Attitude is contagious. As strong as you think you are, no one is strong enough to avoid the influence of negativity forever

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.”

Those are the wise words of Winston Churchill.

 

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We must recognize that attitude plays a major role in all aspects of our lives. Attitude influences your decisions and actions, which greatly determine how happy you are in life.

Having a positive attitude makes a huge difference in your life. It will save you from all the heartaches and challenges that come your way.

You can have all the talent in this world, all the money in this world, but with a poor attitude, you will not go very far.

As long as you say, “I can handle this,” you will. But if you go on in life feeling beaten down and powerless and keep saying negative words to yourself like, “I’m too fat, I can never lose weight or get into my dream body,” that is exactly what will happen.

It’s worse when you are surrounded by negative people who constantly bring you down and never see anything positive in your life. Knowing how attitude is contagious, how do you protect yourself from it?

 

Reduce negative networks and stay positive at all times

Often people start negative conversations in conferences when they ignite a discussion. “Oh, the economy is bad,” “This weather is not favourable,” or “The traffic jam is unbearable,” and all that.

Take note when these conversations start and how you react to them.  Be careful about commenting negatively as this will keep the negativity ball rolling.

Positivity creates abundance. If you want to be happy you have to decide to focus on the positive. Don’t be afraid to put in a positive comment. Just find something positive to talk about. Just as a negative attitude is contagious, so is a positive one. You will be surprised how everyone will change their mind-set.

Well, if they don’t change, you can move ahead to the next group. Staying in a negative vibes talk will leave you feeling weary and dragged down. It’s like the saying, “Never wrestle with a pig, you get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it.”

Make a conscious effort to be positive no matter what happens and no matter who you are with.

If you are positive no matter what happens to you in life you’ll have the power to handle anything that life throws at you.

 

Set clear boundaries

How negative can your friends be towards you? As far as you let them. We teach people how to treat us by what we allow, what we stop and what we reinforce. Let your friends know that you cannot tolerate negativity.

Simply set clear boundaries. Tell them that they can either be positive and respectful or you can’t be around them. You will be amazed by the respect that you command when you set these boundaries.

 

Cut links from toxic relationships and spend more time with positive people

We all have experienced toxic relationships which make us feel worse about life and ourselves. It’s draining to be with such people.

When you set boundaries but the toxic people don’t respect them, don’t be afraid to cut links, for your sake.

Have the courage to cut connections with people who make you feel bad about yourself. Such people feel better about themselves by dragging other people down.

Start by minimizing the time that you spend with them and slowly remove them from your life, for your own good!

Reduce the time you spend with negative people and cultivate new relationships with positive people. The more positive people you associate with the less room you’ll have for negative people. Have regular visits with positive people. A jovial person will surely leave your mood brightened up.

Attitude has the power to change everything in your life. From your work to your relationships with others and even yourself. It surely does have a huge influence on your success.  It is empowering and liberating at the same time. Whatever you do, from the books that you read or the music that you listen to and the people you associate with, choose positivity and be ready to cut out anything or anyone who weighs you down with negativity. After all, attitude is contagious and no matter how strong you think you are, no one is strong enough to avoid the influence of negativity forever.

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How to cleanse your soul through negative feelings?

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How to cleanse your soul through negative feelings?

My STRONG PERSONAL replay to the reaction on the post about being DOWN and MAD and SAD and HATEFUL….

 

“Do not think or act in a negative way because you are attracting negative energy”, “Be positive, everyone has problems so suck it up”, “you are beating yourself over it, don’t do that”. These expressions and others, and friends turning their back on you because you have a bad day and feel down so that means you are negative and NOBODY wants to be negative in this negative world on that negative social media timeline where everyone has problems and everyone is negative….

YOU KNOW WHAT? Take that “negative” word and put deep in the pocket and just stop seeing things as negative or positive, black or white!!!

My recent expression of being sad, mad, down and hateful towards myself brought up a lot of different responses from all my friends, dealing with sometimes extremely different life situations. YOU all have total right to feel that way, express yourself and BE YOURSELF.

