I STAND BEFORE GOD AT THE END OF MY LIFE, I WOULD HOPE THAT I WOULD NOT HAVE A SINGLE BIT OF TALENT AND TIME LEFT, AND COULD SAY THAT I USED EVERYTHING YOU GAVE ME, GOD!”

– Erma Bombeck

 

“I want to be happy in my life!”

 

That’s the most repeated phrase after “I love you”. Happiness is that ONE thing we all chase and long for. The happiness has as many faces as people on this planet.

 

As I sit on my pillow, my hand writes down one of the most beautiful words, which seemed like a cry of my soul. The happy cry, the aha-moment cry, the Eureka cry – the realization cry of what happiness is for me.

Today I share with you that deep, vulnerable and empowering desires!

 

“I truly want to be happy in my life!

I don’t want to do what doesn’t spark me.

The last few weeks of hustling to post the most inspiring words on social media, following all other inspiring coaches and women, comparing myself to others just made me feel very fearful, miserable, unhappy, not present and not appreciative of what I have right now in my life.

I realized that the hustle may not be for me.

The rat race and money chasing may totally be out of my life or happiness definition.

 

It hit me how much I want to organically inspire, motivate, help and be of service to others, just be being the truest version of myself.

 

And, I also want to enjoy life! I truly do.

I want to enjoy time with my partner instead of being stressed about not doing enough.

I want to enjoy the healthy food and have fun with it instead of being miserable and obsessed with my body image.

I want to enjoy the movements of my body, workouts, and dance instead of punishing and hurting my body.

I want to be healthy and fit and go places instead of being overstressed and frozen in the hustle mode.

I want to enjoy the cozy, loving and safe place and home instead of chasing huge and cold villas.

I want to enjoy my garden full of herbs and nature instead of feeling that this is a waste of time.

I want to enjoy doing new things and build memories with my fiancée and friends instead of being a workaholic.

I want to connect with people on a personal level instead of being fake and copy-monkey social media guru.

I want to enjoy small groups meetings and retreats where true connection, magic, love, self-expression, and beautiful transformations happen instead of hiding from the overwhelm of this world.

 

I want to feel happy and proud of myself at the end of the day. I want to know that I did everything in all my abilities to love and be loved. I want to be content knowing that my time was very well spent with all I have. I want to live being appreciative of my life every second.

 

I want to give it a time – a time to listen to myself, a time to hear what the Universe has to say, a time to flow with what it’s meant for me.

I want to focus on my emotions, body, and cycle.

I want to be appreciative of every moment.

I want to express love every day.

I want to be in the flow.

I want to just be, in the present moment

And I want to be patient to be able to see and feel what lights me up. “

 

What does happiness mean to you? ❤

 

 

 

 

 

The letter to my gift and my life purpose

Dear gift,

I haven’t had any clue for a long time what is my life purpose, what is my gift!

I haven’t had any idea why I am here.

So many times, I wanted to disappear and just leave this life.

But also, so many times I got back,

to the present moment,

to the awareness of my mission,

to the unknown life purpose,

to that, someone wanting or needing me to be.

 

The unclear mission, blurry life purpose, questionable gift, and the unknown path.

Asking so many times….

Why me? What for? What is there? Who am I? how do I do it? When is my time? What is it? Where should I be? How should I show up? How could I serve? How could I see that I am meant to be here?

Am I?

 

Today I sit and all I know is

that I am the one in seven billion,

that I am unique,

that there are nothing and nobody like me,

that I am loved, that I am supported,

that I do care about my soul,

that I do care about your soul.

 

Today I know there is a wonderland and wonderment where we all belong.

I know that my life wisdom, experiences, and lessons are my true gift, which is seen as soon as I stop hiding, putting the mask on and speak up.

That’s the moment when I feel I have a gift – the gift of a true identity seeker, uncovering something that was brutally kicked into the corner – myself and yourself!

My mission is to show every single woman that she is not who she is now, that she is not who she should be or other told her to be.

 

However, there is a danger warning here;

Once you uncover who you truly are, real things happen and huge changes are coming – the changes which are dangerous to everyone around you, especially those you were trying to please, make happy, or those who were trying to make you small.

