The path to redefining and rediscovering the love in my life

“If you don’t believe in love, what’s the point in living?” -Ron Swanson

 

I remember the beginning of the journey to so-called ‘self-love’. The task was to tell myself twelve times the affirmation “I love myself”. To made this more profound and actually working, I was supposed to be looking at myself in the mirror, straight into my own eyes. All was supposed to happen after I woke up, so no other thoughts were in my mind yet.

The task was easy in its description, yet it was the hardest one I have ever endured. Or at least tried.

You may ask me, ‘did it work”?

‘Is this why you are now so self-loving?’

 

Unfortunately, not.

That task was extremely hard to perform and follow through. The entire process felt heavy on my heart. I became more resentful, and actually more resistant every day. The more I was repeating these words, the more disbelieving I felt.

  • I started doubting the actual task and its effects.
  • I was wondering how other women managed to go through it and get to that beautiful place of self-love.
  • I doubted the affirmations itself, too.

 

Today, I believe that affirmations work, but only when they are aligned with your core desired values.

I believe that before we start repeating the affirmations, we need to evaluate our core desired values first. It is crucial to see and feel what you are actually craving the most… and what it is that needs your attention the most.

 

I started asking myself the questions, which I invite you to ask yourself today, too:

  • What did you love doing as a kid?
  • What do you crave in the life?
  • What comes so naturally to you and it flows with an ease?
  • What matters to you the most?
  • What sparks your heart and brings a smile on your face?
  • What do you stand for?
  • What you can’t tolerate at all?
  • What are you VERY CLEAR that you DO NOT want in your life?

 

The clear list of things I truly desired and things I knew deep inside of my heart that I never wanted to deal with was a start point to start talking to myself in a more kind, positive and loving way.

That core desired feelings allowed me to see what I wanted to commit to in my life.

The clear and pure desires were the foundation to set up the self-love on.

 

I knew what I wanted in my life.

I didn’t know HOW to get that, yet. But ‘how’ wasn’t important then. The most important thing was to rewire my mind onto the path of affirming beautiful words and beliefs to myself.

 

So, I started by telling myself:

‘I may not love myself yet, but I am on the path to living the life where accepting and liking my body will be natural and easy.’

‘I may not know how to nurture myself yet, but I am totally on the path to start with small self-care practices and see how they make me feel.’

 

I kept telling myself that phrase that ‘I am in the process…’ every day the entire day and everything was getting easier. I knew what I desired and now I was collaborating with my own mind.

My mind was very happy by these conversations, and all affirmations felt compatible with what I truly wanted in my life. I spontaneously was choosing better actions and steps throughout the day and that felt so amazing.

Constant dialog with myself that I was in the process of becoming the highest version of myself lightened me up and motivated to keep doing what I was doing.

More and more beautiful things started falling into place. There were bumps, but it became easier to walk through them. There were pains and tears, but acceptance was something that I was choosing then.

 

Today I know, that I would never ever change the trajectory of my own journey towards self-love. I know that the best gift I could ever give myself is true, deep and sparkly self-love I have to myself now.

 

I know that there is not a better gift than the guidance to self-love that I could give to anybody I care about.

 

*** How did your journey to self-love look like?

*** How does this journey look like right now?

 

 

You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

 

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My daily rituals of self-care

I get asked more often what I do during my morning and evening routines. I get curious questions about what makes me feel grounded, rested, taken care of and recharged for my day to come. Many mysterious pictures of my ‘rituals’ on my social media platform bring more attention than ever.

What are the self-care practices of a busy and successful woman, and a life, love and spiritual coach?

Let me start by defining what actually self-care is. In my book “The True Identity” [publishing in Summer 2018] this is a big part of the process towards rediscovering your true potentials and authentic self. How come, some of you may ask?

Self-care is not limited to this what the modern world is assuming is enough and considered necessary. Massage, face mask, the visit to the spa or hot springs, haircut or manicure are some of the most practiced ones. How little of the actual self-care is that, though.

Self-care is the care of ‘self’, as the phrase says by itself.

The ‘self’ consists of the emotional, mental, spiritual and physical component.

Taking care of your physical body only is not enough for the well-being of the ‘self’. The new haircut won’t make you feel rested, recharged, beautiful inside and out and confident without the care of your self-talk, attitude, daily affirmations, thinking process, actions and connection to the higher ‘self’. There is much more into feeling nurtured and energized than a manicure. There is a way more beautiful way to feel worthy without an expensive weekend at the spa resort.