Those reactions from others made me reflect a bit and now I want to tell you a little bit about it:

Yes, I was sad…. I was mad…. I was down and I was hateful towards myself. And I know I should be spreading love and smiles all day long every day, but THAT MORNING WASN’T FREAKING A GOOD MORNING!!! So what? THOSE WERE MY FEELINGS, and they were OK! I needed to express them out loud! I didn’t want to hold on them! I didn’t want to allow them to create my day, my attitude, my approach to other things which would follow after. And yes, I did want to changed them in a positive way into a positive outcome!!!

I KNEW ALL THESE THINGS!!! But, let me release it, let me be ME, allow to let those feelings go away…….

I am grateful for having those types of feelings, because they allowed me to learn how to recognize them, how to convert them in a positive way to create a great person, a great day and a great environment. I do love myself, I do believe in myself and I did forgive myself for that morning and for that moment of weakness and being down. I was just down!!!!

Hate is a strong word carrying lots of negative energy and I haven’t felt that for a long, long time. I was told by an amazing life coach to always love myself and forgive myself… but that didn’t happen that morning! Those strong emotions were deep inside of my soul…and whoever told me to stop and be kind and that my day will be bad because I am attracting the same emotions to me, was RIGHT…but somehow I couldn’t let go! I kept seeing those feelings as OK and at the same time as bad because “all my day will be bad” … and I didn’t want that….

As soon as I realized that, it popped out in my mind what another very powerful woman once said that negative feeling is OK!!!! OMG, are they really ok?

Yes, they are ok. WE ARE just HUMANS!!! We will have good days and bed days, we will feel happy, but we will also feel crappy. And that is OK!!! You as human being have right to feel bad, too. As soon as you recognize that feeling and you know that you don’t want to hold on them, it’s OK!!! Just do not let them create your world, your day, your attitude towards others and other things. It’s OK!!! I felt mad, and sad, I felt hate…it’s OK!!! I am just human! I forgive myself NOW!!!!

I promised myself that I will work around it and on it, but I will not promise myself it won’t happen again. Because I know negative feelings will happen, and I know those feelings are good, they are good in terms that they are cleaning whatever bad experiences and emotions accumulated in your body, mind, soul and heart. Just express them, let them be, recognize them, embrace them. Know, that they don’t belong to you. They are temporary. Let them sink in, do not fight them! Go back to your meditation, calming down habits and methods. Repeat: I WILL BE OK, I FORGIVE MYSELF!!!

PEOPLE ARE ALLOWED to sometimes be WEAK or make MISTAKES. And people are allowed to be different, it doesn’t make them “wrong” or “weird” …and even so…Yes, I can call myself weird, crazy, emotional, straightforward and to the point… and I can have bad feelings and down moment! That makes me just a better HUMAN because I know how to control them, how to work on them and how to make them work for me!

LESSON LEARNED: DO NOT go to bed with negative thoughts and negative mindset, do not go to face your day with negative thoughts and negative mindset. Take your time to shout out, cry out, calm down, journal, meditate, record your feelings, express your gratitude and self-love!!!

AND I am GRATEFUL for every single friend of mine who see me as perfect and imperfect person and they still love me, respect me, trust me, look up to me, appreciate me and be with me!!!

Its OK Izabelka !!

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Get A Sexy And Fit Body, Increase Your Self-esteem, and Be Courageous Like Never Before!

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It’s almost the end of the year with only about six weeks to the New Year. Have you achieved this year’s resolutions? Was a sexy and fit body among the list?

Have you tried different fitness programs with no visible results? Are you frustrated and have lost hope? Do you want to make a change but don’t know how to go about it?

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Boost your self-esteem

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What we fear the most is what we need to do the most !

You probably know that the greatest enemy of productivity is procrastination. But have you ever thought deeper into the real cause of why we procrastinate? Is it laziness or mediocrity? I tend to believe that it is fear.

Fear is a very strong feeling that is caused by anxiety and anticipation of eminent danger, whether perceived or real. Although it is entirely natural, sometimes our fear is unrealistic and can hamper our achievements, say in public speaking or a job interview. Fear can affect how you enjoy life and can hold you back from doing things that you should do to improve your health or business.