 

My gift is to create the earthquake in your life,

My gift is to initiate the tsunami in your mind,

My gift is to extend the storm in your soul,

My gift is to ignite the fire in your heart,

My gift is to open the valve to flood your potentials with the unlimited energy.

 

My gift is to change the way you see, hear, smell, taste, feel and sense anything in your life, including yourself. Because I can see the person you are hiding behind.

And if I can see her, that means she exists!

That means she better come out for the highest good of this life, for the highest good of her life!

 

Dear gift,

Serve me well so I can create that explosion in every women’s hearts so they can become finally who they really are!!

 

Love you beYOUtiful ❤

 

 

 

THE UNIVERSE IS A FUNKY PLACE

“Everything that happens in your life

is the best possible thing that can happen to you”

– Chris Prentiss

Every single moment we have a choice to make.

Every single moment of our life is given to us.

The question is, what will you do with it?

 

GRATITUDE

— If you invited friends to a dinner and they didn’t show their appreciation, would you invite them again? —

Say thank you. Be gracious.

First and foremost, appreciate Yourself. Be grateful for the life you live. Show thanks for the world around you, for your loved ones. Don’t take your money or housing for granted.  Especially, be grateful for your feelings and emotions. Be mindful of your inner voice and instincts.

Appreciate your loved ones. Find amazement and joy in the little things, such as a smile, a kind gesture, or a hug. Be aware of the beauty around you.

Appreciate your friends and co-workers. They are in your life for a reason. Be mindful of what your life could be without them.

Appreciate the stranger. Discover the magic behind the “thank you” expressed as you walk past someone in the grocery store. Be amazed by how much impact simple courtesy can have.

Appreciate the Universe. Would you be who you are without all the moments and experiences? By expressing appreciation for what you already have, you open the doors to receive more.

 

Say and give THANK YOU to your life: moments, events, people, items and whatever else you are grateful for. Avoid the temptation to compare yourself to others.

 

WHERE TO BEGIN?

** Write every morning and evening what you are grateful for – be honest!

** Ask yourself why you are grateful– be honest!

** Ask yourself what you could do to make someone else happy – act!

** Ask yourself how you could best contribute to create a better tomorrow – act!

** Say thank you to both the stranger and your friends.

 

RESULTS:

By appreciating yourself and others, you will feel lighter and happier. It will provide the encouragement needed for facing any obstacle you may have during the day.

As your day progresses, by expressing appreciation, you will experience more love, more smiles, and kindness.

 

LOVE

Self-love is different than self-care. Sure, you can get yourself a nice haircut, manicure or treat yourself to a fancy dinner. These are all external.

Self-love is internal.

Light a candle in a secluded place. Feel the silence. Feel your body. Feel your anxieties. Feel your happiness. Feel your inner voice.

Just be, and just listen. Is it making you feel uncomfortable? This is part of the process. Your inner voice is sending you an important message. Whatever it is, be in that feeling.

Marinate in the feelings. Say them out loud, write them down, and read them again. Cry, smile, or dance if you must.

All emotions have a purpose. They are not bad or good, they each have a purpose.

It is the actions that we chose to take that becomes bad or good. When we attempt to escape or hide, it simply extends our pain.

 

MINDFULNESS TIPS

** Mediate first thing in the morning. Resist the temptation to grab your phone.

** Give yourself time during the day to breath, to “space out”, to day dream.

** Journal your emotions. Try your best to be a “neutral observer” and refrain from being critical and judgmental.

** Stay alert to all the good things around you.

 

RESULTS:

The more you take care of yourself, the more love you are able to spread.

The more you love yourself, the more compassion you will find.

The more you respect yourself, the more kindness will be in your presence.

 

INTENTION

What you choose to focus on…is it serving or hindering you?

Do you visualize your future as if it’s happening now?

Do you see yourself as a successful, happy, balanced and empowered woman?

The way you see yourself walking, feeling, reacting, living is what you will become.

Do you want to be anxiety-free? – imagine that lightness!