The total self-care must consist of the actions and practices towards nurturing all aspects of the person you are. Anybody of you can list right now plenty of things to do to take care of your physical body. However, what can you do to take care of your mental, emotional and spiritual ‘self’ today?

My rituals and routines

Every day, I start my day with washing my face with cold water, while giving myself a pep talk with plenty of positive affirmations and mantras. Then I prepare a tea and a water with apple cider. I drink them during my morning, as I don’t eat breakfast earlier than noon.  Sometimes I play some relaxing music during that process, sometimes I am in silence listening to birds outside.

Then I proceed to my sacred space, which is a little corner in my room, with my white meditation pillow, altar, and all magical tools. The space you want to create (altar, tools, pillow, candles, incense etc.) is purely personalized. You make your space and place the way you want. Don’t let anybody tell you what MUST be there and what not, it is your own calling, taste and creation of what you want to have in your sacred space. Make it cozy, comfortable and pretty. Use it as an expression of yourself.

I burn the candles and incense, I meditate (whatever style I feel like doing), and I do breathe work. There is no time limit for me unless I have other obligations to do afterward. But those don’t stop me from doing it at all or don’t make me rush as well. I set the intention each time to just be and to ground myself so I can go into a day and show up fully. That way the practice, no matter if it’s just 5 minutes or 30 minutes, is beautiful, relaxing, grounding and opening my mind and heart to whatever day brings.

After that I journal. I journal what my meditation brought up. I journal every day the gratitude, my blessings, and abundance.

I also draw the card from whatever card deck I am called to, either tarot or oracle cards. I love them and I have pretty big and beautiful collection of them. I play with them at any time I feel like. In the morning if I have a question, or I am concerned or wondering what to do that day. During the day when I want to have a little break between clients or activities, so they take my mind away from the worldly concerns and bring me back to the present, to the art they display or messages they show me. They are my personal tools to ground me and bring awareness to the beauty around.

 

During a day I make sure I have frequent breaks. I work with people, outside of the house and from the house so it could be very demanding to be on the go all the time and then not have a break. It may sound luxury and many of you will tell me that I am lucky having a possibility for a break. I created that myself, so you can do as well. I needed to because the hustle and constant work were bringing me closer to burn out rather than to being productive and loving what I do. I love my job and I want to show up fully energized and positive to it.

Breaks give me a little breather and benefit to recommit to myself and be more focused afterward. During my breaks, I can do some of the following: a little walk, water the plants in the garden, listen to motivational video or relaxing music, play with the tarot cards, get a snack, take a power nap, stretch, dance or text a friend.

Many times, I simply do nothing and I found that the best practice ever. I lay down on the floor and just stare at the ceiling. I don’t think and I am just breathing and being. I love this simple, free tool to reset! Try it yourself! It is extremely powerful!

 

In the evening my time is shorter, as I am more tired and I want to make sure I get 7 hours (or more) of sleep a night. I journal on how my day was, what and how I felt, on some realizations, some reflections and gratitude. I don’t start and finish a day without a gratitude. That is a big part of my routines.

Sometimes I have time to meditate, but if I don’t I simply reset by seating still and getting few deep breaths in and out. Many times, I do that in a bed too, finished by a simple “Thank you for today’s day”. That makes my day perfectly finished and beautiful, despite the circumstances.

In the evening there is time for me to read a book, though. Reading a book is a major part of my mental and personal development.

 

As you can see, all four aspects of the ‘self’ are being covered by my daily routines.

 

Anybody can do that, including YOURSELF! It is totally workable and doable. It may require some reorganization and arrangement around your day, shortening some activities or getting up 15 minutes earlier, but it is totally manageable.

 

If you would like to get some help with that, let me know. I help women with not only finding the sacred time for themselves but most importantly with finding who they truly are and what they actually want from life! Is it a boyfriend and husband, or a business, or maybe creating boundaries with their families? Whatever it is that you need to become the true and unlimited version of yourself, I can show you how!! Simply replay to this blog via comments or hit the email address below and connect with me.

izabelamch@gmail.com

 

You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

 

 

THE UNIVERSE IS A FUNKY PLACE

“Everything that happens in your life

is the best possible thing that can happen to you”

– Chris Prentiss

Every single moment we have a choice to make.