Fear makes what we need to do seem like a daunting task. We fear that what we intend to do will not yield any results. We may call it fear of failure.

Take for instance you have gained weight, and you want to enroll in a fitness program, but you have left fear to halt you in your steps year in year out. You went to the doctor, and your blood sugar or high blood pressure keep soaring, but because fear has overwhelmed you, you have never taken action to get fit. Yet, taking that one step to enroll in a fitness program could save your life and reverse diabetes and hypertension.

What you fear most is actually what you need to do the most to salvage your situation. You could be in an abusive marriage, and you get battered every day. By speaking out, you could save your life. More so ignoring the fear to move out and starting a brand new life could give you renewed hope that life can get better rather than live with the fear of what people will say about your decision and die in the process.

So how do you break this fear? Is it even possible to completely be out of fear?

 

Understand what makes you afraid

What makes you afraid? Get to learn about the real cause of your fear. Identify the patterns and the triggers. You can record and keep a journal so that you understand it better. Doing this you will uncover the underlying problems that are behind your fear so that you can address it.

 

Face you fear and take action

If there’s anything that caps fear is action. If the step that you need to take is helpful and necessary, then take that step without hesitation. Don’t let an opportunity pass you by due to fear. Enroll in the course or program and let the rest follow.

Expose yourself to what you fear. For instance, if you fear to talk in front of a crowd, yet you need that to build your career, by all means, practice even if you have to fake it till you make it.

 

Get help

If your fear has gone overboard and derailed your growth, it is time to seek help from a counselor. Don’t fear to seek help.

Talking therapies and support groups where you meet and share with people who are experiencing the same can be therapeutic. You can also learn from their experiences, challenge each other and be accountable. You will discover that you are not alone as many people struggle with this.

While it’s perfectly normal to experience fear, we can control our attitude to it and still take the right step regardless of the fear. No one is immune to fear. Even musicians get engulfed with stage fright before they hit the stage, but they head out nonetheless.  Don’t let fear stop you from doing what you need to do.

 

Remember, success is on the other side of fear.

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“One person can make a difference and everyone should try”…

“One person can make a difference and everyone should try” John F Kennedy

Don’t tell me the wisdom in these simple words doesn’t stir something in your belly? The charismatic young president who left too soon coined this memorable statement. Even in his death this statements still speaks to the male or female, young or old. It has no expiry date.

Many a time we find ourselves in scenarios that make us feel helpless. Biting thoughts, conflicts within and without. One might ask, “What am I supposed to do?” “This is too big for me” “Will I look foolish if I do this or mention that?” Does this sound familiar? I bet it does. You know what? It’s okay to be overwhelmed by all this. However, the difference is what you do with this thoughts and ideas. When you run John F Kennedy’s statement through your mind, you will realize that you’re a part of a greater whole human race.

As I was thinking about this, my mind wondered through some of the historical figures that made an impact in their countries and the world in general. For instance, John F Kennedy’s concern was about the young people taking up responsibility of service to their countries. Another great mind said “it is better to try and fail than not to have tried at all.”

Below are some lessons that I learnt from Kennedy’s message that you should learn too.

Practice What You Preach

It is easy to let the fear of failure plague our minds. But here is the thing: even great men and women make mistakes. John Kennedy blundered when he minimized the challenges and threats of the Cold War.

On the other hand, he was quick to learn from a failed meeting with the Soviet leader Nikita Khrushchev. He rectified this by using his three C’s: charisma, charm and confidence. What’s more facts reveal that if he hadn’t changed his way of thinking it would’ve lead to bloodshed.

Furthermore, this change in attitude had Kennedy turn another ugly situation, between the Russians and Cuba, into a peaceful compromise. Kennedy practiced what he preached. I don’t know about you but this challenges me to put into practice what I value. I’m re-evaluating the things that could make a difference, for instance taking into consideration the feeling of others towards things and situations.

In a nut-shell I now practice assuming a selfless attitude towards sharing knowledge. I speak out what I know on subjects such as fitness and its importance and help others embrace that as well..