Do you want to be loved? – know that you are loved!

Do you want respect? – act that way!

Do you want to be debt-free? – picture that financial freedom!

Negative intentions will delay progress, positive ones will move you forward.

 

ACTION

** Practice affirmations every day by using the words “I am…”

** Believe and trust in yourself

** Honor and nourish potential

** Feel what it will be like to be your genuine, best self

** Appreciate the wonderful person you are now

 

RESULTS:

Manifest and create a vision of where you want to be. You will see it, feel it, and be there! Your soul will feel aligned and peaceful. The universe will send many cues your way. You will become who you so deeply desire to be!

Stay mindful of yourself what you are asking for. 😊

 

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤

 

@ Photo by Kurt Tysver and http://www.highaltitudephotos.com/

 

How to cleanse your soul through negative feelings?

My STRONG PERSONAL replay to the reaction on the post about being DOWN and MAD and SAD and HATEFUL….

 

“Do not think or act in a negative way because you are attracting negative energy”, “Be positive, everyone has problems so suck it up”, “you are beating yourself over it, don’t do that”. These expressions and others, and friends turning their back on you because you have a bad day and feel down so that means you are negative and NOBODY wants to be negative in this negative world on that negative social media timeline where everyone has problems and everyone is negative….

YOU KNOW WHAT? Take that “negative” word and put deep in the pocket and just stop seeing things as negative or positive, black or white!!!

My recent expression of being sad, mad, down and hateful towards myself brought up a lot of different responses from all my friends, dealing with sometimes extremely different life situations. YOU all have total right to feel that way, express yourself and BE YOURSELF.

Those reactions from others made me reflect a bit and now I want to tell you a little bit about it:

Yes, I was sad…. I was mad…. I was down and I was hateful towards myself. And I know I should be spreading love and smiles all day long every day, but THAT MORNING WASN’T FREAKING A GOOD MORNING!!! So what? THOSE WERE MY FEELINGS, and they were OK! I needed to express them out loud! I didn’t want to hold on them! I didn’t want to allow them to create my day, my attitude, my approach to other things which would follow after. And yes, I did want to changed them in a positive way into a positive outcome!!!

I KNEW ALL THESE THINGS!!! But, let me release it, let me be ME, allow to let those feelings go away…….

I am grateful for having those types of feelings, because they allowed me to learn how to recognize them, how to convert them in a positive way to create a great person, a great day and a great environment. I do love myself, I do believe in myself and I did forgive myself for that morning and for that moment of weakness and being down. I was just down!!!!

Hate is a strong word carrying lots of negative energy and I haven’t felt that for a long, long time. I was told by an amazing life coach to always love myself and forgive myself… but that didn’t happen that morning! Those strong emotions were deep inside of my soul…and whoever told me to stop and be kind and that my day will be bad because I am attracting the same emotions to me, was RIGHT…but somehow I couldn’t let go! I kept seeing those feelings as OK and at the same time as bad because “all my day will be bad” … and I didn’t want that….

As soon as I realized that, it popped out in my mind what another very powerful woman once said that negative feeling is OK!!!! OMG, are they really ok?

Yes, they are ok. WE ARE just HUMANS!!! We will have good days and bed days, we will feel happy, but we will also feel crappy. And that is OK!!! You as human being have right to feel bad, too. As soon as you recognize that feeling and you know that you don’t want to hold on them, it’s OK!!! Just do not let them create your world, your day, your attitude towards others and other things. It’s OK!!! I felt mad, and sad, I felt hate…it’s OK!!! I am just human! I forgive myself NOW!!!!

I promised myself that I will work around it and on it, but I will not promise myself it won’t happen again. Because I know negative feelings will happen, and I know those feelings are good, they are good in terms that they are cleaning whatever bad experiences and emotions accumulated in your body, mind, soul and heart. Just express them, let them be, recognize them, embrace them. Know, that they don’t belong to you. They are temporary. Let them sink in, do not fight them! Go back to your meditation, calming down habits and methods. Repeat: I WILL BE OK, I FORGIVE MYSELF!!!