Every single moment of our life is given to us.

The question is, what will you do with it?

 

GRATITUDE

— If you invited friends to a dinner and they didn’t show their appreciation, would you invite them again? —

Say thank you. Be gracious.

First and foremost, appreciate Yourself. Be grateful for the life you live. Show thanks for the world around you, for your loved ones. Don’t take your money or housing for granted.  Especially, be grateful for your feelings and emotions. Be mindful of your inner voice and instincts.

Appreciate your loved ones. Find amazement and joy in the little things, such as a smile, a kind gesture, or a hug. Be aware of the beauty around you.

Appreciate your friends and co-workers. They are in your life for a reason. Be mindful of what your life could be without them.

Appreciate the stranger. Discover the magic behind the “thank you” expressed as you walk past someone in the grocery store. Be amazed by how much impact simple courtesy can have.

Appreciate the Universe. Would you be who you are without all the moments and experiences? By expressing appreciation for what you already have, you open the doors to receive more.

 

Say and give THANK YOU to your life: moments, events, people, items and whatever else you are grateful for. Avoid the temptation to compare yourself to others.

 

WHERE TO BEGIN?

** Write every morning and evening what you are grateful for – be honest!

** Ask yourself why you are grateful– be honest!

** Ask yourself what you could do to make someone else happy – act!

** Ask yourself how you could best contribute to create a better tomorrow – act!

** Say thank you to both the stranger and your friends.

 

RESULTS:

By appreciating yourself and others, you will feel lighter and happier. It will provide the encouragement needed for facing any obstacle you may have during the day.

As your day progresses, by expressing appreciation, you will experience more love, more smiles, and kindness.

 

LOVE

Self-love is different than self-care. Sure, you can get yourself a nice haircut, manicure or treat yourself to a fancy dinner. These are all external.

Self-love is internal.

Light a candle in a secluded place. Feel the silence. Feel your body. Feel your anxieties. Feel your happiness. Feel your inner voice.

Just be, and just listen. Is it making you feel uncomfortable? This is part of the process. Your inner voice is sending you an important message. Whatever it is, be in that feeling.

Marinate in the feelings. Say them out loud, write them down, and read them again. Cry, smile, or dance if you must.

All emotions have a purpose. They are not bad or good, they each have a purpose.

It is the actions that we chose to take that becomes bad or good. When we attempt to escape or hide, it simply extends our pain.

 

MINDFULNESS TIPS

** Mediate first thing in the morning. Resist the temptation to grab your phone.

** Give yourself time during the day to breath, to “space out”, to day dream.

** Journal your emotions. Try your best to be a “neutral observer” and refrain from being critical and judgmental.

** Stay alert to all the good things around you.

 

RESULTS:

The more you take care of yourself, the more love you are able to spread.

The more you love yourself, the more compassion you will find.

The more you respect yourself, the more kindness will be in your presence.

 

INTENTION

What you choose to focus on…is it serving or hindering you?

Do you visualize your future as if it’s happening now?

Do you see yourself as a successful, happy, balanced and empowered woman?

The way you see yourself walking, feeling, reacting, living is what you will become.

Do you want to be anxiety-free? – imagine that lightness!

Do you want to be loved? – know that you are loved!

Do you want respect? – act that way!

Do you want to be debt-free? – picture that financial freedom!

Negative intentions will delay progress, positive ones will move you forward.

 

ACTION

** Practice affirmations every day by using the words “I am…”

** Believe and trust in yourself

** Honor and nourish potential

** Feel what it will be like to be your genuine, best self

** Appreciate the wonderful person you are now

 

RESULTS:

Manifest and create a vision of where you want to be. You will see it, feel it, and be there! Your soul will feel aligned and peaceful. The universe will send many cues your way. You will become who you so deeply desire to be!

Stay mindful of yourself what you are asking for. 😊

 

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤

 

@ Photo by Kurt Tysver and http://www.highaltitudephotos.com/

 

How to cleanse your soul through negative feelings?

My STRONG PERSONAL replay to the reaction on the post about being DOWN and MAD and SAD and HATEFUL….

 

“Do not think or act in a negative way because you are attracting negative energy”, “Be positive, everyone has problems so suck it up”, “you are beating yourself over it, don’t do that”. These expressions and others, and friends turning their back on you because you have a bad day and feel down so that means you are negative and NOBODY wants to be negative in this negative world on that negative social media timeline where everyone has problems and everyone is negative….