And guess what, I get to be influenced as I also influence others.

Start from somewhere

Believe it or not the hardest part of doing anything is starting out or taking the first little step. You may have had it said, “the end of matter is better than the beginning thereof.” It complements John F Kennedy’s quote on making a difference. It is not the big things that I do that make a difference.

Simple things such as helping an elderly person cross the road. Visiting a children’s home and helping out in one way or other. Putting a smile on a child’s face sometimes has more reward than can be pegged on temporal things. You needn’t take my word for this but there is an inexpressible peace in doing these simple acts. Try it for yourself and see how that goes for you.

The point is …

We all can’t be presidents or be in the limelight. However, if we embrace our positions well we end up affecting positively, the lives of those around us.

Don’t wait for the red carpet to be rolled out in recognition for what you do.

I have learnt along the way the more I give of myself the more I retain.

Confusing? It shouldn’t be.  Try it for yourself then you’ll understand the strength in, “One person can make a difference and everyone should try.”

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Admitting weakness is the strongest thing the human being can express

“The strongest leaders are brave enough to admit weakness.”

Do these words ring a bell?

Most people are afraid to show weakness or vulnerability to others. Leaders are often on the spotlight for never admitting weakness. They fear to lose their authority on their juniors. They fear to lose face or their sense of authority.

Would you reveal your vulnerabilities and blind spots to your juniors or employees? I bet not.

Is admitting weakness wrong? Absolutely not. But it truly takes tremendous effort to admit even a tinge of weakness. After all who wants to seem weak? We all wish to be viewed as strong and to be revered.

Admitting weakness is a sign of real strength, and it is often attractive. Don’t get me wrong. I didn’t say that you should expose your weakness to everyone. Your enemies could use your weakness to smash out your last dash of power. However, to the right people admitting weakness and seeking help could save your life.

Why is admitting weakness a sign of strength?

 

It helps to get rid of perfection and insecurities

Let’s be real for a moment. Do you view yourself as perfect? Do you view others as perfect? Does perfection exist at all? Every person experiences moments when they feel weak or uncertain about what will happen next.

After all no one is perfect. No one has all the answers.

Sometimes we think that people have it all figured out. We walk with our heads down and looking at others with longing eyes and wishing that we were in their place.

Tell you what? If everyone shared what they are going through deep inside their hearts, if they opened up about their insecurities and fears you’d be shocked. No one has it all figured it out. We all have doubts. Most people just have a mechanism either to fake it or control it. But 100% figured it all out, not at all.

You could be suicidal because you feel frustrated by situations in your life. By speaking to a loved one, a family member or a friend you could get help. Most people lose their lives because they fear to admit that they have a problem because they don’t want to be vulnerable.

In sharing weakness, you understand that you don’t need to be perfect. You learn about other people’s weaknesses and problems. As a result, you know that self-doubt is a common issue among the masses and is not excluded to you. You understand that every human being has moments of self-doubt, and that shouldn’t make you feel bad about yourself.

 

It builds trust and respect

Exposing your vulnerability can foster trust in relationships and business. In the absence of trust, no relationship or team can work out.

Employees trust leaders who seem human rather than emotionless perfect and with no fault. Successful teams are built on trust. And without vulnerability trust cannot be built.

Ponder on that for a moment. I bet you have friends. Who do you trust the most? Isn’t it the one you can share your vulnerabilities and little tidbits of weakness that you tend to be close to the most? Sharing weakness strengthens your bond in a very powerful way.

If you want to succeed in your relationships, business and life in general, you have to be willing to set aside your pride and the fear that you’re weak. If you can admit that you are weak, this is the real sign of strength.

When you accept that your weaknesses you gain the respect of those around you. Your juniors will give you respect, without demanding it, because you’ve earned it.

Acknowledge that you don’t have all the answers and that you don’t know everything. You’ll earn respect from your peers, your team and your juniors.

 

Admitting weakness not only makes you strong but it also makes you awesome!

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If you don’t care about your body where will you live?

More often than not we have an imbalance in our priorities list. We choose to focus on the less important things. Work is important, definitely; it pays our bills! But we bury ourselves in work 24/7 every day and neglect what powers us to move and have energy to do our work: our body.