PEOPLE ARE ALLOWED to sometimes be WEAK or make MISTAKES. And people are allowed to be different, it doesn’t make them “wrong” or “weird” …and even so…Yes, I can call myself weird, crazy, emotional, straightforward and to the point… and I can have bad feelings and down moment! That makes me just a better HUMAN because I know how to control them, how to work on them and how to make them work for me!

LESSON LEARNED: DO NOT go to bed with negative thoughts and negative mindset, do not go to face your day with negative thoughts and negative mindset. Take your time to shout out, cry out, calm down, journal, meditate, record your feelings, express your gratitude and self-love!!!

AND I am GRATEFUL for every single friend of mine who see me as perfect and imperfect person and they still love me, respect me, trust me, look up to me, appreciate me and be with me!!!

Its OK Izabelka !!

YOU got this beYOUtiful!!!! ❤

Admitting weakness is the strongest thing the human being can express

“The strongest leaders are brave enough to admit weakness.”

Do these words ring a bell?

Most people are afraid to show weakness or vulnerability to others. Leaders are often on the spotlight for never admitting weakness. They fear to lose their authority on their juniors. They fear to lose face or their sense of authority.

Would you reveal your vulnerabilities and blind spots to your juniors or employees? I bet not.

Is admitting weakness wrong? Absolutely not. But it truly takes tremendous effort to admit even a tinge of weakness. After all who wants to seem weak? We all wish to be viewed as strong and to be revered.

Admitting weakness is a sign of real strength, and it is often attractive. Don’t get me wrong. I didn’t say that you should expose your weakness to everyone. Your enemies could use your weakness to smash out your last dash of power. However, to the right people admitting weakness and seeking help could save your life.

Why is admitting weakness a sign of strength?

 

It helps to get rid of perfection and insecurities

Let’s be real for a moment. Do you view yourself as perfect? Do you view others as perfect? Does perfection exist at all? Every person experiences moments when they feel weak or uncertain about what will happen next.

After all no one is perfect. No one has all the answers.

Sometimes we think that people have it all figured out. We walk with our heads down and looking at others with longing eyes and wishing that we were in their place.

Tell you what? If everyone shared what they are going through deep inside their hearts, if they opened up about their insecurities and fears you’d be shocked. No one has it all figured it out. We all have doubts. Most people just have a mechanism either to fake it or control it. But 100% figured it all out, not at all.

You could be suicidal because you feel frustrated by situations in your life. By speaking to a loved one, a family member or a friend you could get help. Most people lose their lives because they fear to admit that they have a problem because they don’t want to be vulnerable.

In sharing weakness, you understand that you don’t need to be perfect. You learn about other people’s weaknesses and problems. As a result, you know that self-doubt is a common issue among the masses and is not excluded to you. You understand that every human being has moments of self-doubt, and that shouldn’t make you feel bad about yourself.

 

It builds trust and respect

Exposing your vulnerability can foster trust in relationships and business. In the absence of trust, no relationship or team can work out.

Employees trust leaders who seem human rather than emotionless perfect and with no fault. Successful teams are built on trust. And without vulnerability trust cannot be built.

Ponder on that for a moment. I bet you have friends. Who do you trust the most? Isn’t it the one you can share your vulnerabilities and little tidbits of weakness that you tend to be close to the most? Sharing weakness strengthens your bond in a very powerful way.

If you want to succeed in your relationships, business and life in general, you have to be willing to set aside your pride and the fear that you’re weak. If you can admit that you are weak, this is the real sign of strength.

When you accept that your weaknesses you gain the respect of those around you. Your juniors will give you respect, without demanding it, because you’ve earned it.

Acknowledge that you don’t have all the answers and that you don’t know everything. You’ll earn respect from your peers, your team and your juniors.

 

Admitting weakness not only makes you strong but it also makes you awesome!

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You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

If you don’t care about your body where will you live?

More often than not we have an imbalance in our priorities list. We choose to focus on the less important things. Work is important, definitely; it pays our bills! But we bury ourselves in work 24/7 every day and neglect what powers us to move and have energy to do our work: our body.