YOU KNOW WHAT? Take that “negative” word and put deep in the pocket and just stop seeing things as negative or positive, black or white!!!

My recent expression of being sad, mad, down and hateful towards myself brought up a lot of different responses from all my friends, dealing with sometimes extremely different life situations. YOU all have total right to feel that way, express yourself and BE YOURSELF.

Those reactions from others made me reflect a bit and now I want to tell you a little bit about it:

Yes, I was sad…. I was mad…. I was down and I was hateful towards myself. And I know I should be spreading love and smiles all day long every day, but THAT MORNING WASN’T FREAKING A GOOD MORNING!!! So what? THOSE WERE MY FEELINGS, and they were OK! I needed to express them out loud! I didn’t want to hold on them! I didn’t want to allow them to create my day, my attitude, my approach to other things which would follow after. And yes, I did want to changed them in a positive way into a positive outcome!!!

I KNEW ALL THESE THINGS!!! But, let me release it, let me be ME, allow to let those feelings go away…….

I am grateful for having those types of feelings, because they allowed me to learn how to recognize them, how to convert them in a positive way to create a great person, a great day and a great environment. I do love myself, I do believe in myself and I did forgive myself for that morning and for that moment of weakness and being down. I was just down!!!!

Hate is a strong word carrying lots of negative energy and I haven’t felt that for a long, long time. I was told by an amazing life coach to always love myself and forgive myself… but that didn’t happen that morning! Those strong emotions were deep inside of my soul…and whoever told me to stop and be kind and that my day will be bad because I am attracting the same emotions to me, was RIGHT…but somehow I couldn’t let go! I kept seeing those feelings as OK and at the same time as bad because “all my day will be bad” … and I didn’t want that….

As soon as I realized that, it popped out in my mind what another very powerful woman once said that negative feeling is OK!!!! OMG, are they really ok?

Yes, they are ok. WE ARE just HUMANS!!! We will have good days and bed days, we will feel happy, but we will also feel crappy. And that is OK!!! You as human being have right to feel bad, too. As soon as you recognize that feeling and you know that you don’t want to hold on them, it’s OK!!! Just do not let them create your world, your day, your attitude towards others and other things. It’s OK!!! I felt mad, and sad, I felt hate…it’s OK!!! I am just human! I forgive myself NOW!!!!

I promised myself that I will work around it and on it, but I will not promise myself it won’t happen again. Because I know negative feelings will happen, and I know those feelings are good, they are good in terms that they are cleaning whatever bad experiences and emotions accumulated in your body, mind, soul and heart. Just express them, let them be, recognize them, embrace them. Know, that they don’t belong to you. They are temporary. Let them sink in, do not fight them! Go back to your meditation, calming down habits and methods. Repeat: I WILL BE OK, I FORGIVE MYSELF!!!

PEOPLE ARE ALLOWED to sometimes be WEAK or make MISTAKES. And people are allowed to be different, it doesn’t make them “wrong” or “weird” …and even so…Yes, I can call myself weird, crazy, emotional, straightforward and to the point… and I can have bad feelings and down moment! That makes me just a better HUMAN because I know how to control them, how to work on them and how to make them work for me!

LESSON LEARNED: DO NOT go to bed with negative thoughts and negative mindset, do not go to face your day with negative thoughts and negative mindset. Take your time to shout out, cry out, calm down, journal, meditate, record your feelings, express your gratitude and self-love!!!

AND I am GRATEFUL for every single friend of mine who see me as perfect and imperfect person and they still love me, respect me, trust me, look up to me, appreciate me and be with me!!!

Its OK Izabelka !!

YOU got this beYOUtiful!!!! ❤

Admitting weakness is the strongest thing the human being can express

“The strongest leaders are brave enough to admit weakness.”

Do these words ring a bell?

Most people are afraid to show weakness or vulnerability to others. Leaders are often on the spotlight for never admitting weakness. They fear to lose their authority on their juniors. They fear to lose face or their sense of authority.

Would you reveal your vulnerabilities and blind spots to your juniors or employees? I bet not.

Is admitting weakness wrong? Absolutely not. But it truly takes tremendous effort to admit even a tinge of weakness. After all who wants to seem weak? We all wish to be viewed as strong and to be revered.