What’s the point of working so hard to get money then use the same investment to pay for hefty medical bills?

The greatest investment we need is to invest in ourselves; body, mind and soul. Our daily lifestyle matters a lot.

 

Healthy eating

You are what you eat. You probably have heard that a million times. It may be cliché, but it’s true. However, most people don’t see the correlation of what we eat to our health.

Let’s delve a little bit. Our body is made up of trillions of cells. The cells need adequate nutrients to be healthy and to multiply. Take for example the flowers in your gardens. Do you water them every day with clean water? Or do you use dirty soapy water used to wash utensils? What would happen if you didn’t water them? What would happen if you grow them in clay soil compared to the regular soil that they grow better on?

Our bodies are no different. We need to eat healthy foods that nurture our cells and avoid highly processed foods that burden our bodies with toxic compounds. Cancer, diabetes, and hypertension are all caused by what we eat. Healthy foods like fruits and vegetables nourish our cells from damage, oxidative stress, and inflammation and prevent diseases.

Always remember that whatever you eat either fights disease or causes disease. If you eat healthily and take care of your body, you won’t need to pop pills to cure simple ailments. You won’t need supplements because our food can provide every nutrient that our body requires. Food is fuel for our body. Can a car move without fuel? Hell no! Just as our body without good food is an imminent danger. You can weather illness with food.

 

Stress and rest

Did you know that stress is the major contributor to lifestyle diseases like heart attack, stroke or hypertension? Doctors say that most people in the hospital are ailing from something deep inside that manifests in the form of illness; stress. Sometimes treatment only covers up the symptoms without addressing the real root of the problem.

Stress worsens our diet habits and our lifestyle choices. Stress lowers your immunity and puts you at risk of diseases. It overworks the body and impairs body functions that would prevent illness. Insulin resistance, inflammation, and hypertension can all be managed when we reduce our stress levels. How do you take care of your body and avoid stress?

While working, only take what you can handle. Learn to balance your work and rest so that the body can be rejuvenated. Take vacations to rest from the stressors in our lives. Have enough sleep every day.

There is no need to skip sleep so that you can work some more only to get admitted to the hospital for a month. That won’t make sense.

Create a balance. Set priorities. Choose to take care of your body. Learn to accept what you can’t control. Focus on what matters. That you are here now, matters. And if you’re still alive, you still have time to achieve your goals. Just take it one step at a time.

 

Exercise

Do you find time for exercise? Most people complain that they don’t have enough time to fix a workout schedule.

You need to readjust your priorities. That time you spend on social media every day, you can use to take walks, jog or run or go to the gym.

Exercise energizes you and keeps you healthy. You will be more productive and focused. Actually, that’s the only way to be successful in your work. If you skip exercise, you will be drowsy and tired every day.  You need to make smart decisions today.

What do you eat?

Do you exercise every day?

Are you prioritizing work over healthy eating and exercise?

Don’t sacrifice your body so that you achieve your goals faster. You can achieve all that you wanted but not have enough energy to celebrate it.

Think again. Remember that you can always change jobs, but never your body. You only have one body.

 

If you don’t take care of it, where will you live?

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Your Dreams are Your Lifeline. Don’t Ever Let Go !!!

“It is not true that people stop pursuing their dreams because they grow old, they grow old because they stop pursuing dreams.” – Gabriel Garcia Marquez.

 

Profound and sadly very true!

 

Think about it for one minute and take inventory of the many little and big dreams that you have piled up in your archives. Be honest with yourself and please try not to take into account the age factor. Let that sink in for a moment.

Now if you have realized any of your dreams or you’re living your dream to capacity or let’s say you are in the process of actualizing any of your dreams, hats off to you. Bravo and well done!!!

And this takes into account raising children, starting and running a business, participating in socially inclined projects, etc. Heck, you could even be a grandparent. Good for you. What about your dream of a sexy and fit body? Have you given up on that?

The truth is when you stop dreaming, a part of you stop living. Likewise, when you stop pursuing your dreams, you’re killing your spirit. And this is your inner power , your strength, the engine that keeps you going.