What’s the point of working so hard to get money then use the same investment to pay for hefty medical bills?

The greatest investment we need is to invest in ourselves; body, mind and soul. Our daily lifestyle matters a lot.

 

Healthy eating

You are what you eat. You probably have heard that a million times. It may be cliché, but it’s true. However, most people don’t see the correlation of what we eat to our health.

Let’s delve a little bit. Our body is made up of trillions of cells. The cells need adequate nutrients to be healthy and to multiply. Take for example the flowers in your gardens. Do you water them every day with clean water? Or do you use dirty soapy water used to wash utensils? What would happen if you didn’t water them? What would happen if you grow them in clay soil compared to the regular soil that they grow better on?

Our bodies are no different. We need to eat healthy foods that nurture our cells and avoid highly processed foods that burden our bodies with toxic compounds. Cancer, diabetes, and hypertension are all caused by what we eat. Healthy foods like fruits and vegetables nourish our cells from damage, oxidative stress, and inflammation and prevent diseases.

Always remember that whatever you eat either fights disease or causes disease. If you eat healthily and take care of your body, you won’t need to pop pills to cure simple ailments. You won’t need supplements because our food can provide every nutrient that our body requires. Food is fuel for our body. Can a car move without fuel? Hell no! Just as our body without good food is an imminent danger. You can weather illness with food.

 

Stress and rest

Did you know that stress is the major contributor to lifestyle diseases like heart attack, stroke or hypertension? Doctors say that most people in the hospital are ailing from something deep inside that manifests in the form of illness; stress. Sometimes treatment only covers up the symptoms without addressing the real root of the problem.

Stress worsens our diet habits and our lifestyle choices. Stress lowers your immunity and puts you at risk of diseases. It overworks the body and impairs body functions that would prevent illness. Insulin resistance, inflammation, and hypertension can all be managed when we reduce our stress levels. How do you take care of your body and avoid stress?

While working, only take what you can handle. Learn to balance your work and rest so that the body can be rejuvenated. Take vacations to rest from the stressors in our lives. Have enough sleep every day.

There is no need to skip sleep so that you can work some more only to get admitted to the hospital for a month. That won’t make sense.

Create a balance. Set priorities. Choose to take care of your body. Learn to accept what you can’t control. Focus on what matters. That you are here now, matters. And if you’re still alive, you still have time to achieve your goals. Just take it one step at a time.

 

Exercise

Do you find time for exercise? Most people complain that they don’t have enough time to fix a workout schedule.

You need to readjust your priorities. That time you spend on social media every day, you can use to take walks, jog or run or go to the gym.

Exercise energizes you and keeps you healthy. You will be more productive and focused. Actually, that’s the only way to be successful in your work. If you skip exercise, you will be drowsy and tired every day.  You need to make smart decisions today.

What do you eat?

Do you exercise every day?

Are you prioritizing work over healthy eating and exercise?

Don’t sacrifice your body so that you achieve your goals faster. You can achieve all that you wanted but not have enough energy to celebrate it.

Think again. Remember that you can always change jobs, but never your body. You only have one body.

 

If you don’t take care of it, where will you live?

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YOU got this beYOUtiful!!!! ❤

 

Your Dreams are Your Lifeline. Don’t Ever Let Go !!!

“It is not true that people stop pursuing their dreams because they grow old, they grow old because they stop pursuing dreams.” – Gabriel Garcia Marquez.

 

Profound and sadly very true!

 

Think about it for one minute and take inventory of the many little and big dreams that you have piled up in your archives. Be honest with yourself and please try not to take into account the age factor. Let that sink in for a moment.

Now if you have realized any of your dreams or you’re living your dream to capacity or let’s say you are in the process of actualizing any of your dreams, hats off to you. Bravo and well done!!!

And this takes into account raising children, starting and running a business, participating in socially inclined projects, etc. Heck, you could even be a grandparent. Good for you. What about your dream of a sexy and fit body? Have you given up on that?

The truth is when you stop dreaming, a part of you stop living. Likewise, when you stop pursuing your dreams, you’re killing your spirit. And this is your inner power , your strength, the engine that keeps you going.