Admitting weakness is a sign of real strength, and it is often attractive. Don’t get me wrong. I didn’t say that you should expose your weakness to everyone. Your enemies could use your weakness to smash out your last dash of power. However, to the right people admitting weakness and seeking help could save your life.

Why is admitting weakness a sign of strength?

 

It helps to get rid of perfection and insecurities

Let’s be real for a moment. Do you view yourself as perfect? Do you view others as perfect? Does perfection exist at all? Every person experiences moments when they feel weak or uncertain about what will happen next.

After all no one is perfect. No one has all the answers.

Sometimes we think that people have it all figured out. We walk with our heads down and looking at others with longing eyes and wishing that we were in their place.

Tell you what? If everyone shared what they are going through deep inside their hearts, if they opened up about their insecurities and fears you’d be shocked. No one has it all figured it out. We all have doubts. Most people just have a mechanism either to fake it or control it. But 100% figured it all out, not at all.

You could be suicidal because you feel frustrated by situations in your life. By speaking to a loved one, a family member or a friend you could get help. Most people lose their lives because they fear to admit that they have a problem because they don’t want to be vulnerable.

In sharing weakness, you understand that you don’t need to be perfect. You learn about other people’s weaknesses and problems. As a result, you know that self-doubt is a common issue among the masses and is not excluded to you. You understand that every human being has moments of self-doubt, and that shouldn’t make you feel bad about yourself.

 

It builds trust and respect

Exposing your vulnerability can foster trust in relationships and business. In the absence of trust, no relationship or team can work out.

Employees trust leaders who seem human rather than emotionless perfect and with no fault. Successful teams are built on trust. And without vulnerability trust cannot be built.

Ponder on that for a moment. I bet you have friends. Who do you trust the most? Isn’t it the one you can share your vulnerabilities and little tidbits of weakness that you tend to be close to the most? Sharing weakness strengthens your bond in a very powerful way.

If you want to succeed in your relationships, business and life in general, you have to be willing to set aside your pride and the fear that you’re weak. If you can admit that you are weak, this is the real sign of strength.

When you accept that your weaknesses you gain the respect of those around you. Your juniors will give you respect, without demanding it, because you’ve earned it.

Acknowledge that you don’t have all the answers and that you don’t know everything. You’ll earn respect from your peers, your team and your juniors.

 

Admitting weakness not only makes you strong but it also makes you awesome!

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You got this beYOUtiful! ❤

If you don’t care about your body where will you live?

More often than not we have an imbalance in our priorities list. We choose to focus on the less important things. Work is important, definitely; it pays our bills! But we bury ourselves in work 24/7 every day and neglect what powers us to move and have energy to do our work: our body.

What’s the point of working so hard to get money then use the same investment to pay for hefty medical bills?

The greatest investment we need is to invest in ourselves; body, mind and soul. Our daily lifestyle matters a lot.

 

Healthy eating

You are what you eat. You probably have heard that a million times. It may be cliché, but it’s true. However, most people don’t see the correlation of what we eat to our health.

Let’s delve a little bit. Our body is made up of trillions of cells. The cells need adequate nutrients to be healthy and to multiply. Take for example the flowers in your gardens. Do you water them every day with clean water? Or do you use dirty soapy water used to wash utensils? What would happen if you didn’t water them? What would happen if you grow them in clay soil compared to the regular soil that they grow better on?

Our bodies are no different. We need to eat healthy foods that nurture our cells and avoid highly processed foods that burden our bodies with toxic compounds. Cancer, diabetes, and hypertension are all caused by what we eat. Healthy foods like fruits and vegetables nourish our cells from damage, oxidative stress, and inflammation and prevent diseases.

Always remember that whatever you eat either fights disease or causes disease. If you eat healthily and take care of your body, you won’t need to pop pills to cure simple ailments. You won’t need supplements because our food can provide every nutrient that our body requires. Food is fuel for our body. Can a car move without fuel? Hell no! Just as our body without good food is an imminent danger. You can weather illness with food.

 

Stress and rest

Did you know that stress is the major contributor to lifestyle diseases like heart attack, stroke or hypertension? Doctors say that most people in the hospital are ailing from something deep inside that manifests in the form of illness; stress. Sometimes treatment only covers up the symptoms without addressing the real root of the problem.