Believe it or not, this is a reality. Look around you, the world holds a lot of promise and how can you tap into this without dreaming or any imagination? It’s indeed impossible.

As Marquez coined it, and I paraphrase; the hopelessness that comes from not pursuing your dreams will cause you to age without a touch of how you are or what you can do.

Also, it is not only a disservice to you, but you’re in essence denying humanity access to a well of untapped resources.

Bear with me as I share with a few points on why you should keep pursuing your dreams, no matter your age:

 

Your Experiences are Your Paving Stones

You may already know this, but it serves as a good comparison so here goes: mature wine is usually expensive. Because it has passed through the process of aging well with time. Believe me, when I say this applies to the human race. Nothing or no one has the right to take away your experiences. Actually, it is virtually impossible.

Again, it’s  all up to you how you use this trove of treasure. Did you know as you grow older, you become irreplaceable with time? So how about pursuing your dreams, realizing them and adding more value to what’s already there? Still not convinced?

You must be a human being if you’re reading this. And if that is so, you’ve made mistakes, realized success and even tried some things that you put on hold probably to parent our kids or meet demands of your job.

Now is the time you can draw on your past experiences to build the future that you want. Look at this way; you have more time on your hands. And what’s worse than knowing you never attempted to follow your dreams.

No excuses. The worst case scenario is that you might not realize all your dreams but hey, at least you tried.

 

Critics and Naysayers

I stand to be corrected, but my gut feeling is that you’ve met many naysayers and critics in the past. It doesn’t really matter if these are real or imagined, but you did overcome them. Am I right so far?

Nothing has changed: apply the same formula. You can’t run a race by engaging in arguments with the crowd of spectators watching you do your run. No. Because it’s a waste of time, you lose focus, and you’ll most probably lose the race.

Let no opinions and critics stop you from pursuing your dreams. Don’t even dignify them by taking into account their negativity. Keep to your path, pursue your dreams and make sure at the end of it all you can smile and say, “Yes, I did it.”

Don’t let your candle die out with the misery of never knowing what your dreams held.

 

Your Strength Lies in Your mindset.

Let no one determine how far you can go or don’t limit your imagination. As I said earlier, it’s all up to you. You’re the one who has the blueprint of your dreams; it is time to execute them.  Add on to this the fact that there is no age limit on who can dream or pursue a dream. Here is a little secret: dreams have no expiry date not even age can hold them down.

A word of caution: you could be the ONLY enemy to the fruition of your dreams. You’ve come this far in life, climbed many mountains, crossed many seas and tramped through many-a-valley.

Listen, you are the best candidate to carry out your dreams, and this is beyond doubt. No one can live your dream for you neither can anyone kill your dreams unless you let them.

So, your body might not be as strong as it used to be… so what? The minute you’re born you begin to die, and that’s a fact. What you do in between is what matters. Therefore, for as long as there is breathe in you, use every living moment.

Free your mind, then follow where it leads.  And here is something to think about, you could even stun yourself by what you’re still capable of doing.

Even when it looks like everything is headed for the dog house. You have the ability to stop this from happening. Now you’re probably wondering how? Don’t worry, here is something you may not be aware of, there is so much power in encouraging yourself. Only you can do this perfectly. No one else.

The bottom line is it all starts with you. You are the architect of your dreams, so you know the leaks, strengths, gap and pillars of your building. Draw on your inner strength, no matter how bad it looks. Believe you me; it can only get better if you keep at it. Go on, pursue that dream.

In sum, your dreams are such a vital part of your existence. No matter what continue following your dream, it is the best you can do for yourself and for those around.

Furthermore, wouldn’t it be great to leave behind a legacy?

Think about it, those you leave behind will forever remember you. And isn’t that what most of us want?

So stop living like a statistic and pursue those dreams.

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“The Twelve Pillars” by Jim Rohn

I read this book and it change the way I think about success, about personal development and achievements, about helping others, about family, friends and people you are around and about self-love. It is easy read and very powerful!!!