Believe it or not, this is a reality. Look around you, the world holds a lot of promise and how can you tap into this without dreaming or any imagination? It’s indeed impossible.

As Marquez coined it, and I paraphrase; the hopelessness that comes from not pursuing your dreams will cause you to age without a touch of how you are or what you can do.

Also, it is not only a disservice to you, but you’re in essence denying humanity access to a well of untapped resources.

Bear with me as I share with a few points on why you should keep pursuing your dreams, no matter your age:

 

Your Experiences are Your Paving Stones

You may already know this, but it serves as a good comparison so here goes: mature wine is usually expensive. Because it has passed through the process of aging well with time. Believe me, when I say this applies to the human race. Nothing or no one has the right to take away your experiences. Actually, it is virtually impossible.

Again, it’s  all up to you how you use this trove of treasure. Did you know as you grow older, you become irreplaceable with time? So how about pursuing your dreams, realizing them and adding more value to what’s already there? Still not convinced?

You must be a human being if you’re reading this. And if that is so, you’ve made mistakes, realized success and even tried some things that you put on hold probably to parent our kids or meet demands of your job.

Now is the time you can draw on your past experiences to build the future that you want. Look at this way; you have more time on your hands. And what’s worse than knowing you never attempted to follow your dreams.

No excuses. The worst case scenario is that you might not realize all your dreams but hey, at least you tried.

 

Critics and Naysayers

I stand to be corrected, but my gut feeling is that you’ve met many naysayers and critics in the past. It doesn’t really matter if these are real or imagined, but you did overcome them. Am I right so far?

Nothing has changed: apply the same formula. You can’t run a race by engaging in arguments with the crowd of spectators watching you do your run. No. Because it’s a waste of time, you lose focus, and you’ll most probably lose the race.

Let no opinions and critics stop you from pursuing your dreams. Don’t even dignify them by taking into account their negativity. Keep to your path, pursue your dreams and make sure at the end of it all you can smile and say, “Yes, I did it.”

Don’t let your candle die out with the misery of never knowing what your dreams held.

 

Your Strength Lies in Your mindset.

Let no one determine how far you can go or don’t limit your imagination. As I said earlier, it’s all up to you. You’re the one who has the blueprint of your dreams; it is time to execute them.  Add on to this the fact that there is no age limit on who can dream or pursue a dream. Here is a little secret: dreams have no expiry date not even age can hold them down.

A word of caution: you could be the ONLY enemy to the fruition of your dreams. You’ve come this far in life, climbed many mountains, crossed many seas and tramped through many-a-valley.

Listen, you are the best candidate to carry out your dreams, and this is beyond doubt. No one can live your dream for you neither can anyone kill your dreams unless you let them.

So, your body might not be as strong as it used to be… so what? The minute you’re born you begin to die, and that’s a fact. What you do in between is what matters. Therefore, for as long as there is breathe in you, use every living moment.

Free your mind, then follow where it leads.  And here is something to think about, you could even stun yourself by what you’re still capable of doing.

Even when it looks like everything is headed for the dog house. You have the ability to stop this from happening. Now you’re probably wondering how? Don’t worry, here is something you may not be aware of, there is so much power in encouraging yourself. Only you can do this perfectly. No one else.

The bottom line is it all starts with you. You are the architect of your dreams, so you know the leaks, strengths, gap and pillars of your building. Draw on your inner strength, no matter how bad it looks. Believe you me; it can only get better if you keep at it. Go on, pursue that dream.

In sum, your dreams are such a vital part of your existence. No matter what continue following your dream, it is the best you can do for yourself and for those around.

Furthermore, wouldn’t it be great to leave behind a legacy?

Think about it, those you leave behind will forever remember you. And isn’t that what most of us want?

So stop living like a statistic and pursue those dreams.

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“The Twelve Pillars” by Jim Rohn

I read this book and it change the way I think about success, about personal development and achievements, about helping others, about family, friends and people you are around and about self-love. It is easy read and very powerful!!!