Stress worsens our diet habits and our lifestyle choices. Stress lowers your immunity and puts you at risk of diseases. It overworks the body and impairs body functions that would prevent illness. Insulin resistance, inflammation, and hypertension can all be managed when we reduce our stress levels. How do you take care of your body and avoid stress?

While working, only take what you can handle. Learn to balance your work and rest so that the body can be rejuvenated. Take vacations to rest from the stressors in our lives. Have enough sleep every day.

There is no need to skip sleep so that you can work some more only to get admitted to the hospital for a month. That won’t make sense.

Create a balance. Set priorities. Choose to take care of your body. Learn to accept what you can’t control. Focus on what matters. That you are here now, matters. And if you’re still alive, you still have time to achieve your goals. Just take it one step at a time.

 

Exercise

Do you find time for exercise? Most people complain that they don’t have enough time to fix a workout schedule.

You need to readjust your priorities. That time you spend on social media every day, you can use to take walks, jog or run or go to the gym.

Exercise energizes you and keeps you healthy. You will be more productive and focused. Actually, that’s the only way to be successful in your work. If you skip exercise, you will be drowsy and tired every day.  You need to make smart decisions today.

What do you eat?

Do you exercise every day?

Are you prioritizing work over healthy eating and exercise?

Don’t sacrifice your body so that you achieve your goals faster. You can achieve all that you wanted but not have enough energy to celebrate it.

Think again. Remember that you can always change jobs, but never your body. You only have one body.

 

If you don’t take care of it, where will you live?

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YOU got this beYOUtiful!!!! ❤

 

Your Dreams are Your Lifeline. Don’t Ever Let Go !!!

“It is not true that people stop pursuing their dreams because they grow old, they grow old because they stop pursuing dreams.” – Gabriel Garcia Marquez.

 

Profound and sadly very true!

 

Think about it for one minute and take inventory of the many little and big dreams that you have piled up in your archives. Be honest with yourself and please try not to take into account the age factor. Let that sink in for a moment.

Now if you have realized any of your dreams or you’re living your dream to capacity or let’s say you are in the process of actualizing any of your dreams, hats off to you. Bravo and well done!!!

And this takes into account raising children, starting and running a business, participating in socially inclined projects, etc. Heck, you could even be a grandparent. Good for you. What about your dream of a sexy and fit body? Have you given up on that?

The truth is when you stop dreaming, a part of you stop living. Likewise, when you stop pursuing your dreams, you’re killing your spirit. And this is your inner power , your strength, the engine that keeps you going.

Believe it or not, this is a reality. Look around you, the world holds a lot of promise and how can you tap into this without dreaming or any imagination? It’s indeed impossible.

As Marquez coined it, and I paraphrase; the hopelessness that comes from not pursuing your dreams will cause you to age without a touch of how you are or what you can do.

Also, it is not only a disservice to you, but you’re in essence denying humanity access to a well of untapped resources.

Bear with me as I share with a few points on why you should keep pursuing your dreams, no matter your age:

 

Your Experiences are Your Paving Stones

You may already know this, but it serves as a good comparison so here goes: mature wine is usually expensive. Because it has passed through the process of aging well with time. Believe me, when I say this applies to the human race. Nothing or no one has the right to take away your experiences. Actually, it is virtually impossible.

Again, it’s  all up to you how you use this trove of treasure. Did you know as you grow older, you become irreplaceable with time? So how about pursuing your dreams, realizing them and adding more value to what’s already there? Still not convinced?

You must be a human being if you’re reading this. And if that is so, you’ve made mistakes, realized success and even tried some things that you put on hold probably to parent our kids or meet demands of your job.

Now is the time you can draw on your past experiences to build the future that you want. Look at this way; you have more time on your hands. And what’s worse than knowing you never attempted to follow your dreams.

No excuses. The worst case scenario is that you might not realize all your dreams but hey, at least you tried.

 

Critics and Naysayers

I stand to be corrected, but my gut feeling is that you’ve met many naysayers and critics in the past. It doesn’t really matter if these are real or imagined, but you did overcome them. Am I right so far?

Nothing has changed: apply the same formula. You can’t run a race by engaging in arguments with the crowd of spectators watching you do your run. No. Because it’s a waste of time, you lose focus, and you’ll most probably lose the race.