Pillar 1 – Personal Development

Success is all about personal development. Getting paid is not about how hard you work or how many hours you put in, it’s about how valuable you are to the market place. The same company pays different people different wages. To get paid more though, you have to become more valuable. This is done by working harder on yourself than you do on your job. For things to get better in your life you have to get better. This can be done by simply reading one chapter of a good book each day.

Pillar 2 – Total Well-Being

Total well-being is all about “three dimensional health.” The three dimensions are the body (physical), soul (our intellect, emotions, and will) and spirit (part of us that transcends this world). We must take care of ourselves physically each day. We must learn how to take control of our emotions so they work for us and not against us. We must also take care of our spirit which can be done with a short meditation or prayer each day.

Pillar 3 – The Gift of Relationships

Our relationships are one of the most important factors to becoming successful. Our relationships are like a garden. We must cultivate them and make sure to get rid of any weeds that are growing. One of the simple ways to cultivate your relationships is just to spend more time with the most important people in your life. This can be family or friends.

Pillar 4 –  Achieve Your Goals

Success is all about using goals to help you get what you want in life. It’s amazing that 95% of people do not even have goals. The ones that do often keep them in their head like marbles rattling around. You must write your goals down. This simple act of writing down your goals helps program your mind on what it is you want. Note that all top achievers have clear written goals, which they evaluate every month, every 3 or 6 months and every year!

Pillar 5 – The Proper Use of Time

This is all about time management. One of the best things you can do with time management is to know the difference between important tasks and urgent tasks. Most people waste their time on urgent tasks that pop up during the day and then they never get the important tasks done. A good habit to develop is writing down what needs to be done the day before and making sure that your one most important task is done at the beginning of the day.

Pillar 6 – Surround Yourself with the Best People

It is said that you will earn what the five closest people around you earn. You will be as happy as the five closest people around you are. The people you associate with play a big part in what you get in life. You must learn how to associate with the people that already have what you want or who you would like to become like and disassociate from people who are holding you back. You do not have to ignore your friends, but you may have to spend a little less time with them.

Pillar 7 – Be a Life Long Learner

Almost 90% of all millionaires believe in constant and never ending improvement. It is important to create a habit of constant learning. This can be done by simply reading part of a good book each day, taking courses and listening to audio training. The better you get, the easier everything else will become.

Pillar 8 – Life is Sales

Everything in life is sales. Even when we are children we are selling to our parents for everything we want. When we get a job we have to sell ourselves. We are being sold to all the time with TV, radio, books, magazines, internet, billboards, leaflets etc. Sales is one of the most important skills to learn, no matter what you do. This one skill can triple your income in as little as one year.

Pillar 9 – Income Seldom Exceeds Personal Development

You will notice that all houses over $250,000 in value have a personal library. This is not a coincidence. People who read become more valuable and when you are more valuable you get paid more money. Begin building your library. You can start by buying this book.

Pillar 10 – Communication Brings Common Ground of Understanding

Effective communication is the key to building relationships. Remember This: Everything you do in life involves other people. The better you can communicate with people, the better you are going to do. The keys to effective communication is simply listening. The better you can understand other people’s needs, wants and goals, the better you can then find a solution and help them.

Pillar 11 – The World Can Always Use One More Great Leader

Great leaders are made not born. The world needs more leaders. Great leadership is about having a clear vision of what you are trying to achieve and genuinely wanting to improve other people’s lives. “The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.” That’s powerful!

Pillar 12 – Leave a Legacy

Life is short. You can’t choose how long you live, but you can choose how well you live. I hope you found these twelve pillars valuable and they have somehow improved your life. It is now your turn to leave a legacy for someone else you care about.

 

Be the one who designs your life, be the one who is the proof of every word you say, be the one who will be remembered by many after you will be gone. Create the butterfly effect!!!

Enjoy the book!!!

Let me know in comments how did you like the article and what do you think about the book!

 

 

Take Control of Your Life Now!

Imagine yourself in this situation: You struggle with your inner strength and self-confidence so much that you don’t believe in yourself at all. You are a wreck. You try to exercise and even hired a trainer to make sure you do it right, but that doesn’t seem to give you the results you’re looking for. You know for sure that you eat right even though a friend of yours who’s a nutritionist says that you don’t. Of course you know better. You don’t have a big appetite so why should you eat 5 meals a day of just huge salads instead of small packs of fiber crackers?

