The definition of ‘responsibility’ by Merriam-Webster Dictionary is the quality or state of being responsible and having moral, legal, or mental accountability.
When it comes to the responsibility of others and other things in our lives, we actually know the best how to do that.
However, when it comes to personal responsibility, there is an uncomfortable silence in the crowd. It’s either because people may not know what is that exactly, or – what I found very interesting – they don’t want to take that type of responsibility on.
And this is where the personal responsibility asks for the attention!
So, let’s start from the beginning. What is that personal responsibility, how can you be fully responsible for yourself and how is this going to impact your life?
What is the personal responsibility?
As the name states already, it the responsibility you take for yourself, your attitude, actions, reactions, words and anything you do towards others and yourself.
It is also the responsibility for your emotionality, life experiences, choices, energies, communications, language, boundaries, and self-work.
Sounds like a lot of responsibilities. Right?
And that makes you a loving, kind, compassionate and caring human being.
How can you be fully responsible for yourself and your life?
Being responsible fully for yourself is a daily practice of self-awareness and self-compassion. It requires you to be mindful of your actions, behaviors or emotions in a way that you take full responsibility for anything you commit to do or follow, and anything that comes out of it.
As my mentor, Elizabeth DiAlto, says, “check yourself before you wreck yourself”.
Pay attention to what’s coming up for you personally as you interact with others. Stop, breath in and revisit it before you destroy the party and everyone’s moods including your own.
Don’t project your emotions and energies onto others before you check-in with yourself first. It’s always best to ask rather than assume or read into what people are saying or doing.
If something triggers you, take a moment (or many moments) to be with your own emotions before responding. Being charged usually doesn’t serve good communication.
Be committed to your choices. Be fully aware that those were your own choices and nobody forced them onto you.
As I always say, “it is nobody’s business to make you happy’. Be aware of what makes you happy and what doesn’t and take responsible actions to feel what you want to feel.
Don’t blame the external world for the chaos and storms in your internal world. Rather give yourself space and time to see what are your emotions trying to tell you and how could you work on it with self. Most of the chaos in the outside world we create by not managing our internal chaos.
Create healthy boundaries where you can grow, blossom, nurture yourself and be true and authentic, so that others can benefit from it as well. Boundaries are important for healthy relationships with others and yourself.
How is this going to impact your life?
Oh, big times!!!!
First, the feeling of self-awareness of your needs wants and triggers creates an amazing tool for self-work.
Second, seeing that you are the creator of your life, day by day, gives you back the power you have within.
Third, knowing that your choices, actions, and behaviors impact you the same as others allow you to take care of them with love and compassion.
Fourth, you become the person you truly wanted to be: aware, calm, responsible, compassionate, loving, caring, aligned, light and happy!
PROMPT: How do you take a personal responsibility in your life now?
[The teachings in this blog come from my book “The True Identity” – publishing early 2019]