Let no opinions and critics stop you from pursuing your dreams. Don’t even dignify them by taking into account their negativity. Keep to your path, pursue your dreams and make sure at the end of it all you can smile and say, “Yes, I did it.”

Don’t let your candle die out with the misery of never knowing what your dreams held.

 

Your Strength Lies in Your mindset.

Let no one determine how far you can go or don’t limit your imagination. As I said earlier, it’s all up to you. You’re the one who has the blueprint of your dreams; it is time to execute them.  Add on to this the fact that there is no age limit on who can dream or pursue a dream. Here is a little secret: dreams have no expiry date not even age can hold them down.

A word of caution: you could be the ONLY enemy to the fruition of your dreams. You’ve come this far in life, climbed many mountains, crossed many seas and tramped through many-a-valley.

Listen, you are the best candidate to carry out your dreams, and this is beyond doubt. No one can live your dream for you neither can anyone kill your dreams unless you let them.

So, your body might not be as strong as it used to be… so what? The minute you’re born you begin to die, and that’s a fact. What you do in between is what matters. Therefore, for as long as there is breathe in you, use every living moment.

Free your mind, then follow where it leads.  And here is something to think about, you could even stun yourself by what you’re still capable of doing.

Even when it looks like everything is headed for the dog house. You have the ability to stop this from happening. Now you’re probably wondering how? Don’t worry, here is something you may not be aware of, there is so much power in encouraging yourself. Only you can do this perfectly. No one else.

The bottom line is it all starts with you. You are the architect of your dreams, so you know the leaks, strengths, gap and pillars of your building. Draw on your inner strength, no matter how bad it looks. Believe you me; it can only get better if you keep at it. Go on, pursue that dream.

In sum, your dreams are such a vital part of your existence. No matter what continue following your dream, it is the best you can do for yourself and for those around.

Furthermore, wouldn’t it be great to leave behind a legacy?

Think about it, those you leave behind will forever remember you. And isn’t that what most of us want?

So stop living like a statistic and pursue those dreams.

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Take Control of Your Life Now!

Imagine yourself in this situation: You struggle with your inner strength and self-confidence so much that you don’t believe in yourself at all. You are a wreck. You try to exercise and even hired a trainer to make sure you do it right, but that doesn’t seem to give you the results you’re looking for. You know for sure that you eat right even though a friend of yours who’s a nutritionist says that you don’t. Of course you know better. You don’t have a big appetite so why should you eat 5 meals a day of just huge salads instead of small packs of fiber crackers?

In the meantime, your emotional life is a mess. You have two men in your life, and somehow you can’t figure out exactly who they are — boyfriends, friends or just ex-boyfriends messing with your mind. You don’t want to make them sad so of course you keep answering their every phone call and of course you keep talking half the night away with them. You obviously can’t not pick up. The one time you tried that the “wonderful” man of your life got pissed off and paid you back by not talking to you for a week…. Oh and then you realize that you completely forgot about an early morning training session you have the next day, and you will feel very weak yet again because you only slept four hours.

All you can think about now are ways to make your life better because it’s so miserable…. You hate yourself for who you are, how you look and how nothing works the way you want it to. You hate yourself even more for the fact that others are always unhappy because you did something wrong! And on top of that, the problem is YOU — not worthy, not happy, not willing to change anything because there is no way to change anything! That’s just the way life is….

DID I offend you now?

Or did this hit you right in the heart because it pointed out exactly where your life is at?

Can you relate?

I honestly don’t mind if you got offended because I think this scenario is seriously messed up, and I am mad that people allow themselves to be in such situations. But what upsets me more is that the system which should be helping people in these situations actually just brings them down even more.

This person goes to counseling and is told that the first man is unstable, the other guy has a messed up past and life is so terrible…. And I ask myself, what is this? Since when did digging into another person’s life and blaming the entire world for someone else’s misery become the real way to help someone who was feeling lost and depressed??? Since when did depression therapy become based on finding others guilty of our own mistakes? And don’t get me started with the methods used to help suicidal people who reach out for help because they want to live a normal life and maybe even have a family in the future. All they are offered is a bottle of pills…. For what? To help them commit suicide as soon as they get home??? Seriously????

This sends a message to depressed people that they are so sad and miserable that the only thing they can do is go to a therapist to cry and whine because the world is not going to change anyway! It is a bad world out there!!! Watch out for yourself! Everyone is doing something to make you depressed!!!