In the meantime, your emotional life is a mess. You have two men in your life, and somehow you can’t figure out exactly who they are — boyfriends, friends or just ex-boyfriends messing with your mind. You don’t want to make them sad so of course you keep answering their every phone call and of course you keep talking half the night away with them. You obviously can’t not pick up. The one time you tried that the “wonderful” man of your life got pissed off and paid you back by not talking to you for a week…. Oh and then you realize that you completely forgot about an early morning training session you have the next day, and you will feel very weak yet again because you only slept four hours.

All you can think about now are ways to make your life better because it’s so miserable…. You hate yourself for who you are, how you look and how nothing works the way you want it to. You hate yourself even more for the fact that others are always unhappy because you did something wrong! And on top of that, the problem is YOU — not worthy, not happy, not willing to change anything because there is no way to change anything! That’s just the way life is….

DID I offend you now?

Or did this hit you right in the heart because it pointed out exactly where your life is at?

Can you relate?

I honestly don’t mind if you got offended because I think this scenario is seriously messed up, and I am mad that people allow themselves to be in such situations. But what upsets me more is that the system which should be helping people in these situations actually just brings them down even more.

This person goes to counseling and is told that the first man is unstable, the other guy has a messed up past and life is so terrible…. And I ask myself, what is this? Since when did digging into another person’s life and blaming the entire world for someone else’s misery become the real way to help someone who was feeling lost and depressed??? Since when did depression therapy become based on finding others guilty of our own mistakes? And don’t get me started with the methods used to help suicidal people who reach out for help because they want to live a normal life and maybe even have a family in the future. All they are offered is a bottle of pills…. For what? To help them commit suicide as soon as they get home??? Seriously????

This sends a message to depressed people that they are so sad and miserable that the only thing they can do is go to a therapist to cry and whine because the world is not going to change anyway! It is a bad world out there!!! Watch out for yourself! Everyone is doing something to make you depressed!!!

I am being extremely sarcastic about that last part of course….

WHY THE HECK CAN’T YOU SEE THAT THIS HAS TO CHANGE?

The good news is that this can be changed. This seriously can be changed with every second and every minute of your life.

The most important step is to make the decision HERE and NOW that you are 100% committed to change and to admit that you need help! There is no maybe, later, give me a minute, let me think — there can only be I AM FULLY IN THIS RIGHT NOW!!!! In that moment you stop looking at the past behind you and start looking into the bright future right in front of you.

You call those guys and tell them that you need a six-month break or maybe even more. If they respect you, they will be understanding of your need for space in order to do therapy and take time off for yourself.

Next, you contact a life coach and start with simple tasks such as daily affirmations, expressing gratitude, journaling, and letting go of bad emotions by converting them into positive mantras.

You add these tasks to your daily routine and even though you can’t look at yourself in the mirror and confidently say how wonderful you are yet; you keep doing it every day! Change does not happen overnight. It is hard! But I assure you that the moment you can stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself what a great person you are, it will be the biggest breakthrough you will EVER experience in your life (here).

And most importantly, YOU need to understand that your life is a result of small choices YOU are making every day. You are responsible for your life. If your life brought you here, that is ok. Everyone makes mistakes, but there is no mistake that can’t be corrected and used as a weapon to fight against negativity. You have everything you need to convert those mistakes into stronger willpower and dedication to become a better version of yourself. You have the choice to say, ENOUGH! Tell yourself: I want to change my life. In one month or six months or even one year from now, I don’t want to be in the same spot I’m in today!!!

 

For me, it is easy to write this because the transformational power of such choices in my life has been magnificent! And now I am living a life I NEVER imagined living!

Each and every one of you can experience this transformation in a way you will remember forever. Just make the decision NOW!!!

Every day counts…. DO NOT WAIT!!! YOU ARE WORTHY and VALUABLE!

 

I am HERE. I am NOW. I am ME. ❤