Let’s talk about personal responsibility.

The definition of ‘responsibility’ by Merriam-Webster Dictionary is the quality or state of being responsible and having moral, legal, or mental accountability.

When it comes to the responsibility of others and other things in our lives, we actually know the best how to do that.

However, when it comes to personal responsibility, there is an uncomfortable silence in the crowd. It’s either because people may not know what is that exactly, or – what I found very interesting – they don’t want to take that type of responsibility on.

And this is where the personal responsibility asks for the attention!

So, let’s start from the beginning. What is that personal responsibility, how can you be fully responsible for yourself and how is this going to impact your life?

What is the personal responsibility?

As the name states already, it the responsibility you take for yourself, your attitude, actions, reactions, words and anything you do towards others and yourself.

It is also the responsibility for your emotionality, life experiences, choices, energies, communications, language, boundaries, and self-work.

Sounds like a lot of responsibilities. Right?

And that makes you a loving, kind, compassionate and caring human being.

How can you be fully responsible for yourself and your life?

Being responsible fully for yourself is a daily practice of self-awareness and self-compassion. It requires you to be mindful of your actions, behaviors or emotions in a way that you take full responsibility for anything you commit to do or follow, and anything that comes out of it.

As my mentor, Elizabeth DiAlto, says, “check yourself before you wreck yourself”.

Pay attention to what’s coming up for you personally as you interact with others. Stop, breath in and revisit it before you destroy the party and everyone’s moods including your own.

Don’t project your emotions and energies onto others before you check-in with yourself first. It’s always best to ask rather than assume or read into what people are saying or doing.

If something triggers you, take a moment (or many moments) to be with your own emotions before responding. Being charged usually doesn’t serve good communication.

Be committed to your choices. Be fully aware that those were your own choices and nobody forced them onto you.

As I always say, “it is nobody’s business to make you happy’. Be aware of what makes you happy and what doesn’t and take responsible actions to feel what you want to feel.

Don’t blame the external world for the chaos and storms in your internal world. Rather give yourself space and time to see what are your emotions trying to tell you and how could you work on it with self. Most of the chaos in the outside world we create by not managing our internal chaos.

Create healthy boundaries where you can grow, blossom, nurture yourself and be true and authentic, so that others can benefit from it as well. Boundaries are important for healthy relationships with others and yourself.

How is this going to impact your life?

Oh, big times!!!!

First, the feeling of self-awareness of your needs wants and triggers creates an amazing tool for self-work.

Second, seeing that you are the creator of your life, day by day, gives you back the power you have within.

Third, knowing that your choices, actions, and behaviors impact you the same as others allow you to take care of them with love and compassion.

Fourth, you become the person you truly wanted to be: aware, calm, responsible, compassionate, loving, caring, aligned, light and happy!

PROMPT: How do you take a personal responsibility in your life now?

[The teachings in this blog come from my book “The True Identity” – publishing early 2019]

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Survival Mode…..

….I wasn’t born in this country, I have lived in many other countries, I moved eighteen times, I was sexually and mentally abused and I can’t have kids…. and many of those things seems to be nothing to other’s problems….

Depression, anxiety…. Survival Mode!

 

Survival Mode when I am waking up every day, even though I don’t want because I am afraid of that day, of the future in two minutes, of the person hurting me or rejecting me!

Survival Mode when I tell myself that all will be good, all will work, and today will be a beautiful day – even though I see clouds and I see struggle, because I may not be able to smile today!

Survival Mode when I say I am fine, but all I think is to disappear and never come back!

Survival Mode when I call my mom and tell her that I love her and I am doing so well, I just may need some help to pay rent or bills!

Survival Mode when I know that conversation was a lie and all I want is to kill myself…. only because of her I am not doing it, she would never ever survive that…oh well, I would see her in the heaven then quickly after my attempt!

Survival Mode when words such you are awesome, you are inspiration, you are hardworking, you are kind and you will manage, mean nothing. Oh, they are the biggest lies I have ever heard…why even someone say them…stop it!

Survival Mode when suicide is so tempting, so attractive that I don’t even want to talk to others…being scared they may take away from me that biggest fun and dream!

