The path to redefining and rediscovering the love in my life

“If you don’t believe in love, what’s the point in living?” -Ron Swanson

 

I remember the beginning of the journey to so-called ‘self-love’. The task was to tell myself twelve times the affirmation “I love myself”. To made this more profound and actually working, I was supposed to be looking at myself in the mirror, straight into my own eyes. All was supposed to happen after I woke up, so no other thoughts were in my mind yet.

The task was easy in its description, yet it was the hardest one I have ever endured. Or at least tried.

You may ask me, ‘did it work”?

‘Is this why you are now so self-loving?’

 

Unfortunately, not.

That task was extremely hard to perform and follow through. The entire process felt heavy on my heart. I became more resentful, and actually more resistant every day. The more I was repeating these words, the more disbelieving I felt.

  • I started doubting the actual task and its effects.
  • I was wondering how other women managed to go through it and get to that beautiful place of self-love.
  • I doubted the affirmations itself, too.

 

Today, I believe that affirmations work, but only when they are aligned with your core desired values.

I believe that before we start repeating the affirmations, we need to evaluate our core desired values first. It is crucial to see and feel what you are actually craving the most… and what it is that needs your attention the most.

 

I started asking myself the questions, which I invite you to ask yourself today, too:

  • What did you love doing as a kid?
  • What do you crave in the life?
  • What comes so naturally to you and it flows with an ease?
  • What matters to you the most?
  • What sparks your heart and brings a smile on your face?
  • What do you stand for?
  • What you can’t tolerate at all?
  • What are you VERY CLEAR that you DO NOT want in your life?

 

The clear list of things I truly desired and things I knew deep inside of my heart that I never wanted to deal with was a start point to start talking to myself in a more kind, positive and loving way.

That core desired feelings allowed me to see what I wanted to commit to in my life.

The clear and pure desires were the foundation to set up the self-love on.

 

I knew what I wanted in my life.

I didn’t know HOW to get that, yet. But ‘how’ wasn’t important then. The most important thing was to rewire my mind onto the path of affirming beautiful words and beliefs to myself.

 

So, I started by telling myself:

‘I may not love myself yet, but I am on the path to living the life where accepting and liking my body will be natural and easy.’

‘I may not know how to nurture myself yet, but I am totally on the path to start with small self-care practices and see how they make me feel.’

 

I kept telling myself that phrase that ‘I am in the process…’ every day the entire day and everything was getting easier. I knew what I desired and now I was collaborating with my own mind.

My mind was very happy by these conversations, and all affirmations felt compatible with what I truly wanted in my life. I spontaneously was choosing better actions and steps throughout the day and that felt so amazing.

Constant dialog with myself that I was in the process of becoming the highest version of myself lightened me up and motivated to keep doing what I was doing.

More and more beautiful things started falling into place. There were bumps, but it became easier to walk through them. There were pains and tears, but acceptance was something that I was choosing then.

 

Today I know, that I would never ever change the trajectory of my own journey towards self-love. I know that the best gift I could ever give myself is true, deep and sparkly self-love I have to myself now.

 

I know that there is not a better gift than the guidance to self-love that I could give to anybody I care about.

 

*** How did your journey to self-love look like?

*** How does this journey look like right now?

 

 

You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

 

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THE UNIVERSE IS A FUNKY PLACE

“Everything that happens in your life

is the best possible thing that can happen to you”

– Chris Prentiss

Every single moment we have a choice to make.

Every single moment of our life is given to us.

The question is, what will you do with it?

 

GRATITUDE

— If you invited friends to a dinner and they didn’t show their appreciation, would you invite them again? —

Say thank you. Be gracious.

First and foremost, appreciate Yourself. Be grateful for the life you live. Show thanks for the world around you, for your loved ones. Don’t take your money or housing for granted.  Especially, be grateful for your feelings and emotions. Be mindful of your inner voice and instincts.

Appreciate your loved ones. Find amazement and joy in the little things, such as a smile, a kind gesture, or a hug. Be aware of the beauty around you.

Appreciate your friends and co-workers. They are in your life for a reason. Be mindful of what your life could be without them.

Appreciate the stranger. Discover the magic behind the “thank you” expressed as you walk past someone in the grocery store. Be amazed by how much impact simple courtesy can have.

Appreciate the Universe. Would you be who you are without all the moments and experiences? By expressing appreciation for what you already have, you open the doors to receive more.

 

Say and give THANK YOU to your life: moments, events, people, items and whatever else you are grateful for. Avoid the temptation to compare yourself to others.

 

WHERE TO BEGIN?

** Write every morning and evening what you are grateful for – be honest!

** Ask yourself why you are grateful– be honest!

** Ask yourself what you could do to make someone else happy – act!

** Ask yourself how you could best contribute to create a better tomorrow – act!

** Say thank you to both the stranger and your friends.

 

RESULTS:

By appreciating yourself and others, you will feel lighter and happier. It will provide the encouragement needed for facing any obstacle you may have during the day.