I am being extremely sarcastic about that last part of course….

WHY THE HECK CAN’T YOU SEE THAT THIS HAS TO CHANGE?

The good news is that this can be changed. This seriously can be changed with every second and every minute of your life.

The most important step is to make the decision HERE and NOW that you are 100% committed to change and to admit that you need help! There is no maybe, later, give me a minute, let me think — there can only be I AM FULLY IN THIS RIGHT NOW!!!! In that moment you stop looking at the past behind you and start looking into the bright future right in front of you.

You call those guys and tell them that you need a six-month break or maybe even more. If they respect you, they will be understanding of your need for space in order to do therapy and take time off for yourself.

Next, you contact a life coach and start with simple tasks such as daily affirmations, expressing gratitude, journaling, and letting go of bad emotions by converting them into positive mantras.

You add these tasks to your daily routine and even though you can’t look at yourself in the mirror and confidently say how wonderful you are yet; you keep doing it every day! Change does not happen overnight. It is hard! But I assure you that the moment you can stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself what a great person you are, it will be the biggest breakthrough you will EVER experience in your life (here).

And most importantly, YOU need to understand that your life is a result of small choices YOU are making every day. You are responsible for your life. If your life brought you here, that is ok. Everyone makes mistakes, but there is no mistake that can’t be corrected and used as a weapon to fight against negativity. You have everything you need to convert those mistakes into stronger willpower and dedication to become a better version of yourself. You have the choice to say, ENOUGH! Tell yourself: I want to change my life. In one month or six months or even one year from now, I don’t want to be in the same spot I’m in today!!!

 

For me, it is easy to write this because the transformational power of such choices in my life has been magnificent! And now I am living a life I NEVER imagined living!

Each and every one of you can experience this transformation in a way you will remember forever. Just make the decision NOW!!!

Every day counts…. DO NOT WAIT!!! YOU ARE WORTHY and VALUABLE!

 

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤

 

 

 

 

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One burpee at a time…One step at a time!!! How to Spartan-Up Your Endurance, Strength, and Moves for an Obstacle Challenge in 12 Weeks.

 

You never know exactly what lies ahead in obstacle challenges, but one thing for sure; expect mud pits, giant walls, barbed wires and at times a field of gladiators. The races are usually about 5-20km with 15 or more obstacles.

The terrain is rough and is nothing compared to your regular smooth pavements in the suburbs. But still, nothing gives so much thrill and fun like an obstacle race.

The race will test your endurance, upper and lower body strength speed and agility. If you want to compete with the top athletes, you should consider including these components into your training schedule.

Run a lot

You can’t beat seasoned racers without speed and endurance to run long miles. Ensure that you run frequently 6 or more weeks before the race day. Doing this will prepare you to hack the shorter, intense races.

Over time, you will build endurance. Train on trails and hills so that you’re better prepared to run on the steep hills and harsh terrains filled with mud.

Acquire strength

You need massive strength to swing from bars and rings, climb ropes and lifts heavy objects over a long distance.

Most of the obstacles you will face will test your physical strength. Therefore, incorporate pull-ups, push-ups, body weight squats and planks to your daily routine.

Enhance your athleticism

Nothing makes you win an obstacle race than a combination of core strength and endurance. You can achieve that by being athletic.

Do stretches, mobility drills, crawl under nets, practice climbing over different barriers to coordinate your mobility and enhance your athleticism.

Do full body exercises

Prepare your whole body for the race by focusing on all body parts during workouts. Ensure to involve as many muscles as possible to enhance overall body strength and endurance.

Incorporate exercises like squats, kettle bell, pushups, pull ups and pranks to enhance your moves.

Add fast workouts

Boost your cardiovascular strength by doing quick workouts and sprints. These consistent stops and starts will prepare you for the end of obstacles, so you don’t gasp for air after the intervals.

They will improve your speed and help you complete the obstacles on time. Remember, if you fail an obstacle you will get a burpee penalty and you don’t want that.

Train in a similar way as the race

To be better prepared, train in a similar way as the race.  Run on trails as opposed to pavements. Run hills to build endurance and strength and also do intense workouts.

Also, break your training into intervals because the actual race is broken up with obstacles. You can time yourself when running and do exercises at intervals.

 

The Challenge up Your Body and Mind Program includes race specific training program to make you better prepared for the race.

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