Survival Mode when lack of motivation, dedication and drive is normal. Don’t people actually live like that their whole life? Why do I need to bother even?

Survival Mode when help is not needed, love is messed up, kindness is worthless, and integrity doesn’t exist… values, what are the values? Didn’t I already told you my biggest goal is to disappear?

Survival Mode when I regret Past, I don’t believe in Present and I am afraid of Future….

Survival Mode when life is not beautiful, life is never beautiful and everyone saying that is just making up the word….

 

Is there anything else?

Someone said, yes….

There is that life which is beautiful actually,

— the love which brings people together and connects those who needs each other,

— the sun which shines on our faces and smiles,

— the flowers and nature which blesses us every day with unconditional awesomeness.

❤ And the SELF which is so unusual, so amazing, so strong and resilient, so fearless and limitless, so powerful and capable of unimaginable.

 

#beYOUtiful

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤

Attitude is contagious. As strong as you think you are, no one is strong enough to avoid the influence of negativity forever

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”

Those are the wise words of Winston Churchill.

 

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We must recognize that attitude plays a major role in all aspects of our lives. Attitude influences your decisions and actions, which greatly determine how happy you are in life.

Having a positive attitude makes a huge difference in your life. It will save you from all the heartaches and challenges that come your way.

You can have all the talent in this world, all the money in this world, but with a poor attitude, you will not go very far.

As long as you say, “I can handle this,” you will. But if you go on in life feeling beaten down and powerless and keep saying negative words to yourself like, “I’m too fat, I can never lose weight or get into my dream body,” that is exactly what will happen.

It’s worse when you are surrounded by negative people who constantly bring you down and never see anything positive in your life. Knowing how attitude is contagious, how do you protect yourself from it?

 

Reduce negative networks and stay positive at all times

Often people start negative conversations in conferences when they ignite a discussion. “Oh, the economy is bad,” “This weather is not favourable,” or “The traffic jam is unbearable,” and all that.

Take note when these conversations start and how you react to them.  Be careful about commenting negatively as this will keep the negativity ball rolling.

Positivity creates abundance. If you want to be happy you have to decide to focus on the positive. Don’t be afraid to put in a positive comment. Just find something positive to talk about. Just as a negative attitude is contagious, so is a positive one. You will be surprised how everyone will change their mind-set.

Well, if they don’t change, you can move ahead to the next group. Staying in a negative vibes talk will leave you feeling weary and dragged down. It’s like the saying, “Never wrestle with a pig, you get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it.”

Make a conscious effort to be positive no matter what happens and no matter who you are with.

If you are positive no matter what happens to you in life you’ll have the power to handle anything that life throws at you.

 

Set clear boundaries

How negative can your friends be towards you? As far as you let them. We teach people how to treat us by what we allow, what we stop and what we reinforce. Let your friends know that you cannot tolerate negativity.

Simply set clear boundaries. Tell them that they can either be positive and respectful or you can’t be around them. You will be amazed by the respect that you command when you set these boundaries.

 

Cut links from toxic relationships and spend more time with positive people

We all have experienced toxic relationships which make us feel worse about life and ourselves. It’s draining to be with such people.

When you set boundaries but the toxic people don’t respect them, don’t be afraid to cut links, for your sake.

Have the courage to cut connections with people who make you feel bad about yourself. Such people feel better about themselves by dragging other people down.

Start by minimizing the time that you spend with them and slowly remove them from your life, for your own good!

Reduce the time you spend with negative people and cultivate new relationships with positive people. The more positive people you associate with the less room you’ll have for negative people. Have regular visits with positive people. A jovial person will surely leave your mood brightened up.

Attitude has the power to change everything in your life. From your work to your relationships with others and even yourself. It surely does have a huge influence on your success.  It is empowering and liberating at the same time. Whatever you do, from the books that you read or the music that you listen to and the people you associate with, choose positivity and be ready to cut out anything or anyone who weighs you down with negativity. After all, attitude is contagious and no matter how strong you think you are, no one is strong enough to avoid the influence of negativity forever.

Admitting weakness is the strongest thing the human being can express

How to cleanse your soul through negative feelings?

You got this beYOUtiful! ❤