Pillar 1 – Personal Development

Success is all about personal development. Getting paid is not about how hard you work or how many hours you put in, it’s about how valuable you are to the market place. The same company pays different people different wages. To get paid more though, you have to become more valuable. This is done by working harder on yourself than you do on your job. For things to get better in your life you have to get better. This can be done by simply reading one chapter of a good book each day.

Pillar 2 – Total Well-Being

Total well-being is all about “three dimensional health.” The three dimensions are the body (physical), soul (our intellect, emotions, and will) and spirit (part of us that transcends this world). We must take care of ourselves physically each day. We must learn how to take control of our emotions so they work for us and not against us. We must also take care of our spirit which can be done with a short meditation or prayer each day.

Pillar 3 – The Gift of Relationships

Our relationships are one of the most important factors to becoming successful. Our relationships are like a garden. We must cultivate them and make sure to get rid of any weeds that are growing. One of the simple ways to cultivate your relationships is just to spend more time with the most important people in your life. This can be family or friends.

Pillar 4 –  Achieve Your Goals

Success is all about using goals to help you get what you want in life. It’s amazing that 95% of people do not even have goals. The ones that do often keep them in their head like marbles rattling around. You must write your goals down. This simple act of writing down your goals helps program your mind on what it is you want. Note that all top achievers have clear written goals, which they evaluate every month, every 3 or 6 months and every year!

Pillar 5 – The Proper Use of Time

This is all about time management. One of the best things you can do with time management is to know the difference between important tasks and urgent tasks. Most people waste their time on urgent tasks that pop up during the day and then they never get the important tasks done. A good habit to develop is writing down what needs to be done the day before and making sure that your one most important task is done at the beginning of the day.

Pillar 6 – Surround Yourself with the Best People

It is said that you will earn what the five closest people around you earn. You will be as happy as the five closest people around you are. The people you associate with play a big part in what you get in life. You must learn how to associate with the people that already have what you want or who you would like to become like and disassociate from people who are holding you back. You do not have to ignore your friends, but you may have to spend a little less time with them.

Pillar 7 – Be a Life Long Learner

Almost 90% of all millionaires believe in constant and never ending improvement. It is important to create a habit of constant learning. This can be done by simply reading part of a good book each day, taking courses and listening to audio training. The better you get, the easier everything else will become.

Pillar 8 – Life is Sales

Everything in life is sales. Even when we are children we are selling to our parents for everything we want. When we get a job we have to sell ourselves. We are being sold to all the time with TV, radio, books, magazines, internet, billboards, leaflets etc. Sales is one of the most important skills to learn, no matter what you do. This one skill can triple your income in as little as one year.

Pillar 9 – Income Seldom Exceeds Personal Development

You will notice that all houses over $250,000 in value have a personal library. This is not a coincidence. People who read become more valuable and when you are more valuable you get paid more money. Begin building your library. You can start by buying this book.

Pillar 10 – Communication Brings Common Ground of Understanding

Effective communication is the key to building relationships. Remember This: Everything you do in life involves other people. The better you can communicate with people, the better you are going to do. The keys to effective communication is simply listening. The better you can understand other people’s needs, wants and goals, the better you can then find a solution and help them.

Pillar 11 – The World Can Always Use One More Great Leader

Great leaders are made not born. The world needs more leaders. Great leadership is about having a clear vision of what you are trying to achieve and genuinely wanting to improve other people’s lives. “The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.” That’s powerful!

Pillar 12 – Leave a Legacy

Life is short. You can’t choose how long you live, but you can choose how well you live. I hope you found these twelve pillars valuable and they have somehow improved your life. It is now your turn to leave a legacy for someone else you care about.

 

Be the one who designs your life, be the one who is the proof of every word you say, be the one who will be remembered by many after you will be gone. Create the butterfly effect!!!

Enjoy the book!!!

Let me know in comments how did you like the article and what do you think about the book!

 

 

Take Control of Your Life Now!