As your day progresses, by expressing appreciation, you will experience more love, more smiles, and kindness.

 

LOVE

Self-love is different than self-care. Sure, you can get yourself a nice haircut, manicure or treat yourself to a fancy dinner. These are all external.

Self-love is internal.

Light a candle in a secluded place. Feel the silence. Feel your body. Feel your anxieties. Feel your happiness. Feel your inner voice.

Just be, and just listen. Is it making you feel uncomfortable? This is part of the process. Your inner voice is sending you an important message. Whatever it is, be in that feeling.

Marinate in the feelings. Say them out loud, write them down, and read them again. Cry, smile, or dance if you must.

All emotions have a purpose. They are not bad or good, they each have a purpose.

It is the actions that we chose to take that becomes bad or good. When we attempt to escape or hide, it simply extends our pain.

 

MINDFULNESS TIPS

** Mediate first thing in the morning. Resist the temptation to grab your phone.

** Give yourself time during the day to breath, to “space out”, to day dream.

** Journal your emotions. Try your best to be a “neutral observer” and refrain from being critical and judgmental.

** Stay alert to all the good things around you.

 

RESULTS:

The more you take care of yourself, the more love you are able to spread.

The more you love yourself, the more compassion you will find.

The more you respect yourself, the more kindness will be in your presence.

 

INTENTION

What you choose to focus on…is it serving or hindering you?

Do you visualize your future as if it’s happening now?

Do you see yourself as a successful, happy, balanced and empowered woman?

The way you see yourself walking, feeling, reacting, living is what you will become.

Do you want to be anxiety-free? – imagine that lightness!

Do you want to be loved? – know that you are loved!

Do you want respect? – act that way!

Do you want to be debt-free? – picture that financial freedom!

Negative intentions will delay progress, positive ones will move you forward.

 

ACTION

** Practice affirmations every day by using the words “I am…”

** Believe and trust in yourself

** Honor and nourish potential

** Feel what it will be like to be your genuine, best self

** Appreciate the wonderful person you are now

 

RESULTS:

Manifest and create a vision of where you want to be. You will see it, feel it, and be there! Your soul will feel aligned and peaceful. The universe will send many cues your way. You will become who you so deeply desire to be!

Stay mindful of yourself what you are asking for. 😊

 

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤

 

@ Photo by Kurt Tysver and http://www.highaltitudephotos.com/

 

DO LOVE & DO MAGIC ❤

 

Since I became aware of my life being a precious gift, I started searching for the answer to that ONE question: WHY AM I REALLY HERE?

I went through my whole life as totally blinded zombie-human, not knowing what is happening around me, not recognizing kindness in others eyes, not seeing beauty in the life I had and numbing the magical nature sounds with the highest volume of my electro music! It could have been like that until now, if some breakthroughs and awakenings weren’t to happen!

In this life I fought to survive. Serious migraines which left me almost unconscious in 6th grade, being rescued from committing suicide, surviving heart attack and cancer, overcoming depression and multiple approaches to commit suicide again and again, over and over.

 

BUT I DID SURVIVE!

I DO LIVE NOW!

BUT WHY???

 

I wanted to know.

I craved to know the deep meaning.

Was it to live, experience, discover and find happiness that we all crave?

or

Was it for something FAR greater than that?

So, I started to dig deep.

 

* Was is it that there was a part of me that was here to leave a legacy?

* Was it that I came here to make a difference, to shine my light?

* Was it that I came here to share my gift and do magic?

* Was it that I came here to live a life full of purpose and love?

* Was it that everything I went through this time would lead me to this exact point in my life where I would discover what I have been actually seeking?

* Was it that I would find a true meaning this time?

 

Now those questions, I FEEL in my bones, in my nerves, in every single cell and receptor.

 

WHAT ABOUT YOU?

I feel that there IS SOMETHING FAR GREATER for you to discover here, than you can even imagine.

 

I urge you to discover the wisdom, knowledge and the knowing deep inside of you.

Because what I know to be true is that WE ARE ALL just trying to find our own POTENTIAL of who we came here to BE.

And what I am sure about that we are all here to do magic and share love!

 

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤

Pork chops with Oranges, Walnuts and Cauliflower (Weight Watchers debunked)

This is another dish from the category of simple ones and modified to have healthy and nutritious version of this what it was meant to be good for you! Hope you liked the beYOUtiful version of this dish 😊

Check out my 12-week program Challenge Up launching January 4th, 2018 here.

Ingredients:

  • 8 oz of pork chops
  • ½ cup of walnuts
  • 1 medium orange (around 5 oz)
  • Half a head of cauliflower (around 10oz)
  • 1 tbsp of grass-fed butter
  • 1 tsp of sea salt
  • 1 tsp of ground black pepper

Instructions:

  1. Add butter into a nonstick skillet and set over medium heat.
  2. Add the ¼-inch thick pork chops and cook until browned and cooked through, about 2 minutes on each side. Transfer to a platter and set aside.
  3. Add the cauliflower to the skillet, cook covered until the cauliflower is tender, about 5 minutes.
  4. Add the orange sections, walnuts and pork. Cook until heated through, about 1 minute longer.

