How to cleanse your soul through negative feelings?

My STRONG PERSONAL replay to the reaction on the post about being DOWN and MAD and SAD and HATEFUL….

 

“Do not think or act in a negative way because you are attracting negative energy”, “Be positive, everyone has problems so suck it up”, “you are beating yourself over it, don’t do that”. These expressions and others, and friends turning their back on you because you have a bad day and feel down so that means you are negative and NOBODY wants to be negative in this negative world on that negative social media timeline where everyone has problems and everyone is negative….

YOU KNOW WHAT? Take that “negative” word and put deep in the pocket and just stop seeing things as negative or positive, black or white!!!

My recent expression of being sad, mad, down and hateful towards myself brought up a lot of different responses from all my friends, dealing with sometimes extremely different life situations. YOU all have total right to feel that way, express yourself and BE YOURSELF.

Those reactions from others made me reflect a bit and now I want to tell you a little bit about it:

Yes, I was sad…. I was mad…. I was down and I was hateful towards myself. And I know I should be spreading love and smiles all day long every day, but THAT MORNING WASN’T FREAKING A GOOD MORNING!!! So what? THOSE WERE MY FEELINGS, and they were OK! I needed to express them out loud! I didn’t want to hold on them! I didn’t want to allow them to create my day, my attitude, my approach to other things which would follow after. And yes, I did want to changed them in a positive way into a positive outcome!!!

I KNEW ALL THESE THINGS!!! But, let me release it, let me be ME, allow to let those feelings go away…….

I am grateful for having those types of feelings, because they allowed me to learn how to recognize them, how to convert them in a positive way to create a great person, a great day and a great environment. I do love myself, I do believe in myself and I did forgive myself for that morning and for that moment of weakness and being down. I was just down!!!!

Hate is a strong word carrying lots of negative energy and I haven’t felt that for a long, long time. I was told by an amazing life coach to always love myself and forgive myself… but that didn’t happen that morning! Those strong emotions were deep inside of my soul…and whoever told me to stop and be kind and that my day will be bad because I am attracting the same emotions to me, was RIGHT…but somehow I couldn’t let go! I kept seeing those feelings as OK and at the same time as bad because “all my day will be bad” … and I didn’t want that….

As soon as I realized that, it popped out in my mind what another very powerful woman once said that negative feeling is OK!!!! OMG, are they really ok?

Yes, they are ok. WE ARE just HUMANS!!! We will have good days and bed days, we will feel happy, but we will also feel crappy. And that is OK!!! You as human being have right to feel bad, too. As soon as you recognize that feeling and you know that you don’t want to hold on them, it’s OK!!! Just do not let them create your world, your day, your attitude towards others and other things. It’s OK!!! I felt mad, and sad, I felt hate…it’s OK!!! I am just human! I forgive myself NOW!!!!

I promised myself that I will work around it and on it, but I will not promise myself it won’t happen again. Because I know negative feelings will happen, and I know those feelings are good, they are good in terms that they are cleaning whatever bad experiences and emotions accumulated in your body, mind, soul and heart. Just express them, let them be, recognize them, embrace them. Know, that they don’t belong to you. They are temporary. Let them sink in, do not fight them! Go back to your meditation, calming down habits and methods. Repeat: I WILL BE OK, I FORGIVE MYSELF!!!

PEOPLE ARE ALLOWED to sometimes be WEAK or make MISTAKES. And people are allowed to be different, it doesn’t make them “wrong” or “weird” …and even so…Yes, I can call myself weird, crazy, emotional, straightforward and to the point… and I can have bad feelings and down moment! That makes me just a better HUMAN because I know how to control them, how to work on them and how to make them work for me!

LESSON LEARNED: DO NOT go to bed with negative thoughts and negative mindset, do not go to face your day with negative thoughts and negative mindset. Take your time to shout out, cry out, calm down, journal, meditate, record your feelings, express your gratitude and self-love!!!

AND I am GRATEFUL for every single friend of mine who see me as perfect and imperfect person and they still love me, respect me, trust me, look up to me, appreciate me and be with me!!!

Its OK Izabelka !!

YOU got this beYOUtiful!!!! ❤

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“One person can make a difference and everyone should try”…

“One person can make a difference and everyone should try” John F Kennedy

Don’t tell me the wisdom in these simple words doesn’t stir something in your belly? The charismatic young president who left too soon coined this memorable statement. Even in his death this statements still speaks to the male or female, young or old. It has no expiry date.

Many a time we find ourselves in scenarios that make us feel helpless. Biting thoughts, conflicts within and without. One might ask, “What am I supposed to do?” “This is too big for me” “Will I look foolish if I do this or mention that?” Does this sound familiar? I bet it does. You know what? It’s okay to be overwhelmed by all this. However, the difference is what you do with this thoughts and ideas. When you run John F Kennedy’s statement through your mind, you will realize that you’re a part of a greater whole human race.

As I was thinking about this, my mind wondered through some of the historical figures that made an impact in their countries and the world in general. For instance, John F Kennedy’s concern was about the young people taking up responsibility of service to their countries. Another great mind said “it is better to try and fail than not to have tried at all.”

Below are some lessons that I learnt from Kennedy’s message that you should learn too.

Practice What You Preach

It is easy to let the fear of failure plague our minds. But here is the thing: even great men and women make mistakes. John Kennedy blundered when he minimized the challenges and threats of the Cold War.

On the other hand, he was quick to learn from a failed meeting with the Soviet leader Nikita Khrushchev. He rectified this by using his three C’s: charisma, charm and confidence. What’s more facts reveal that if he hadn’t changed his way of thinking it would’ve lead to bloodshed.

Furthermore, this change in attitude had Kennedy turn another ugly situation, between the Russians and Cuba, into a peaceful compromise. Kennedy practiced what he preached. I don’t know about you but this challenges me to put into practice what I value. I’m re-evaluating the things that could make a difference, for instance taking into consideration the feeling of others towards things and situations.

In a nut-shell I now practice assuming a selfless attitude towards sharing knowledge. I speak out what I know on subjects such as fitness and its importance and help others embrace that as well..

And guess what, I get to be influenced as I also influence others.

Start from somewhere

Believe it or not the hardest part of doing anything is starting out or taking the first little step. You may have had it said, “the end of matter is better than the beginning thereof.” It complements John F Kennedy’s quote on making a difference. It is not the big things that I do that make a difference.

Simple things such as helping an elderly person cross the road. Visiting a children’s home and helping out in one way or other. Putting a smile on a child’s face sometimes has more reward than can be pegged on temporal things. You needn’t take my word for this but there is an inexpressible peace in doing these simple acts. Try it for yourself and see how that goes for you.

The point is …

We all can’t be presidents or be in the limelight. However, if we embrace our positions well we end up affecting positively, the lives of those around us.

Don’t wait for the red carpet to be rolled out in recognition for what you do.

I have learnt along the way the more I give of myself the more I retain.

Confusing? It shouldn’t be.  Try it for yourself then you’ll understand the strength in, “One person can make a difference and everyone should try.”

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