Do you feel like an outlier?
Do you feel that the lifestyle you live is different than those of others?
Do you hear that you are weird? Maybe that you are from
Do you feel bad not being accepted by friends and family?
Do you struggle with being social, like everyone else?
Do you feel that you need to be normal to be loved and accepted?
What does normal mean to you?!
Today I have received a picture from my friend. The picture showed myself, with my Masters of Science thesis. Nothing special, yet meaningful. More meaningful to my friend than me.
The picture showed me, in the yellow suit jacket, holding the bright blue covered thesis. Nothing unusual again. However, in 2005, back in Poland, everyone worn black, dark blue or gray suits to the diploma defense, having their thesis covered in similar colors. Those were the colors of elegancy, respect, and professionalism.
Yet, that girl, who came from other side of the country, with a huge smile on her face, broke all the rules. How dare she do that!
My friend said: “I remember you always with the huge smile on your face, never changing, always there. The brave girl, who I respected and looked up to so much. She was breaking all rules out there. For the first time in my life, being in your company showed me that it is ok to be different, to be outlier, and not follow the crowds and rules”.
I had no clue that I made such an impact on her that time.
She knew that being normal is what everyone needs to follow. She didn’t want to break rules because she was afraid of being rejected. Being different meant to not have friends at the college. She, like everyone of you, wanted to be loved and accepted.
Yet, few years later, she realized that being like everyone else is not being truly yourself.
- Who are you trying to be?
- Who do you truly want to be?
- Are there discrepancies in both of those responses?
If yes, there has to be a shift within you, which will tell you the truth. You will know where the truth for yourself is.
The truth is that everyone of YOU want to be yourself. We all want to be loved, accepted, wanted, respected and needed as our true selves.
Yet, we put masks, hide who we are, and pretend who we are not. Then we are surprised that still we are not loved and accepted.
Raise your hand:
- Would you like to hang out with a fake friend?
- Would you like to marry a fake man?
Be true to yourself.
There is no other way to the heart of many but through being yourself.
You got this beYOUtiful! ❤
P.S. Izabela is an author of the forthcoming “TRUE IDENTITY” book [Summer 2018] teaching you how to rediscover, uncover and express your true self!!