ENJOY IT!

 

Nutritional Facts:

Servings 2

Per one serving: 433 calories; 29g fats; saturated fats 3g; monounsaturated fats 0g; polyunsaturated fats 0g; carbohydrates 14g; fiber 6g; sugars 8g; proteins 29g; cholesterol 73mg; sodium 1159mg; potassium 442mg.

 

STAY HEALTHY!!!!

YOU ARE IN IT TO WIN IT!!!!

You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

Take Control of Your Life Now!

Imagine yourself in this situation: You struggle with your inner strength and self-confidence so much that you don’t believe in yourself at all. You are a wreck. You try to exercise and even hired a trainer to make sure you do it right, but that doesn’t seem to give you the results you’re looking for. You know for sure that you eat right even though a friend of yours who’s a nutritionist says that you don’t. Of course you know better. You don’t have a big appetite so why should you eat 5 meals a day of just huge salads instead of small packs of fiber crackers?

In the meantime, your emotional life is a mess. You have two men in your life, and somehow you can’t figure out exactly who they are — boyfriends, friends or just ex-boyfriends messing with your mind. You don’t want to make them sad so of course you keep answering their every phone call and of course you keep talking half the night away with them. You obviously can’t not pick up. The one time you tried that the “wonderful” man of your life got pissed off and paid you back by not talking to you for a week…. Oh and then you realize that you completely forgot about an early morning training session you have the next day, and you will feel very weak yet again because you only slept four hours.

All you can think about now are ways to make your life better because it’s so miserable…. You hate yourself for who you are, how you look and how nothing works the way you want it to. You hate yourself even more for the fact that others are always unhappy because you did something wrong! And on top of that, the problem is YOU — not worthy, not happy, not willing to change anything because there is no way to change anything! That’s just the way life is….

DID I offend you now?

Or did this hit you right in the heart because it pointed out exactly where your life is at?

Can you relate?

I honestly don’t mind if you got offended because I think this scenario is seriously messed up, and I am mad that people allow themselves to be in such situations. But what upsets me more is that the system which should be helping people in these situations actually just brings them down even more.

This person goes to counseling and is told that the first man is unstable, the other guy has a messed up past and life is so terrible…. And I ask myself, what is this? Since when did digging into another person’s life and blaming the entire world for someone else’s misery become the real way to help someone who was feeling lost and depressed??? Since when did depression therapy become based on finding others guilty of our own mistakes? And don’t get me started with the methods used to help suicidal people who reach out for help because they want to live a normal life and maybe even have a family in the future. All they are offered is a bottle of pills…. For what? To help them commit suicide as soon as they get home??? Seriously????

This sends a message to depressed people that they are so sad and miserable that the only thing they can do is go to a therapist to cry and whine because the world is not going to change anyway! It is a bad world out there!!! Watch out for yourself! Everyone is doing something to make you depressed!!!

I am being extremely sarcastic about that last part of course….

WHY THE HECK CAN’T YOU SEE THAT THIS HAS TO CHANGE?

The good news is that this can be changed. This seriously can be changed with every second and every minute of your life.

The most important step is to make the decision HERE and NOW that you are 100% committed to change and to admit that you need help! There is no maybe, later, give me a minute, let me think — there can only be I AM FULLY IN THIS RIGHT NOW!!!! In that moment you stop looking at the past behind you and start looking into the bright future right in front of you.

You call those guys and tell them that you need a six-month break or maybe even more. If they respect you, they will be understanding of your need for space in order to do therapy and take time off for yourself.

Next, you contact a life coach and start with simple tasks such as daily affirmations, expressing gratitude, journaling, and letting go of bad emotions by converting them into positive mantras.

You add these tasks to your daily routine and even though you can’t look at yourself in the mirror and confidently say how wonderful you are yet; you keep doing it every day! Change does not happen overnight. It is hard! But I assure you that the moment you can stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself what a great person you are, it will be the biggest breakthrough you will EVER experience in your life (here).

And most importantly, YOU need to understand that your life is a result of small choices YOU are making every day. You are responsible for your life. If your life brought you here, that is ok. Everyone makes mistakes, but there is no mistake that can’t be corrected and used as a weapon to fight against negativity. You have everything you need to convert those mistakes into stronger willpower and dedication to become a better version of yourself. You have the choice to say, ENOUGH! Tell yourself: I want to change my life. In one month or six months or even one year from now, I don’t want to be in the same spot I’m in today!!!

 

For me, it is easy to write this because the transformational power of such choices in my life has been magnificent! And now I am living a life I NEVER imagined living!

Each and every one of you can experience this transformation in a way you will remember forever. Just make the decision NOW!!!

Every day counts…. DO NOT WAIT!!! YOU ARE WORTHY and VALUABLE!

 

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