Imagine yourself in this situation: You struggle with your inner strength and self-confidence so much that you don’t believe in yourself at all. You are a wreck. You try to exercise and even hired a trainer to make sure you do it right, but that doesn’t seem to give you the results you’re looking for. You know for sure that you eat right even though a friend of yours who’s a nutritionist says that you don’t. Of course you know better. You don’t have a big appetite so why should you eat 5 meals a day of just huge salads instead of small packs of fiber crackers?

In the meantime, your emotional life is a mess. You have two men in your life, and somehow you can’t figure out exactly who they are — boyfriends, friends or just ex-boyfriends messing with your mind. You don’t want to make them sad so of course you keep answering their every phone call and of course you keep talking half the night away with them. You obviously can’t not pick up. The one time you tried that the “wonderful” man of your life got pissed off and paid you back by not talking to you for a week…. Oh and then you realize that you completely forgot about an early morning training session you have the next day, and you will feel very weak yet again because you only slept four hours.

All you can think about now are ways to make your life better because it’s so miserable…. You hate yourself for who you are, how you look and how nothing works the way you want it to. You hate yourself even more for the fact that others are always unhappy because you did something wrong! And on top of that, the problem is YOU — not worthy, not happy, not willing to change anything because there is no way to change anything! That’s just the way life is….

DID I offend you now?

Or did this hit you right in the heart because it pointed out exactly where your life is at?

Can you relate?

I honestly don’t mind if you got offended because I think this scenario is seriously messed up, and I am mad that people allow themselves to be in such situations. But what upsets me more is that the system which should be helping people in these situations actually just brings them down even more.

This person goes to counseling and is told that the first man is unstable, the other guy has a messed up past and life is so terrible…. And I ask myself, what is this? Since when did digging into another person’s life and blaming the entire world for someone else’s misery become the real way to help someone who was feeling lost and depressed??? Since when did depression therapy become based on finding others guilty of our own mistakes? And don’t get me started with the methods used to help suicidal people who reach out for help because they want to live a normal life and maybe even have a family in the future. All they are offered is a bottle of pills…. For what? To help them commit suicide as soon as they get home??? Seriously????

This sends a message to depressed people that they are so sad and miserable that the only thing they can do is go to a therapist to cry and whine because the world is not going to change anyway! It is a bad world out there!!! Watch out for yourself! Everyone is doing something to make you depressed!!!

I am being extremely sarcastic about that last part of course….

WHY THE HECK CAN’T YOU SEE THAT THIS HAS TO CHANGE?

The good news is that this can be changed. This seriously can be changed with every second and every minute of your life.

The most important step is to make the decision HERE and NOW that you are 100% committed to change and to admit that you need help! There is no maybe, later, give me a minute, let me think — there can only be I AM FULLY IN THIS RIGHT NOW!!!! In that moment you stop looking at the past behind you and start looking into the bright future right in front of you.

You call those guys and tell them that you need a six-month break or maybe even more. If they respect you, they will be understanding of your need for space in order to do therapy and take time off for yourself.

Next, you contact a life coach and start with simple tasks such as daily affirmations, expressing gratitude, journaling, and letting go of bad emotions by converting them into positive mantras.

You add these tasks to your daily routine and even though you can’t look at yourself in the mirror and confidently say how wonderful you are yet; you keep doing it every day! Change does not happen overnight. It is hard! But I assure you that the moment you can stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself what a great person you are, it will be the biggest breakthrough you will EVER experience in your life (here).

And most importantly, YOU need to understand that your life is a result of small choices YOU are making every day. You are responsible for your life. If your life brought you here, that is ok. Everyone makes mistakes, but there is no mistake that can’t be corrected and used as a weapon to fight against negativity. You have everything you need to convert those mistakes into stronger willpower and dedication to become a better version of yourself. You have the choice to say, ENOUGH! Tell yourself: I want to change my life. In one month or six months or even one year from now, I don’t want to be in the same spot I’m in today!!!

 

For me, it is easy to write this because the transformational power of such choices in my life has been magnificent! And now I am living a life I NEVER imagined living!

Each and every one of you can experience this transformation in a way you will remember forever. Just make the decision NOW!!!

Every day counts…. DO NOT WAIT!!! YOU ARE WORTHY and VALUABLE!

 

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